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  1. Sounds like the usual. A bag about the size shown in the link along with 4-5 different toy's (different strokes for different folks!) 2-3 different small boxes of condoms, feminine wipes, maybe some "nothing" lingere for walking about the play zones and of course some room for 2 bottles of our favorite liquor. What we are looking for is not feminine hygine wipes but a gentle disenfecting wipe that can be used on toys with little to no risk of odor or adverse reactions. When the party get's hopping no one is going to be wanting to run to the closest rest room and hand wash the toy's with hand soap. A quick wipe down and dry...maybe whiping the toy around and ready for the next joy ride would be nice when the group get's large.
  2. As others have stated I will testify to the fact...we all seem to be in a club, the stories are all the same. Years ago the wife felt like she had to pee, it was really intense and it caught her by surprise and I said go ahead just do it since we were not in bed. She stated that she has had that feeling in the past and always got up to go pee, most of the time she could not. Then one day she felt it again, I asked her did it feel good the last time and she did not respond with words...she just squirted again and again and again. It felt like a vise grip was locking on to my member and it was coming out all around. The next night I tried exploring with my fingers and tongue found the spot and was DRENCHED!! Funny part about it was that if I continued making her cum she continued squirting every time, eventually I tried pulling my fingers out a few moments before and just continue with clitoral stimulation and what I saw was shock and awe. It was not a pee stream it was a gush but the gush was not just all over her but shot past my head, over my shoulder and I felt it hit beyond my feet and I am 6' tall!! Now she squirts all the time. Sometimes we forget to place chuck pads next to the bed and we go too far too quick but most of the time we drop a towel on the bed, we place a chuck down then another large towel, the bed is a tempurpedic with a special mattress cover wich reminds us of a condom so it's safe. To those females out there who do squirt...my hat off to you. It seems as if we are at your mercy and enjoying every moment of it. I know for the Mrs. that the day she started squirting was the day she started enjoying sex to the fullest. It's rare that she does not squirt now and she is actually curious if we can make other women do it, mostly if I can do it to other women or if it's just something between us. I don't know if I want that answer to be known honestly though...But I would not mind if the Mrs. got curious and tried making other women squirt...you know what they say who knows a woman better than another woman!
  3. Tia very interesting....Here is an opposite view from the Man's side, one that many may find odd. Wife and I have been together for years almost 20 years and not too expirienced on her side when we got together. I loved BJ's of course but she did not, she would do it for me on occasion for short periods of time but she made it seem like so much work I eventually just dropped the subject. She would never swallow at all. Fast forward almost 12 or so years...well the BJ's are fun now for her..guess what ?! I can really care less After so long of having to ask to have it done, sometimes begg I just gave up. She would on some occasions offer but still I got the feeling that it was just work for her so I never got into it. Of course my brain downstairs loved/loves it but my heart was not into it. So now she is into it but you know my brain is not, I love it and some women may think this is a handy talent I think it's a curse! Some women love to blow and I am the man for them since they can blow for HOURS and HOURS but I will NOT cum!!! It's like a tool, if they want to play for hours it's there, I won't blow and won't go soft either even though I WANT to cum I just can't. The thought I guess for years my wife not wanting it and running to the sink just killed it for me and now she WANT'S me to cum in her mouth but I can't!!! So...now we are into swinging and I have not had the chance to receive oral from a woman. We have not talked about it yet but we will very soon, this is a good topic. What happens if after years of trying I blow in a few minutes with ANOTHER woman?? Personally I think my brain is trained that she does not like it so HE won't blow in her mouth..even though she SAYS she want's it now. What happens if some other woman blows me that honestly likes it and I blow in no time, will she get pissed ? Good reason for seperate rooms...I'd hate to do that to her and if I don't blow well it's cool we can continue in the same room but if I do well...I guess I got to a) not do it b) make sure she is OK with it and BELIEVE IT! As far as anal...at the start it was a "one way street" then YEARS later occasionally in some positions with PLENTY of lube. Now it's quite often in many positions, DP's with a toy sometimes and cumming will be so intense it's like a firehose for her, usually more intense than vaginal. I love giving it and she loves getting it when in the mood BUT we have decided that it's our little something to keep. We will talk about it and not deny but off limits for others. Now if the girl's want to do some stimulation with toys we have decided that will be OK and the guy's can do the stimulation but no personal intercourse that way unless it's with our own spouses. We have learned that anal is not bad it's the way people go about it the first few times that gives it a bad rep. Done properly I think most women would enjoy it but it's all technique, mindset and the ability of the female to relax, tension really does make it all tighter and almost impossible to enjoy.
  4. Actually it's "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" but you did bring up something that I had LONG forgotten. Yes I like Al's verison MUCH better.
