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  1. Personally, I just don't worry about it. I'm 52 years old. I've been in the gangbang lifestyle since I was 17, and never use condoms. I've absorbed on the average 10 ejaculations every weekend for 35 years. A typical ejaculation discharges about 6 mL of semen. So my body has absorbed 35 X 52 X 10 X 6 = 110 liters (roughly 30 gallons) of semen. Aside from contracting Herpes when I was 16 (which I got from a monogamous boyfriend), I never caught anything. So, as I said, I just don't worry about it. I enjoy bareback intercourse, and I enjoy my life. And don't give me the trite "it's just a matter of time", because 35 years proves otherwise.
  2. Shy: At least from my point of view, the sleaze is part of the excitement. The whole reason a woman would (maybe I should just speak for myself) go to an adult theater is for the extremely desperate penis. If you're thing is to be watched an adult theater is not the best venue. It's very dark and you can't really get undressed, and the guys don't see anything anyway. Go to a swingers club on a singles night where it's more lit up and the guys aren't as desperate to cum. For me (and many) the adult theater environment is all about cum. It's all about the sexually weak using your body to gratify themselves. It's a fetish that's not for every woman, but for those who enjoy it, there is nothing better than the adult theater. It's dark, it's sleazy, and it's loaded with exactly that kind of cock.
  3. In Jersey City there is something called a "blackout hunt" that we went to about 10 years ago. It's a gangbang that takes place in a large cavernous room, usually the basement of a commercial building, with a catacomb built in it. It's pitch black darkness, so dark you can only navigate through by feel. Strewn throughout the catacomb are cots and beanbag chairs. A small number of women (6-8) and a large number of men (30) are let in the catacomb naked, and the men literally hunt the women down in complete darkness. People (both men and women) do things in the dark they wouldn't dare do when anyone can see them. And there is a strong element of anxiety, like the kind of anxiety you feel on a rollercoaster. A fun kind of tension. It is incredibly intense. I was at one about 10 years ago and I always wanted to go to another, but never found one. Here in Toronto there is a sex club that has a "dark room", but it's nothing like the blackout hunt.
  4. Totally inside. I HATE condoms. Worst thing that ever happened to sex. And on this subject, what I hate even more than condoms is the hypocrisy surrounding their use. Swingers (especially swinger men) profess openly how adamant they are about condom use. They openly criticize anyone who even so much as hints a preference for bareback, they call barebackers “stupid”, “dangerous”, “ignorant”, and a variety of other words I’m sure you’ve all heard (and probably used). But … get them away from their wife and they ALL go in bareback if the woman takes it that way. At swinger parties when the guys notice that I’m taking it bareback, they wait for their wives to get occupied in another room, then make a bee line for me. And these are the same guys that pontificated and lectured about the “stupidity” and “recklessness” of bareback. I never actually tell anyone not to use a condom. If a man reaches for one, I never tell him not to. But I never have to. During the “approach” to intercourse I’ll simply put slide bare cock between my labia. If his wife is right there he will back up and reach for the condom with an annunciation like “oh … just let me get a condom” like a B actor trying to make sure the last row hears his only line in the play. But if his wife is out of eyeshot, those hips push forward and that cock is in the guts bare. And this is by far the general rule – rarely is there any exception. Hypocrites!
  5. Well, Alura, I don't think I should get into the gory details, but answering your question in a clinical tone - I was 9 when I was introduced to sex, and it was by a grown man on whom I had a huge crush. That "affair" lasted three months. It ended when we almost got caught. After that I continued growing up seemingly normally and unaffected by it ... until I hit puberty at around age 11. I became obsessed with what happened two years earlier, and I developed an obsessive hatred for the man I once adored enough to allow him to gratify himself with me over and over and over. Anyway, when I was 11 I sexually abused a mentally challenged neighbor (another grown man), developed a penchant for mutilating myself with pins, and at age 15 was finally diagnosed with OCD and hypersexuality. Anyway, that's when I got interested in psychology, so something good came out of it. There isn't a day that goes by when I'm not affected by my childhood. And I'm actually happy for it. I have something in my adult life that gives me an excitement that few "normal" women will ever feel.
  6. "Activation barrier"? Are women governed by the Arrhenius equation?
