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MrMrsSmith

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  1. Them's fightin' words... But seriously, I get your point. We do not look down, but there is a sense of "feeling sorry for" Point taken
  2. What we were referring to here is that society places certain expectations on us. You're right, we are not shackled per se, but those societal expectations can create mental handcuffs. The lifestyle isn't exactly the norm and so society rejects it, even if not overtly. As another example, they are the same mental handcuffs that can cause a gay person to stay in the closet for twenty years. I would argue that when that person finally breaks free from those handcuffs and comes out of the closet it must be a liberating experience. This is the liberation that we were referring to. Coupleerotic22, again thanks for the comments!
  3. First off, thanks for the reply. We love getting different perspective. Let me add some clarification... Please do not misunderstand. Like we said, we are not knocking them, to each their own. We have wonderful, fun and exciting sexual experiences and we just wish that they knew what they were missing and could experience more of the fantastic things that sex has to offer. We were wondering if couples in the lifestyle had a similar sentiment toward their vanilla acquaintances.
  4. We are back with a two-part question. We like to consider ourselves a sexually liberated couple. We are kinky, adventurous, horny, really open minded and have an arsenal of sex toys. Yep, we're just a couple of good ol' pervs . Anyway, we have acquaintances that are married and only have sex like once a week, or less - we get the impression its actually scheduled. Furthermore, they have never owned a sex toy ! Apparently, the Mr. won't have it. We are not talking, conservative, holier than thou types either. They are actually swing from the chandelier party animals. In addition to these friends, we know other people that are just as sexually challenged. They don't watch porn, and by all accounts keep it strictly missionary. They get uncomfortable at the mere mention of sex. First off, we are not knocking anyone here. We know that not everyone is as perverted as we are, but we actually feel bad for some people - if they only knew how good sex can be. It's awesome to fuck your wife silly with a 10in vibrator . I'm nowhere near that big, but I know my wife likes it and I don't feel the least bit insecure about it. Hell, most of the time we have so many gadgets and wires in us, on us and attached to us that we pick up cable. We fuck almost daily, and love it! We wish everyone felt the same way about sex as a couple as we do. We wish everyone was as liberated and adventurous. So, here are our questions: First - do you view the vanilla world the same way that we view some of the friends that we have just mentioned? Second - do you find the swinging experience in and of itself to be sexually liberating? When you started swinging did you feel more sexually liberated. Did you feel emancipated from the societal values and mores that are inflicted upon us from birth, and if so, do you now view the rest of the world differently?
  5. Yes she does know and we are communicating. Communication after the fact will be huge, thanks for the advice!
  6. That's a good idea. LOL, my wife's sexuality turns me on so much that if I didn't get jealous I would either have to A) stop the massage and ask the guy to leave while I fuck my wife or B) stop the massage and ask the guy to help me fuck my wife. I think she would be getting fucked either way... Sorry to be so crude and use the F word, but that's just how I feel. I love my wife and I like to make love to her, but she turns me on so much that often I just want to fuck her, you know?
