MajorQuestion

honestly... I think most of you have read far more into my questions than I had really expected you would. For the most part I already know the answer (but felt like pinging the community anyway), which is you cant have a happy relationship with someone without your central fantasies playing a central role and communicated although not in the first few dates. I was just pinging the community to see what feedback which was a little more critical than I had hoped but granted a very small sample:) Anyway, after giving it some thought I really don't care if I ever find a mate anyway. If it happens it happens, I consider myself to have a relationship with the world anyway so having someONE special really doesn't matter a great deal for me unless it just happens to happen. So with that, I am putting on my "looking for fun" hat and see where it takes me. If it doesn't work I always have my great hobbies anyway. Thanks!

I think I would in fact prefer to be in the lifestyle and meet the community and maybe even "her" that way instead of the other way. However as a single male (even as an attractive one) I am assuming becoming active in the community would be like an atheist getting invited make a speech at the 700 Club. Perhaps I am wrong in that regard? Single men in the Lifestyle?

(non-experienced poster here) Ironically my only 3 some as a man was MFM. It was a bust, but only becuase I was sexually young and retarded about the whole thing. I completely owned the failure. But she was completely into it and most likely would have been the experience of her life if I didnt shy up. I would absolutly try it again, I adore women exploding on sexual expression.

I know a great deal about Swinging; I have been exposed to the community itself a few times in my life and I have read the great book "The Lifestyle" which helped me greatly come to terms with my personal fantasies. I fully understand that swinging is not really about sex which is something that is very hard to explain which is why i rarely bring it up in conversations. I say all this because I am a single male. I am however a single male with an uncommon single male agenda (at least from what the community might be used to). After a long time not dating I am currently back in the dating scene and I feel at my age I really don't have time to fuck around with stupid immature views around sex however at the same time I do not want to freak people out for various reasons, some which could clearly get one fired. So with that, what might be the best way for me to filter out women who would be completely against this lifestyle while at the same time not being a complete and total freak (although I suppose this qualifies as being one). ALSO, for me, I would be 100% ok if I and the love of my life never swung more than a few times and decided we didn't like the Lifestyle. What is important to me is that she would be open to my freak side (which really is important for everyone I would thing). Thanks for the help! (added: what interests me most about the swinging lifestyle is allowing women to have complete and total fun for themselves while allow me to be turned on by other women. For me, its more about the woman's pleasure when it comes to swinging)