  7. Hippie - You're right when you say not everything has a psychological basis that needs to be analyzed ... but this sounds like a case where it does. The reason I say this comes from her own descriptions. She says having cum in her mouth is "demeaning". Specifically that word. Not "unpleasant", "distasteful", or "disgusting", but "demeaning". That's a very telling word. She also says she "likes sucking cock". Putting these two statements together indicates a deep rooted psychological issue. It may not be something serious, debilitating, or in need of addressing, but I find it interesting to think about why people are the way they are. And ... there may be other sexual issues linked to the same root that, if addressed, may increase the enjoyment of many areas of her sex life.
  8. Somewhere in her past (early past) she was conditioned to believe a blowjob is a form of abuse. As a result she never focused on the subtle kicks that a woman gets from doing it. She has to learn this, and she has to learn it in such a way so as to not reinforce the fatuous notion that there's "nothing in it for the girl". However, she can't learn that from YOU, because you have already polluted her with the notion that it's all for you (just look how your own posts reads). The best way for her to recondition herself is to completely depersonalize the penis from the man ... and the best way to do that is through a gloryhole. What she needs to focus on is HER perception of the MAN'S premonitory sensation. That's the "point of no return" feeling that a guys gets just before he cums. Women’s brains are constructed to sense this and get a HUGE thrill from it. The sensation is usually felt in the vagina (that’s actually the basis for simultaneous orgasm), but it can also be felt in the mouth … IF she’s not distracted by superfluous thoughts of “abuse” or “demeaning”. And gloryholes are great for this for another reason … the type of man on the other side of the wall is usually the type that can’t withstand prolonged stimulation without orgasm. So she won’t have to put in a lot of investment to get the reward. Anyway, that’s my advice.
  9. SwingSet - To answer your questions, where I live there are several couples friendly adult theaters in reach. The best is a place called Video Liquidators in Buffalo. They have two separate theaters across the hall from each other. One room is couples only (single men aren’t allowed), the other room is the gangbang theater. On a typical Saturday night there’s about 10 couples in the couples theater and about 60 men in the gangbang room waiting for a woman to cross the hall and venture in. The theater makes most of its income from the single men, so they do everything they can to cater to the “action” that goes on. The projector lamp is turned way down so it’s almost pitch black in that room. You can see outlines and sense the depth of the crowd, but you can’t detail faces. Most of what’s done is done by feel. Since there’s no beds or anything to lay down in, the guys have to fuck standing up. So in the back they have a wide open area with a low rail perfect in height for a woman to bend over, and the first row of seats beyond the rail are at just the right distance to reach out and brace your arms against. This was deliberately designed for quick, furious, “standing doggie” fucks. My husband and I go together, but for different reasons. My husband enjoys the couples room and I want the gangbang room. So we go back and forth between the two rooms. And that’s fine with me because you can’t really stay in the GB room more than about 20 minutes at a time. It’s just too much intensity. Even if they only take 3 pumps to cum, there’s enough of them to last all night. And new ones keep coming in all night long. So we go to the GB room in spurts, and spend larger period “cooling down” in the couples room. We’re usually there from about 9 PM to 1 AM, during which I will go to the GB room maybe 4 times. Your second question – I do bareback. I fully understand the risks involved, and I accept them in the same way that everyone accepts risk in the name of recreation. Sky divers, race car drivers, white water rafters, rock climbers, all risk life and limb for what excites them. My “cumslut fetish” is an essential part of my life. It was instilled in me as a child, and I can’t enjoy life without indulging it. And bareback is a huge part of how I indulge it. I can tell you that most women who have this fetish will do it bareback, however, if your wife wants to play safe, then you MUST enforce respect for that. In the dark and in the confusion of the crowd, guys will constantly be trying to penetrate her bare. Let me give you some advice for your wife. These guys aren’t Joe Stud. If she’s expecting to get fucked silly by stallions that last 10 minutes, forget it. This is desperately horny cock that’s only out for itself. Putting one of these cocks in a pussy is like sticking a finger down your throat. How long can you hold back puking with a finger down your throat? This is the “sense” she will get when one of these cocks penetrates her. From the second it goes in, you can feel the cock struggling to hold back from vomiting … a battle it loses very quickly and very powerfully. And the guy feels this too. So they don’t fuck like Joe Stud. They’ll put it in, pump a couple times, then all of a sudden stop – like a deer in the headlights, and fight like hell to hang