  5. As the original poster stated we too have the same problem and 99% of the time it's on SLS. We are free members there and paid on an other site, we are real and we post face pics on our paid site but no face pics on SLS. Sorry but way too many spammers and pic trolls on there, and as far as AFF...is that site really real? Why are we not paid on SLS ? well why should we pay to just have people troll for our pictures. The paid site is a bit tougher to join since it's verified and has private galleries where we have face pics. We don't get as many people there asking to see "xxx" as we do on SLS. We have plenty of pics on the public gallery to give people an idea of our style and body type but no faces. Anyone can join with any name or location on AFF, SLS or here, our name here is different than at other web sites. We open our private gallery only to people we are interested in meeting and after the meet if they are real and we stay in touch we keep it open to them, otherwise there is no need and it is closed. Pics are updated regularly and sometimes are a bit more risque' than in times past. We really feel there is no need for people to get the "milk for free" not that we are COW's LOL but you know the old saying!
  6. Yes VERY well put! That's the way we see it. Sometimes there is a bit more attraction to physical looks than personality, sometimes more personality than physical looks. BUT either way balance places us in that comfort zone, it is not one thing or another but BALANCE that allows us to take it to the next level . Now heck some day there may be a wild party going on at the club and nothing will be known at all and it will still be good but it's all about the "comfort zone".
  7. Nope..we don't include FWB in the profile. We do state that we would like to meet and see if everything clicks but that's about it and quite common in profiles. We expect honesty so we offer honesty but we are not going to leave something out just to attract more people. Actually now that you mention it maybe it's unfair that we DON'T put that in our profile. Our profile is ever changing just like our thoughts on the lifestyle is and we update it regularly. At one time we really mentioned friends and compatability a lot and after careful thought we started leaning away from it. Our desire priority changed a bit and so did our profile. We still would like to have close friends in the lifestyle but it's not our first want on the list of must have. We are leaning more towards humor and personality and compatability/friendship towards the middle.
  8. Interesting post, somewhat along the lines of something we had posted a month or so ago and we got some interesting replies. What we have found over the past 6-8 months in the lifestyle is that it's ended up quite different than we had thought when we first got into it. We wanted FWB..we would chat a bit by e-mail, maybe talk on the phone a few times trade photos and see if it was a match. Well it ended up that this was a fast track to a dead end. Most people were not interested in that and if we wanted to screen first and see if we were compatable as friends nothing else would ever come of it. We see nothing wrong with finding friends that we can BBQ with, freinds with other children so they understand what it's like to have more responsibilities than normal and who would not mind going out and having fun as a group once in awhile to make up for those weekends that we just can't find a sitter to have ADULT FUN! Friends that we can go out with in public that are not going to spill the beans by deciding to swap and swap kisses with the apparent "other half" right in front of everyone. And someone we can call up and say let's go to the club and get nasty or hey screw the club let's go have some dinner and get a room for the night. Or where the guy's can go for an afternoon of shooting while the girls go get their nails done, heck or off shooting on their own and then we can get together later for fun if we have time. Apparently not too many people feel the same way (at least around these parts) so we have had to rethink everything out. If we find them so be it..they will be special, in the meantime we make sure they are at least educated enough to carry on a conversation, somewhat attractive, and real. We are tired of weeding though fakes..real people get extra points even if they are not as attractive as we would have liked them to be To us it's either changing our criteria a bit or just not bothering at all with the lifestyle. Good luck...
  9. LOL!! Well thanks for the well wishes! What do they say "Denial is not just a river in Egypt" ?? Like I have said before, I think you are all right to varying degrees. We will see it's all marketing, just like in sales but here you are selling yourself in some ways. We have expiremented with our profile and have seen interest both increase and decrease. Just like the profile some things may need tweaking so we will keep an open mind to everything in the future and see how things work out. Also no this is not our first time but it's the first time we have tried in years and prior expirience HAD been with friends first FWB later and I guess that is what she was looking for since it worked so well the last time. I am cool with everything (except guy guy stuff!) and very honest and open minded. The wife and I just have to talk a little bit more and either agree or disagree, she has read this thread and also appreciates all the input. It's all up to her now...I think it's time to decide be a bit more forward and just let it all out without shyness or re-think the whole thing and back out fully. We have met a few people that are not fakes, some interested us and some did not. Problem is I agree, if we keep meeting people and not acting quickly I think we will be drying up the "pool" of couples available to us.
