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  1. We agree with the posters above, and your situation is more or less why we don't have the same rule. If my wife is with a guy that we know and trust well enough to go bareback with her then he has full permission to cum inside of her. She has her "tubes tied" so we're not worried about pregnancy, and if it's a guy we know and trust (and believe me, that's only a select few) then we're not worried about disease either. In our opinion, if your situation is such that you trust this guy and you're not worried about either disease or pregnancy, we're not sure why him cumming inside of her would be that big of a deal. Please don't take that as making your rule trivial, because that's not the intent at all. I guess we just don't understand it. I would say to have an honest discussion with your wife first and foremost. As for the friend, if he broke the rule intentionally then you need to have a stern talk with him. People have rules for their own very good reasons, and if he can't play by them, then in our opinion he loses the privilege (and yes, it IS a privilege for him) of fucking your wife. Having said that, those things can easily creep up in the heat of the moment. We had a similar situation when a good friend and I DPd my wife for the first time. It was sensory overload for all of us and we all came pretty quickly after it started. So, it is very possible that it just sneaked up on the guy and he lost control. In that case it's probably safe to say that he didn't break the rule intentionally. As with everything in the LS, open and honest communication... always. However, as someone else said, if you're doubting your wife and you're not sure that you believe what she's telling you then it's probably time to put swinging on hold.
  2. We didn't build up to solo play until over a year after we got into the lifestyle. Even then our first experience was her going solo with my best friend (who she had already played with a lot), so there was already a lot of trust established there. Maybe I missed something (I admittedly "skim" sometimes) but do you know this guy that she will be with? Ever met him? That along with him not knowing/understanding the situation (which someone else mentioned) would be my only two concerns I guess. If the two of you have complete open and honest communication I'm sure it could work out. It certainly sounds hot to us. If it were us though, my wife would be sure to provide pictures for me to help "relive" things as she tells me all about what happened. Of course, if this guy doesn't know the arrangement that could be tricky. Either way, good luck. I'm curious to see how it works out!
  3. I would recommend taking a break, even if it's a short one. My wife and I have gotten to this point on a few occasions ourselves. We've never broken any rules per se, but we've had blocks of time where we were very, very actively swinging. Looking back it seems to have typically happened during the summer months. Crazy from the heat? I don't know. The first time was actually the first year we actively got into swinging. Our first real experience was at the end of May and we both loved it so much and found such a great, trustworthy participant in one of my (our) best friends that we just kept going and going. There was literally a threesome, or me just watching the two of them have sex, every weekend and several times during the week for almost two months. At one point when we were in bed at night she mentioned that she thought we might be doing it too much. Believe it or not, I rather agreed. We talked with our friend and told him we just needed to take a break for a bit. We assured him that it had nothing to do with him and that we just wanted to "run a little maintenance" on our intimacy. It was the perfect thing to do, and it actually made things better. A little over a month or so later I watched the two of them have probably the best sex they'd had up to that point. She was fully ready to get back into it after "recharging" and just getting back to "us" for a little while. We've had similar situations other times, but the key is that we always talk through it and agree on what's best. I would never push her into doing something for my sole benefit (i.e. something she felt she was doing just for me) and she knows that. And that's how you build and maintain that trust between you. I can certainly understand how one of your rules may have been broken. The heat of the moment can be a tough thing. I wish I had experience and better advice for you on that, but it sounds like you've gotten some great advice from others already. Bottom line, communication is the most important thing. The best thing may be to just explain to her how the rule got broken in the heat of the moment, take responsibility for it (even if you feel it was a somewhat shared responsibility) and talk it out. You can even explain to her how you can understand how she may feel like you're putting out a vibe that you're obsessed. After all, it's an easy thing to become obsessed with. My wife and I both have become somewhat obsessed for blocks of time. With a little honest communication and a "recharge" of your intimacy I'm sure you'll be back in business. It sounds like you have a solid relationship at the core, and it doesn't sound like you've completely ruined anything. Best of luck to you both! :-)
  4. Keeping certain thoughts to yourself is your right. Heck, sometimes it's even best. Just because it's a fantasy makes it no different. It's not like you're acting on it without his knowledge. You could have a fantasy about riding a unicorn, think it was too embarrassing to share with anyone, and it'd be no different. I can't say that I personally have any fantasies that I haven't shared with my wife, but she may have some she hasn't share with me, who knows?. That being said, I wouldn't be mad at her at all if she told me a fantasy and then said she'd had it for years but just could never tell me. Like another poster said so correctly, some things are just for you.
  5. In my opinion, since I enjoy watching my wife and fully approve of what goes on -- not to mention I hate being humiliated -- I'd have to say that cuckolding wouldn't be for us, nor have we ever done anything like that. "Hotwifing" maybe, but not cuckolding.