on. Usually they’ll cum as soon as they try to pump again, then they’ll just keep pumping to get it all out. This type of thing is not for everyone. In fact, most women will find the actual physical action to be weak. But for women with the so-called “cumslut fetish” it is exciting beyond words. What turns women off the most is getting mobbed. This WILL happen if she allows her frontside to be approached. She must position herself so that the men cannot surround her or she’ll be like the middle sardine in the can, and this will take away all the fun. It’s very dark and all the guys have their cocks out and their hands on every square inch of exposed skin. My advice – don’t try to do it in missionary position. The only way to fuck in missionary position is to recline back in a seat with her legs either up in the air or stretched out in front … and in this position she’s very vulnerable to being mobbed. I ONLY take it from behind me. I bring a little pillow with me, bend over the rail, stretch my arms to the seat backs beyond the rail, and bury my face in the pillow. In this posture the men have no access to my frontside. No blowjobs, no breasts, etc. They can only touch what they can reach from behind me, and the only cum shot they get is by putting it in my butt or pussy (or by accident while waiting for their turn) … and they can only do that one at a time. She’ll find having space in front of her to take away all the claustrophobia, but YOU will have to enforce her condom rule (if she has one). Another suggestion – you mentioned “double penetration”. If she wants anal, prelube her there. When she wants an anal penetration she need only re-position her backside to allow the cock to slide upwards, then she can push back so it goes in the rectum. The guy will think he’s in her pussy, but who the fuck cares what they think. Feel free to ask me any questions you want. And let me know how it works out for her.
  10. Take her to an adult theater. They are loaded with extremely horny straight men, so in need that they are willing to suspend aversion and accept a quickie blowjob from the gay cruisers. But when a woman walks in, they go completely nuts ... and it's very intensely exciting. I was addicted the very first time I did it, and your wife will be too. Just tell her to check her inhibitions at the door and enjoy the ride. It only lasts about 20 minutes cause those guys are instantaneous cummers (usually right on first penetration ... or even before it goes in), but there are 30 of them, so it's 20 minutes of the best part of sex non-stop.
  11. You're going to "rethink" the lifestyle because of that? If that's all it takes for you to have second thoughts, then maybe it's never been for you in the first place. If only 66% of men in the porn industry have herpes, then they're doing pretty well ... since nearly 100% of the human population carry the HSV virus. And no, she can't get AIDS from rubbing, nor from a brief insertion. Herpes is transferred by skin contact, so yes, she can get herpes. But not from the pre-cum. As for bareback ... that's the best sex ever. Condoms remove the texture and subtleties of the penis, and I find it to be like fucking a cardboard dick with a condom. Bottom line, if you're worried about germs, swinging is not for you. I've been taking it front and back door bareback for 40 years and I never caught anything (I did get Herpes when I was 15, but I got one single outbreak and it never came back).
  12. I really don’t understand why some couples think a male orgasm (or quest thereof) is creepy unless it comes from an “ordained” male. There are many ways a woman can get thrilled from sex. One is purely physical. For one-dimensional couples the muscular black stud who can fuck for an hour without cumming is perfect. But for some of us, the physical pleasure pales in comparison to the psychological/emotional fireworks. The sleaze of desperation is exciting. I don’t find it creepy at all. The insanely horny wormy guy with a thousand insecurities who jerks off on your leg thinking you’re unaware of it targets a rape fantasy that can be a huge kick for some women. And places like the back room of a swingers club or a dark corner of an adult theater provide safe, secure environments for a woman to indulge her rape fantasy. The feeling of falling is fun and exciting … if done on a rollercoaster. But no one would find it fun to jump off a building. The same principle holds for rape fantasies. A “creep” (to use your vernacular) who steals an orgasm by sneaking a quick poke up the back of your skirt while you’re busy in a swingers clutch, or who jerks off of your butt cheek while you’re distracted with something else, is REAL rape … and it is thrilling for a woman with a rape fetish because it’s real … and safe when done in the right environment. If you’re a woman who gets off on this type of thing, there are numerous venues for your outlet. A swingers club on singles night is one, albeit one of the most tame. However, if you need Don Juan in order to not feel creeped out, go on couples only night … or look on Craigslist for one. Don’t go to a place that’s designed for “cumslut fetishes” or “rape fetishes”, and then complain that the guys were too horny for you. But I’m glad I’m me because such “creeps” are a dime a dozen … and they really get me off. In fact, with all this talk of such things, I think I’ll go to the Sunday night gangbang tonight.
