In our case, it is actually initiated by my wife. She became very horny at her age of 45. She led me to frequent discussions of swinging, which was my 'hobby" many years ago when I was in my 30's. Then, in one day, during our intercourse, she asked me when will I "really arrange a man for her for fuck with?", and, after that, everything began, the box of Pandora was opened.
I, after 3 years, finally have managed learning to handle a swinger wife, and, in an open marriage. Sometimes I will be a little bit proud with all this. Sometimes I feel I am still somewhat confused. I am not sure if I would have become a swinger if my queen did not ask me to.
That why I came to this site and wish to hear more from other swinger couples.