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InsatiableRed

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About InsatiableRed

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 06/18/1976

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  • Relationship Status
    Single Female
  • Location
    Fairfield, OH
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. Coming from past experience in this area, I would recommend that if you are not at all feeling comfortable with this to NOT do it!! Please do not give in to the pressure that he may be putting on you because he finds her attractive or thinks it would be hot. If there is ANY hesitation on your end do not do this. My ex husband was interested in my best friend during the time we were married. He then wanted a POLY relationship and he developed feelings for my best friend. Therefore, they both are no longer in my life. I had similar feelings as you and was very hesitant when he brought it up but I fell into the pressure of everyone around me. He was very pushy about his feelings and would continue to flirt and make me uncomfortable when I would say the things that bothered me. I eventually let things go their course because of all the pressure and I at the time had other things in my life to deal with that were more important. Although every situation is different, if you are not feeling in any way comfortable just be honest with him and tell him. You can find a single woman to join you without it being your friend. InsatiableRed
  2. This person is not only giving out information that is true. If you read my post you would see that this individual is also telling people that I have STD's (and has contacted my boyfriend to advise him of this) and has told people that I have slept with all of the brothers in my ex-husbands family which again is false. One of them recently got married, came back from their honeymoon to find a message that I had slept with him which I have never done and never would as he is literally like a brother to me. As I have stated before, I am okay with putting out there that I was in the LS because quite frankly I feel a HUGE weight has been lifted off of my shoulders that now people know and I do not have to hide that part of me anymore. What is bothering me, and what I feel to be harrassment is contacting people this person does not know and giving out false information, trying to ruin my relationships and my image by saying I have STD's. This person is very pshyco at this point and I am afraid who else they will turn around and contact. This just needs to end. I thank everyone for the advise. I will start with the law enforcement and see what I can do there without having to get an attorney just yet because I do not have the money for one as of yet. I will keep everyone posted on the situation. InsatiableRed
  3. Hello everyone! I want to start off by saying I am not new to the board. I have had to change my information to hide my identity due to the issues I am about to list. I have been active on the board for many years and over the past few months, someone has nothing better to do with their time than to stalk, harrass and try to ruin my reputation. Here is the story.. I have always kept my private life private. I have never shared with anyone details of my sex life or have I shared details about those whom I have been involved with while in the lifestyle. However, someone (and I cannot for 100% say it is this person yet) has sent out emails to family, to friends and to my boyfriend stating that I am a swinger (has posted links that I have posted on here in the past to those emails), has told them that I have slept with over 100 men, that I have given them an STD (which I am clean), that I have slept with all my brother in laws. They have went as far as to create an email account in a very close friend of mines name as well as copying a profile name listed on the board and using it to send out emails also. Because these emails have went out to family (and some that I do not get along with) I have had to sit my children down (who are teenagers) and explain to them my sexual past. I have had to tell them that we had been active in the swinging lifestyle and that I am bisexual. This was the hardest conversation with my kids that I have had to have yet. And I am pleased to say that they took the information very well and have not judged me. I am blessed with great kids!!! My boyfriend has already known about my past so it was no suprise to him. I have had to sit friends down and share the same information for fear they would get emails and I would rather them hear from me than a stranger they do not know. And so far, everyone has been supportive. My friend and I are currently in the works of tracing the emails that have been sent out and are hoping to find out who it is that sent them out so that I can press charges. My problem is this.. I have been on medication for depression since the loss of a close family member last year and some other things in my life that have went down hill. This drama, these rumors are affecting me emotionally. There are times where I am at my lowest of lows because every day or so, more information is told and someone new has received an email. Although everyone has been supportive, I feel like I am letting my family down, that I am disappointing those around me and that after all the people I have already lost in my life over the past year, that I am about to lose more because some will not be understanding of this and I am afraid I will fall back into another deep depression. I do not understand why people have to do this. My life is private for a reason. I have kept everything to myself because I do not want anyone to know. Granted, I feel a weight has been lifted telling those around me what I have been hiding. But my biggest obstacle is yet to come. I am faced with the decision to tell my parents for fear that this person will contact them and I do not want them to find out like that. I would rather them hear it from me. I take pride in the fact that I have beat this person to their game but yet they are continuing to make my life difficult. I hate that it has come to this. I hate that my life has been put out there for everyone around me to know. I am not in the least bit embarrassed of who I am. I am proud of the person I have become and have said if people do not like me, then they can no longer be a part of my life. My ex husband and his girlfriend, are lucky in this situation for now because the information is not being shared to their family that they are the reason we are no longer together because he wanted a Poly relationship. But yet, I am the one that is being bashed, lies being told, etc. The only true statements is that I am a swinger and that I am bisexual. The rest is rumors and those are the things that are bothering me. This person does not know the entire truth about my situation and why my exhusband and I split. But to put accusations out there and to act like they know and tell others is very disturbing. On top of it all, this persons husband can be very violent and I am worried that my safety or the safety of others involved is at risk. If anyone has a similar experience or has some really good advise for me I would really appreciate it. I really wish that I could reveal my identity from the past so some of you would know who this is but I have to keep things low key for now till the air is clear..Thoughts?? Suggestions?? Advise??? I am desperate here!! InsatiableRed
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