  10. That sounds like a great idea and I really appreciate the offer, it's very nice of you to take such and interest. The next time we "go through the motions" I will bring in a play by play update. The spit or swallow comment was fully "just for impact" I would never talk like that unless told that it's what she/they like. Heck I may joke about it with the wife from time to time but never even in dirty talk. Personally my "weapon of choice" is double talk, it seems to work well when in one on one dealings. I find the demeaning talk a turn off, we even have one "couple" (I sometimes wonder) that talk about taping bitches and such. Would love to see their/his success rate! What I can say the way you took the spit or swallow is the way we took "Hi my name is...my wife really likes the looks of yours will your wife do me just as hard too?" I am very far from a prude..I'll talk to anyone very point blank about sex even if we just met but for an opening line after seeing in the profile we are not full swap and she has no interest in penetration sex from another man I found it to be a bit more forward than acceptable. I had just seen that e-mail and it kind of made me laugh and feel like "what a fool". We may have even "done them" but with an attitude like that she replied "Thanks but no thanks". As far as intent..no never any pre-meditated intent with any of the meets. These were just let's have dinner or drinks so we can meet in person and get to know each other. No phone/text/internet sex prior to the dates just hey here are some pics of us send us yours, nothing real graphic either, sexy tease lingere shots and some boobage. We try to get off the internet/phone thing as quickly as possible now. Hate the connotation of "wasting our time" but it's true...we have seen so many people that have taken our time and taken us nowhere..not even a meet and greet that we would rather just pass and stay at home or go somewhere alone. Too much effort to plan something or get our hopes up high just for a let down from endless leading or fake photos. Way we look at it pictures lie..I know I am a photographer and can make most anyone look good. No hopes or expectations till' we meet, if we meet and we like it and like the conversation then we will plan.
  11. LiLo I can see you practice what you preach just from your e-mail. We have noticed many things you have mentioned and you have hit it on the head quite well. Yes Wifee does participate quite a bit after the initial contact that I usually make and our e-mail address goes to both of our PDA's so we often take turns responding to messages. Initially she is VERY shy but after a meet or two she opens up, complements are not a problem for her, she knows howto dish it out. Some will call that flirting but none of the physical flirting (hair/rubbing/grope) even though we are more huggs and quick kiss goodbye type of people, even if we don't know them that well. We have shocked on some occasions "vanilla" friends on some occasions since that's the way we just normally are. Positive we are..the only weakness I can tell is the sexual conversation topics. They do come up from time to time but not always or just the only thing. I am working with her to come out of her shell a bit more on that SOONER, it's an issue between working with her and pushing her which I am not going to do so I walk the line carefully. It's not an issue but it is if others are expecting to get a response to "Hi my name is Nick do you spit or swallow". If that's what it really takes to "score" maybe we are barking up the wrong tree. I am one of the most open people in the world, if a woman asks me ANY question I'll answer without blinking an eye but it's not about me...it's about her. She want's to explore and have different kinds of fun but if it's going to become that much of an effort you lose the fun aspect and I know personally I'd rather not explore if it's not fun. Now that I think about it and see it in writing it's not so much the sex part that needs some work but the shyness part. The swinging part of the formula is a non issue, it's more of a trust in people thing I guess and that comes with practice and time.
  12. I agree, we got our first one this past weekend. Along with "hey will your wife do me too". Sounded more like some kid...We moved on. First time we had someone say something like that on a 2nd e-mail when the profile says we are not full swap. That's the easy stuff to deal with..but like this all started the others who SEEM real and just never meet up when given a lot of opportunity, that's the root problem and I guess not a problem since it seems common.
  13. Yes I got to agree first hand on that. Not that when I say chat I say forever even our profile says "we are not looking for internet sex buddies". That is not what we are looking for but we do want to make a bit of contact so it's not a red flag NO. We have had several instances already with couples just dragging it on and on. Makes you wonder if they are real or just in for the "excitement" and nothing else. Sure people do have responsibilities and with parenthood and work sometimes it's tough to schedule a meet between their conflicts and ours and we take that into account. We will do a few e-mails but after that we back off and try to schedule a meet, if after 2 weeks we can't do it then we move on. After trying too much it's just not fun anymore...
  14. Great posts...thanks everyone I'll try to reply to all of them if my memory holds up, not necessarly in order though. Yes looking for like minded couples but if we were not open and interested we would not consider it "like minded" so I would not say we are in that classification, we would play but we are still searching and I will say up front even though we do not plan to play on the first date it COULD happen but we are open minded..depends on the person or couple we never say NEVER BUT on the other hand we are not the wham bam thank you mam/sir type either. We have more time now due to the fact we got some monkey's off our back in the form of real estate investments and building our home. No the children are still young and an elderly parent lives next door, 30ft away but still a connected hallway. We finally settled down and found some people we trust to sit into the wee hours (4-5am) so we finally can go to clubs. If we were to play on the first date it would be if we had chatted with the couple by phone or on-line and got the priliminary stuff and getting to know out of the way first. I would think that's fair would you not ??
  15. Humm..great point. Reason we went to a swinger site is that it's very connected to our local club. We go to the club since we want to meet open minded people since that is what we are like and where else to meet people like us than at the club. We are not heavy drinkers so going to a local bar and hanging out is not really our thing to meet people either and a lot of people that go to bars are looking to pick up the usual single. Sure I am sure a couple can probably get a single male with little to no trouble but a couple or female is going to be a bit more difficult. It's not like we can talk to co-workers, scout leaders, or church people we interact with openly What came first the chicken or the egg, in our case the club came first then the web site.
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