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Pretty Blue Eye

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About Pretty Blue Eye

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  • Birthday 12/24/1963

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    Female Half of Couple
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    Maryland
  1. How about Father Figure by George Michaels?
  2. I would suggest using antibacterial hand gel between partners during play. For example, If a woman has a symptomless yeast infection (either early in the infection and she doesn't yet have symptoms, or she has treated her yeast infection and experiences no symptoms) and is fingered by someone who then fingers someone else, a yeast infection can be transferred from one woman to another. Also, another consideration, frequent yeast infections can be caused by certain medical conditions, such as diabetes or immune system disorders. If you experience frequent yeast infections, please consult your physician, and request testing.
  3. There are many more details to this situation. Unfortunately, I'm not really comfortable discussing them in a public forum. If there is someone willing to talk to me on the phone about all of this, please PM me and I will send you my phone number. Thank you.
  4. Thanks for all the great advice. My boyfriend is one of those rare men who finds something beautiful about every woman. So there will rarely be a woman he's not interested in playing with. And, one of our very few swinging rules is we always play together. He says he doesn't want me to feel pressured, or to take one for the team. But I do feel he hopes I'll change my mind and want to play with them. That's where a lot of the pressure I feel is coming from.
  5. My boyfriend and I are fairly new swingers. Started about 6 months ago, and have had a few encounters. We've had 3 MFM's, been with 3 couples and on New Year's Eve, attended our first party. When we arrived, there were 2 other couples, 2 single men, and a single woman who came with another couple. The single woman was quite young (22) and feeling overwhelmed. She decided she wanted to leave. The couple she came with decided to leave with her and take her home. So that left the hosting couple, my boyfriend and I, and the 2 single men. I decided, to stay and have a good time. My boyfriend was very pleased that I didn't want to leave. We played and had a good time. I found out there is something better than being the center of attention of 2 men. being the center of attention of 3 men. We also played with the host couple. Again, we had a good time. She is bi-sexual. I would call myself bi-curious. I do not find myself attracted to her. Her SO, has ED and does not enjoy giving oral sex. I'm not attracted to him either. But the 4 of us played together and had a good time. So far, no problems, right? They like us very much and want to become regular play partners. My boyfriend, in his enthusiasm, readily agreed. We have since talked about that. He agrees we need to talk about things together before he commits us to anything. I have explained to him my position. I feel like there's not much in this situation for me. I'm not interested in playing with her. And he doesn't do oral and has ED. We are looking for friends in the lifestyle. They want to be friends too. But they also want to be friends that play. My boyfriend would be fine with that too, except he now knows how I feel about it. I'm ok with friends. I just don't want to play with them. I would like to attend parties they host. I would be ok with some play at the parties with other people to also play with. So here's the situation. My boyfriend and the other couple want to play. I'm the hold up. I'm interested in being friends with them, but not playing. They called last night, wanting to get together as a "four-some" sometime this weekend. I said we could just hang out, play cards, I'd make them dinner, and see where it goes. I'm feeling very pressured to play with them because I know that's what everyone except me wants. How do I tell them I don't want to play, just be friends, without hurting their feelings? Sorry this was so long. Thank you to everyone for reading and sharing your wisdom.
  6. We use disposable underpads that we buy at Wal-Mart. They're made for people with incontinence. When we have sex, we slide one under my bottom. When we're done, we just throw it away. Our bed stays clean and dry. They are very inexpensive. Hope this helps.
  7. Hi. My BF and I are still new to all of this. We started swinging in July of this year. Given our very limited experience, we made a very important discovery for us. Even though we have enjoyed our encounters with others very much. We have found that the best sex we will ever have is just with each other. So, we had to ask ourselves; What do we get out of sex with others that makes it worth continuing in the lifestyle. Well, we get to act out fantasies that are impossible with just the two of us and our encounters add fuel to our own sex lives. I hope this perspective alleviates some of your concerns.
  8. Don't give up. Hang in there. Patience and persistence will pay off. -R
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