  7. Yes, my wife does know how I feel and she shares similar fantasies and she has already started reading the forum. Perhaps now would be a good time to tell you all a bit more about how we have arrived at this point. Again, I have always had MFM fantasies for the sake of giving her the ultimate sexual pleasure, but I never mentioned them. A few years ago, I do not remember how the subject came up (maybe I asked, but I certainly did not have any MFM intentions at the time), she did indicate that she had a MFM fantasy. Her feeling was something like "well yeah, doesn't every women." She had no intention of making it happen either - it was just a fantasy. Just knowing that she fantasized about it fueled our sex and my masturbation (I travel a lot) for a long time. Then, maybe two years or so ago we started simulating DP with vibrators. It was the best sex that either of us had ever experienced. I realized at this point that I wanted the fantasy to be a reality, but I still didn't mention it. Flash forward to several months ago. I am not sure why it took so long, but I told her that I want MFM to become a reality, not just a fantasy. She said she was on board - in theory, but did have some reservations (moral implications, marital sanctity, anxiety, etc). We both agreed that we needed to proceed cautiously and communicate thoroughly. At this point our sex life exploded. Just the thought that she wanted it to be a reality was such a turn on. Flash forward to several weeks ago. After a bit of a lull in the swinging discussions we started to talk more in depth and started exploring more of the details. Our sex life went to over drive, again. I then told her that I would like more than just MFM. I want MFM, MFMM, MFMMM, FMF, MFMF and any other permutation of F's and M's that you could imagine. She is not sure how she feels about additional women. Like me, she is concerned with what she will feel at the moment when it happens. Flash forward to now. We continue to talk about the lifestyle. We actually plan to attend an event in Sept. Although, I am not so sure we will dip our toes in the water at that time - maybe. I can tell you this though. I think that we have agreed that if and when we do, we will probably start with a really soft swap - probably waist up, same room sort of thing. Thanks again
  8. I have another question for everyone. Again, for those who have not read our other posts we are not yet swingers, but we are taking our time and putting serious thought into joining the lifestyle. I am sure that everyone has had the experience of wanting something really bad only to be disappointed once you received it. Maybe it wasn't quite what you thought or, better yet, maybe it was exactly what you thought, but perhaps you didn't really know what you wanted to begin with. Before I ask the question I need to share a little about how I feel about my wife in order to set the proper context, and before I do that let me just preface everything with the simple fact that I love my wife for infinite non-carnal reasons. She is an extremely sexual person. She knows exactly how to please me and she knows exactly how to please herself - and she is not afraid to. She has a great libido, she is orgasmicly gifted and is sexually adventurous. We are 34 and have been together for our entire adult life and I cannot possibly express how much she still turns me on. My blood has already started to rush just typing this out. I have always had the fantasy of having an MFM with my wife and another guy. I want the two of us to give her so much sexual pleasure that she can barely take it. We have simulated DP with vibrators and its great, but a vibrator does not provide an extra set of hands to fondle and explore, an extra mouth to kiss, lick, suck, bite and nibble, an extra set of arms to pick her up, etc, etc - you get the point. Furthermore, I want to be one of three or four guys gang-banging her into sexual bliss. I get off so much from my wife's sexual pleasure. Another fantasy of mine is just simply watching her get pounded by a well endowed man. I am average sized, maybe 6in x 5in, and I have no trouble pleasing her, but watching her get plowed would be incredible. I know she would enjoy it. For that matter, the thought of her ravaging another man is amazing - I'm talking about her just really putting it on him like he's never had before. So, now for the question - Has anyone ever had these types of fantasies about their SO, but when it really happened you were troubled by what you saw only to be filled with regret and remorse? These are my fantasies, but how do I know I won't freak out if I see it in real life? Not everyone is cut out for swinging for many different reasons, but how do I know whether or not this thing in particular is what eliminates us from the lifestyle? I can't imagine it being the case since the thought of it turns me on so much, but after reading this forum for a while I have come across one or two posts with this situation. Thanks and sorry for being so long
  9. So, let me ask everyone this - What are some of the other non-physical delights that you take in swinging? Thanks for all the great responses everyone!
  10. So, I have been lurking on swingersboard for a few weeks. My wife and I are considering trying the lifestyle. We are still trying to wrap our heads around everything, but more on that later in another post. I have a question for the established married swinger couples out there. Do you and your spouse (jointly) think of swinging as "our little secret" - let me explain? Do you know how when you have known someone for a really long time and the two of you are really close you tend to have private jokes, or secrets that no one else knows or gets? I think that having those things that just the two of you get kind of make a relationship that much more special in a way. Do you and your spouse think of swinging in this regard? When you are in the day to day vanilla world, is it a special little secret between the two of you that makes your relationship that much more special? Don't read too far into this. I am not grasping at straws, we are not in a bad marriage that we are trying to make better. We love each other, have a great sex life and a great marriage. We are just trying to understand the dynamic that exists within a swinger marriage.
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