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  • Birthday 12/01/1985

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    So. Cal
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    Government/Medical
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    11 years

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  1. Totally agree! Our local club has been falling to enforce dress code for guys and that's a bummer. The sad thing is some of these guys I've seen show up in dad jeans, random company screen printed t-shirt, and dirty sneakers have beautiful women who have taken the time to dress up for their night out.
  2. @Chicup, That is true, However; in the OP's case it sounds like her SO is a little self conscious about it. Perhaps he feels that announcing it is a turn off to others and will get him and his lady shut down before they get a fair chance at meeting a couple. I believe OP meant well when she decided to disclose that detail about her BF and it wouldn't be a big deal except in this case OP assumed she was saving him from embarrassment and that sort of assumption may be enough to trigger a defensive response over a topic one is already preoccupied with. In my case, I honestly never thought it was an important enough detail to need to be up on our profile; it had never even came across my mind in relation to swinging. It doesn't bother me and although my wife prefers uncut, it isn't a big enough deal to her either. As far as your thought about omitting details that turn someone off; I think a profile of any sort will highlight positive details and attributes of the individual or couple. If someone considers foreskin to be something they are ashamed of or a turn off to others I can see why they would actively avoid mentioning such a detail in their profile especially if the site's application doesn't directly ask about circumcision.
  3. Ehhhhhh... I'm uncut and I must admit I had been self conscious about it at one point in time but it's no longer anything I worry about. I don't think I need to disclose it in our profile because it doesn't change who I am and it's a natural part of my body, it's not an STD or anything. If I come across a profile that states they only want cut guys then I know not to contact them and all is good but having to put something on my profile that doesn't impose any potential threat to a partner seems as silly as having a woman post that they have a large labia or something, it's not a big deal... If someone has a preference against it they can inquire beforehand or otherwise state their preference IMO.
  4. The parts that bothers me are the husband watching from a distance and the unnecessary "story." Husband watching as a stranger seems creepy to me. If the wife is wearing a ring the wife could easily explain or inform the guy that her husband gives her certain liberties and she enjoys meeting new people. The wife could use that same opportunity to set limits for what is allowed and what she's expecting. Guys may be out looking to get laid but it doesn't happen every time they're out and they are well aware of the fact. If it were me; I'd imagine I'd rather spend an evening flirting with a sexy lady knowing that's as far as it will go than drinking alone trying to find one to take home.
  5. L'arginine is also available over the counter at most nutrition stores and I'm many energy drinks. We used to love the NO Xplode igniter shots, unfortunately we haven't seen them in stores anymore. Just the powder, and it isn't as effective :-/
  6. I've had some "herbal" stuff that has worked well in ensuring a faster recovery and throbbing erections but it comes with buck-nasty headaches. It doesn't delay ejaculation so drilling hasn't been an issue. I've only used it with my wife though, never experienced it in a swing situation.
  7. I read it and got a similar feeling. The thing is it seemed to me like he was in the know about the couple's "extra curricular" activities and his wife wasn't. It seemed like he had a fantasy in mind and hoped that associating with that couple would have led to his fantasy playing out and he was not only ok with that possibility but he wanted it until he couldn't perform. I was annoyed when he tried to paint the other couple as predatory and himself and his wife as victims. He didn't have the balls to ask his wife to stop. Instead he cried and the other woman had to stop her husband. I felt a little bad for him but I felt like he put himself in that situation. He set himself up for failure. Unfortunately a lot of people have seen that post and will associate that with "typical swinging." I wish we could hear the other couple's side of the story
  8. Respect goes a LONG way. We experienced a very kind and respectful guy recently, he was someone who I would have never imagined based on looks alone that my wife would be into but his vibe was great (he wasn't ugly or anything, just nowhere near her "type"). He didn't even make a move on my wife we just came to him, we could tell he was interested because he was definitely looking at her all night and in our interactions was very attentive but we were the aggressors (if you know what I mean, lol) on the same night we had a full swap go down I'm flames because the other husband wasn't showing respect. Instant buzz kill, game over.
  9. This is kind of what we expect will be our M.O. She is still very nervous and needs to ease into things so building a friendship as a basis for action is something that will help her let loose a little. We're not into hit it and bounce type of interactions. Although we know that not all interactions will lead to a full fledged friendship we expect to have a connection before the clothes hits the floor. Then again we are total noobs so this may change in the future, doubt it though.
  10. Good times man, congratulations and good luck on future adventures!
  11. Welcome Lilyan, You've been given invaluable advice that will give you the best possible results... Talk to your wife and LISTEN to what she has to say about the topic. Sometimes when we want something as bad as it sounds that you want this we get caught up in tunnel vision and that extreme focus on making it happen figuratively blinds us to all other possibilities or outcomes... In this case you are caught up in what you want but you need your wife to be on board before it can happen. New advice? Take action on the first advice that was given to you and don't pressure your wife... You may "get" her to do something but if she feels like she has been forced to do it; it's gonna be a bad time. My wife and I had talked about doing something for years but it was just talk and I enjoyed just taking her mind there from time to time. It's been at least 5 years since we first brought it up and we just recently went to a swingers club for the first time. She doesn't care for other men or full swap and I'm ok with going at her pace... I get my pleasure from her having absolute pleasure. I wish you good luck!
  12. We are a 27 year old couple and we agree with Michellebelle in that it all depends on the people. You can just as easily find people in their 40's who have issues and are immature.
  13. One little thing about uploading pics directly from your phone. If you don't want people to know where you are make sure to have "geo-tagging" off.
  14. I agree with Maui. You are worth holding out for what you want, I'd suggest that you do that and although the wait may be longer you will enjoy it more when your needs are met.
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