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IrishCouple

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About IrishCouple

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  • Birthday 02/26/1980

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    Arizona
  1. HAHA.... very good. It seems I'm not alone in these thoughts then! Good. We are chatting with a great couple around our ages and things are going very well even though she describes as 'very bi' and despite my thoughts and nervous feelings about that. I had a conversation with her yesterday that allayed a lot of my fears about it. She said she regards it ALL as the main event, that she loves girlplay (which she said was like foreplay to her) AND loves the rougher approach of a guy, and hopefully - if all is as she says it is - we'll have a lot of fun together. At first it was very focused on my wife, as that was the initial draw I think. But yesterday the conversations allowed me to see that she's really into the idea of being with both of us... and we'll see if I'm right. I'll be sure to give an update when/if something eventually happens! Meantime thanks for the replies everybody... a fun topic. (And of course my 'pain-in-the-butt overstating' is just a good way to start a discussion, I don't really mean it literally; as Chicup memorably said, that would be MALE bisexuality. ;-) )
  2. I absolutely get what you've all been saying. But my expectations are the least interesting part of this; after all, isn't it true that desires are desires, whether you expect their fulfillment or not? And neither is 'equality'; I never had the idea that anything had to be equal (although that is what most people in the lifestyle desire, isn't it?, that everyone will go away having shared an equally satisfying experience). But maybe I'm reading this bi-thing wrong. (And of course I should reiterate that I don't dislike it at all.... it's an interesting side-fantasy of ours.) Maybe Mrs. CXXC represents the norm more accurately: she doesn't seem to 'prefer' the girls more, she desires to play with both. I don't mind any arrangement... so long as the reason the woman of a playcouple wants to play with me is because she's into it in itself, not as a necessary prerequisite for playing with my wife! :-) So, maybe I should stop seeing red flags for myself when I see "VERY BI" in a profile?
  3. Hi all. Consider this, bi-ladies: you want to swing with your husband so that you can experience the bi-side of your sexuality while still married. Yet your husband wants to experience another woman. But, if the other woman is like you, she's looking for you, not your husband. What this creates is the absolute last thing I expected in the lifestyle: a deficit of couples to swap with equally! It's the first thing you think swinging involves, right? Partner-swapping. Not so, friends. Out of profiles on SLS and elsewhere which interest us, 90 percent of the females are bisexual, and, when you delve more deeply, the majority of those are looking for girls to play with OR couples (the implication being, 'We'll take the guy too as a means to our bisexual ends'). How tragic! That in a lifestyle known primarily for equal swaps, some partners are more equal than others! I don't want to be the sideshow. I don't want to be the afterthought. I don't want to be 'allowed' to enter into play when the main course is winding down. I don't want to be invited as a way to get to my wife. I don't want to be endured; I want to be enjoyed. What do other couples here think about this? Bi-females, I love you, but do you think you'd be as happy in my position? It must be nice being desired so much: the guys want you, the girls want you. But would you really be as excited about swinging if you were desired the least? And don't even get me started about the kinds of one-on-one conversations that are permitted between females that would never be tolerated for a single second between the female of a playcouple and me. Is it as common as I make it out to be? Is this exploration of the bi-side more common among younger couples, or is it evenly distributed? People talk about the 'unicorn'; the elusive single bi-female. But what's really elusive is the straight swap couple. Bi-curious; great. Bi-sexual; wonderful. But while it's fun to see your wife desired and admired by both male and female, it's not as much fun as being equally desired by your opposite. It's a pain in the butt. :-) (Discuss.)
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