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  1. No, it really doesn't. Which is why I gave the names of people I respect who are straight, bisexual, and gay. Thought I'd cover all the bases...
  2. I really don't think this is the appropriate setting to attack one's spiritual beliefs if they are seeking advice on swinging... And to clarify Alura, on the webpage referenced by that post, threesomes were not covered and punished by death. Im sure somebody could make an argument for it though. They would be wrong, but you can argue anything (as this extremist website attempts).
  3. Perhaps...perhaps not. Hypocrisy is when you say that you do one thing, but then do the opposite. Often times with Christianity, people superimpose thier own idea's of Christianity and how a Christian should behave and label them a hypocrit when they don't live up to thier false expectations. No, the OP was seeking advice, references, and wisdom. You responded by more or less bashing their religion. Constructive participation | | V Disingenuous & Destructive participation | | V
  4. How is this relevant to the conversation of threesomes, or productive in any way at all?
  5. Diversity isn't necessarily a bad thing though. I see it more as people experiencing spirituality through their own worldviews and particular lenses. I think I prefer this than if everybody believed the exact same thing and their interpretations of events and what not would be identical. That seems significantly more scary and cult-ish than anything... Besides, I think most of us can tell the difference between the people who are authentic about their faith and those that just give it lip service-no matter what their convictions may be.
  6. Nobody in either of our families knows...but we have told a few vanilla friends. We told my best friend from highschool, and that has indeed changed our relationship with her though. Not sure to what extent. I also wrote a paper about it for my graduate studies, as the topic of non-monogamy surfaced during a discussion of hegemony. Finally, we told one middle eastern friend who was considering renting a room in our house, and thought it would be fair to disclose that information. Suffice it to say that he decided not to live here! lol.
  7. I agree, a lawyer is one person I would definitely be talking to myself. Not only to press charges, like you have stated, but to help prevent any future damage. I have no clue what line of work you are in, but I can definitly see how this tpye of behavior could effect many careers..
  8. We are pretty frugal swingers. We don't go to the big on-premise clubs around here because we believe they are too expensive. We also don't travel too far to meet folks because we prefer friendships anyway, and its difficult to have a friendship with somebody who doesn't live anywhere near you. We usually play at either our or their house, so that cuts down on motel room costs. We dont have kids, and most of the time the couples we do play with are young enough to go to bed early and stay there. We normally wear sexy-looking but "normal" clothes, to cut down on the cost of outfits. Or we get really creative, such as the wife wearing a handkerchief as a top one night... So really, that leaves us with our monthly 1x club visit of 15.00 An increase in alcohol consumption by about 40.00 Very minimal extra gas since we stay local...maybe 20.00 The only thing that is kind of tricky is like I said we often prefer to play with friends. So it will be a common thing for normal vanilla events with swingers too, such as a concert or whatever. All in all I dont think we spend more than 100.00/month extra.
  9. I agree with chicup on this one. As an added note, lutherans aren't considered "conservative" in the religious world. They will cut you more slack that than other denominations. Of course this is just a generalization.
  10. I am personally for full-disclosure to healthcare professionals and our doctors know we are swingers. However, I recently discovered that your health insurance company can request a copy of any medical information or documents... I don't know if that sits well with me as they may try to use that against us if we were to ever file a serious claim.
  11. haha, I'm glad I'm not the only one who used a plunger!
  12. We are extremely minimalist as well. Condoms, Lube, and maybe a vibrator.....maybe.
  13. Thanks for all of your replies. The reason to touch base again is that was pretty much the preplanned agreement when we discussed rules and what not. I know we don't "owe" them anything, but we can't help but to feel obligated. Part of me also want's to let the guy know why we aren't attracted to him: namely that his...uhhhh.....approach to life isnt cool or sexy. Though we heed the wisdom of people doing this far longer than we have.
  14. My wife and I recently met a couple who we cannot stand, not because of their looks, but because the male half was one of the meanest and degrading people we have ever met. He couldn't make it more than 60 seconds without insulting people of different color, sizes, religions, or even his own wife. We barely made it through dinner before we high-tailed it out of there. So when we touch base again to see if everybody is interested (preplanned before the meet), should we call the guy out for being the degenerate that he is? Or should we stay politically correct, save possible reputation smearing, and simply state that there wasn't enough interest on our end?
  15. Never felt guilty about swinging itself, but I we have felt guilty about the required deception. The wife and I are extremely honest individuals, and loathe lying, even "little white lying". We try to be vague with people to circumvent having to even be a little bit deceptive, but still, it can get to us.
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