AlohaCouple

A couple of weeks ago we were invited to a swinger party that was not far from our home. We were both excited and very nervous about attending. The contemplation of the event was intense. We spent a lot of time reading about etiquette for the parties to be as informed as possible and not offend or ruin our chance of a second invitation. In the end the experience was not nearly as "scary" as we first thought it would be. The host were very gracious when we arrived and introduced us to many of the other guest. We tend to be a more timid couple and not the most social. Since we don't drink uncle Jack in not helping calm nerves to calm nerves. After introductions we found an open spot on the couch and sat down next to another couple and struck up a conversation. Then the pole dancing started. The owners of the house had a 12 ft pole installed right in the living room. With the music playing the hostess of the party started off the night with a little pole dance and a lap dance for a birthday boy. It was announced to everyone the time had come to get the "real party" started. Most of the ladies went to the bedrooms change into something a little more comfortable. One of the girls just stood up and striped down. She said "no need waste time going to the room". The couple hosting, has the house absolutely set up for swing parties, they had removed one wall of the house to make a stage that went out to a swimming pool and hot tub. The experienced couples got busy right away on the stage. I must say it was a great show! One of the guys had a monster cock and was pounding his girl, we could not tell if she was in pain or pleasure. Very cool to watch. My wife and I enjoyed the show and eventually went over to the couch and we started getting a little frisky. She went down on me and gave one of the best blow jobs ever. There is something erotic about getting your cock sucked while 30 plus people are roaming around. Overall it was a great time and we will be finding more parties to go to!

Thanks for a great thread. Generally when I have seen topics like this is degenerates into an internet shouting mess. My wife and I have toyed with the ideas of swinging for a very long time, but have never went further than meeting some couples for dinner and some chatting. I guess the reason we have never went further is we hit the wall of conflict when it comes to this exact topic. Both my wife and I are born again Christians that are active in church. As you can imagine reconciling our wants and desire with the bible has proven to be a very difficult task. For myself, I have realized that my thoughts and sexual ambitions are who I am and no matter how hard I try I cannot just shut them off, unless I am prepared for some serious "mental" anguish. As for my wife, she is more able to "turn off" her feelings and desires than I am. My wife was raised in a strong Pentecostal church and was taught that sex was only something that a husband and wife did to have children and other than that sex was bad. Her parents even glued the pages of the encyclopedia that had anatomy pictures in it. As a young lady my wife knew that she liked woman as much as guys and she would have masturbation sessions with other neighborhood girls. Or course her church life was contradictory to these actions. So in turn she suppressed her feelings and this in my opinion set my wife up for a very conflicted sexual life. For years I did not know this about my wife, but then I realized when we watched porn together she seemed to be much more aroused during the FF scenes. Finally I asked her if she liked watching the ladies and she said yes. From there she was much more open about her past and her bisexual tendencies. For me I grew up in a "loose" catholic home. When I say loose, I mean non practicing for the most part. I did not have a very strong religious background. We would just attend church one the big days like Christmas and Easter. As most boys I chased the pussy, but was not very successful, so the Playboy, Hustler, and a cable tv descrambler became my friends. My parents were generally open about sex and did not make a big deal of it. As an adult I can appreciate parents being a little more open about anatomy and sex overall I think it is better for the kids. During the time my wife and I date,d (9years) we talked about her bisexuality and swinging a lot. We sought out other couples for swinging, met with some and things just never went to the next level. Fast forward to age 31.... I became a born again believer and my wife rededicated herself to Christ. I thought at first, I would be able to put away those desires and I did for 6 months to a year. Eventually, after making myself absolutely miserable I came to realize I am who I am and no matter how much I prayed and ask God to help me overcome these "sin full" thoughts, they were still there. My wife on the other hand, shut her self down sexually. We went from a strong sexual relationship to maybe sex every six weeks. She said on more than one occasions "christian ladies don't do those things", referring to even monogamous sex. I believe this was a reflection to her parents indoctrination of sex if bad and sin full unless you are having children out of the intercourse.This manifested itself into a bad situation effective our marriage in a very negative way. I will be honest this went on for about 5 years and I was MISERABLE! Many nights I laid in bed and cried myself to sleep because of her sexual rejection. She just literally shut down. Almost no interest in sex at all. I would try to “get the ball rolling in bed” only to have my had pushed away. That was a tough period in life for me. Of course thoughts of infidelity were almost constant because I was not getting satisfied at home. I am sure some would look bad at me because of the thoughts of infidelity but I am just being honest. I would assume almost any guy that is not being taken care of at home will eventually have those thoughts or actions. About two years ago I ran across a website called christiannymphos.com, after reading the site thoroughly. I took a chance and showed her the site and she began to read it. It was a huge help for her. She started opening up again after 5 years. She soon realized that sex is not a bad thing and the marriage bed is undefiled. In the last two years were have started talking about women she likes, we have a virtual laundry list of church ladies she would like to be with. She is still scared of upsetting God by having sex with a woman or with another man. So we have never went any further. Things are much better now days but the Bible and church still occasionally take it toll on our sex lives. That is our story, thanks for reading and maybe that will be a help to someone.