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Melpomeana

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About Melpomeana

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 01/04/1984

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    M. Female
  • Location
    FL
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    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. I'm brand new to this forum. My husband and I are happily married. We got married very young; he didn't have much sexual experience and I had none. We have a very satisfying sex life; we have sex almost every day and it's always been good. Porn, sex toys, S&M, role play and semi-public sex (movie theaters, mall dressing rooms, etc...places where we could get caught but didn't) have always been a big part of our sex life. We're very open about sex and it's always been a wonderful and fulfilling part of our relationship. It was an area I never worried about. Three months ago...completely out of the blue...my husband told me that he's obsessed with the idea of having sex with other women and he no longer wants to be monogamous. I was shocked and scared to death by this admission. I didn't handle it very well and started to become paranoid that he would cheat on me. Anger and resentment occurred on both our parts. I love him, though, and desperately want him (and us!) to be happy. We recently found ourselves in a situation (completely unexpected) with a couple that wanted to swap. I thought the whole situation was sketchy and felt very uncomfortable. I asked him if we could leave and he immediately agreed. Later, though, he became angry. He feels that I get to make all the rules and his desires aren't being considered. I feel that he's becoming resentful about my reluctance/hesitancy. After a lot of thought, I believe I could be comfortable having a threesome with another woman as long as we didn't know her and he didn't have intercourse with her. My feelings may change later but this seems like a safe place to start. How do I explain to him how I feel without making him feel resentful of my "guidelines"? I'm very scared about the whole situation. What if I feel jealous about watching him with another woman? What if he likes her better or is more satisfied with her than he is with me? What if we do something as a couple once and I don't want to do it again? What if we do something as a couple and he starts cheating on me behind my back? Please help. I feel very lost right now.
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