  13. Slevin, the only gloryhole left in Toronto is at the Swingshift theater in Richmond Hill.
  14. When I first started in the anonymous gangbang scene, everyone was bareback. Those were the days before HIV. When HIV hit, we all went to condoms … and something huge was lost. Women are evolved to feel a special little (actually not so little) thrill when a penis ejaculates inside her. The vagina has special texture sensors in the lining specifically designed to detect the subtle changes in hardness, bloating, and texture of the head and shaft of the penis in the few seconds before ejaculation (the so-called “point of no return” when the man feels that he is GOING to cum). Condoms remove those sensations. But the thought of a fatal disease overwhelmed our need to feel that. The result was dulled sensations, men losing erections while fucking, and ejaculations that take longer to get there and are weaker for the men. The real culprit wasn’t HIV, but the condom companies. They would give free condoms to “save sex” advocate groups in exchange for hyping the threat. It was soon discovered that the odds of contracting HIV from one episode of unprotected sex is one in 300, and that’s for the female taking an entire ejaculation in the vagina. For the male it’s more like 1 in 500. When you combine these probabilities with the probability of someone at the gangbang being infected (0.5%), the chances of getting HIV are 1 in 60,000. Finally, when the protease inhibitors were discovered, the risk dropped to near zero. Still, my husband and I were concerned. My sexual mainstay is adult theater sex, where I will take upwards of 25-30 vaginal ejaculations and I want them all bare, but not at the risk of dying. We mulled around the numbers. The probability of getting killed in a car accident on the way to the adult theater is 10 times higher. The probability of contracting hepatitis from making out with a stranger at a bar is 100 times higher. Still, we brought 24 condoms with us on each trip to the adult theater, and usually ran out of condoms before the crowd all were satisfied. Just to show you how “dead” the condoms make it, it normally takes about 40 minutes to finish off a crowd of 30 men at an adult theater. With the condoms it took over an hour to do 24 of them … and I couldn’t feel any of the ejaculations – a huge part of my thrill. Our caution ended abruptly in the early 90s at an adult theater called the Barbwire in Toronto. This theater had two rooms separated by a wall with a gloryhole behind the screens. A woman can fuck through the gloryhole while simultaneously blowing someone else in her room, or getting felt up by 20 hands. It was a great venue for hole fucking because you can bend way forward with your butt up against the wall, and the guys in your room will hold you still. That night the first cock to come through the hole was throbbing. That kind of erection so solid that it does a little bounce with each heartbeat. The head was bloated purple, and there was a stream of precum hanging off the tip. I did NOT want to put a condom on this. I looked at my husband and he just nodded. That cock exploded as soon as it went in me, and that huge thrill hit me for the first time in almost 10 years. When the guys in my room saw I took it bareback up the vagina, the room emptied. They were not running away … they were running to the other side of the wall. And that was it. Never slapped another condom on another cock again. Swingers are very vindictive. I have been called “evil”, “stupid”, “foolish”, “slimy”, and a whole bunch of other names I won’t repeat because of my love of bareback. But I’m 52, I’ve been doing bareback at gangbangs and adult theaters since age 17, and I’m still alive, still healthy … and I’m happy. That’s hardly “stupid”.
  15. Slevin, I guess what my point is is that the fetish IS the sleaze, the type of men, the feel of desperation, and the sketchy atmosphere. When virtually anyone thinks of a porn theater, that's what they imagine. So "adult theater sex" implies that image. The fetish IS that image. Seems what you're looking for is not an adult theater, but something else. You may be describing a fetish that needs a home, but from what you DON'T want, the adult theater is not that home. In Toronto there is a gangbang that takes place every Sunday night in the basement of a pub. It's dark, somewhat dingy, and there are couches and mats strewn around. On a typical Sunday night there are maybe 10 women and 50 guys. Perhaps that's the kind of venue you seek.
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