  6. My wife and I have had a couple experiences where she has given me and a couple friends blowjobs simultaneously (and only blowjobs, no penetration) and her face was the target when she got us off. She really enjoys it, mainly, she says, because she knows how much it turns the guys on. But she says she does enjoy the feeling. I don't know that I'd call those experiences bukakke though. To me they were just her sucking off me and a couple friends. As for the swallowing, I don't know that I'd be overly turned on if she swallowed three or more guys in the same session. Not because I'd care, but because that just seems to be pushing it and I'd almost feel queasy *for* her. She's perfectly willing to swallow most of the time, but it typically doesn't end up that way unless she's just giving a single blowjob to me or one of our friends. And even then it usually ends up somewhere else because she's one of those "gotta be topless for a bj" kind of gals. I certainly enjoy when she swallows (as I'm sure some of our guy friends do, too), but at the end of the day I honestly don't care if she does or doesn't. I know there are guys that absolutely want that, but I'm not one of them. Heck, most of the time I'd rather *see* the handywork that I or another guy did. But true bukakke? Eh, I don't know that I'd put it high on the list.
  7. I can completely relate to this! The first time my wife went "solo" I had the exact same experience. I remember how hot is was that day, and how my wife wore just a short denim skirt and a tank top. I remember watching her pull out of the driveway and up the street as she left to meet him at his house. I tried for a long time to not think about it. I did a few chores and some cleaning, but it was no use. It was all I could think about. About an hour-and-a-half after she left my cell phone went off and I was greeted with a picture of her going down on him. I nearly came right then and there and, like you, I wasn't even touching myself. I received a few more pictures over the next 15-20 minutes, and then nothing until she texted me when they were done. Obviously they got to the point where they didn't want to be concerned with taking and sending pictures on a cell phone, which is great. My wife and I are very, very open with each other (which I guess is obvious since she flew solo ;-) and one of the best things in the world was our text conversation afterwards with her telling me how hard he fucked her, how he came, how horny she still was from it, etc. She saved all of the details for when she got home. I had her tell me everything while I ate her out because I knew I would cum as soon as I entered her, which I did end up doing. It was an insanely hot experience. I still remember the "butterflies" I had while she was gone. Unbelievable. Of course, I still have all of the pics she/he sent me to remember it all by. One of my favorite memories!
  8. We have several unforgettable experiences, but I'd have to say the most unforgettable will always be our (her) first time. We had fantasized for a *long* time and it almost seemed like it was just never going to happen. One night my wife gave me her permission to talk to one of my very best friends about doing something. She said he'd be the one she'd be most comfortable with for starters. Now, this guy and I have talked about everything under the sun, but I have to admit I was almost stuttering when I called him and approached him about it. He's a very open-minded guy, and the two of them had flirted pretty heavily prior so it probably wasn't a big shock to him. He was definitely all for it. Well, several months passed before it was ever even brought up again, even though we saw him almost every weekend. Finally, one night we were standing around in our kitchen having drinks (quite a few actually) and *he* brought it up. He said something like "so, remember what you guys were talking about a few months ago?" I was honestly relieved that he did. Neither of us seemed to have the nerve at that point. And trust me, he wasn't being a perve about any of it. Well, after a little talk and making sure everyone was cool with it, my wife was on her knees in the kitchen absolutely going to town on his cock. I was rock hard just standing there watching. We moved to the living room and my friend and I got my wife undressed. I was tempted to join, but I just couldn't take my eyes off of what was going on. I had wanted to watch her do something like that for *so* long. So I sat and watched, drink in hand. The great thing was that she was very comfortable with him in general so she didn't have much of an issue just being herself. The thing I remember most was sitting beside her on the couch and both of us watching as he put his cock into her. I can't even describe the rush I got. I was tingling all over! I honestly didn't know how I'd react for sure if something ever happened for real, but once I saw him start pumping her I was hooked and, as she told me when we talked later, so was she. They fucked like crazy, and he had excellent stamina (which I'm sure was helped by the alcohol lol). I think it was just that we all knew it would happen eventually, and there was such a long buildup to it that it was almost animalistic. It was like watching a live porno starring my wife. Drove me crazy! They went back and forth with positions, her sucking him, 69ing, the works. And when he came in her pussy I thought I was gonna cum right then and there, too, even though I wasn't doing anything. The whole thing was well worth the wait. And one thing I learned very quickly that night was how much I enjoyed fucking her after she had someone else inside of her first. It wasn't until a little later after he left and we went to bed that I "took my turn." But even then her pussy just felt so much different to me. So hot and loose. We've had many threesomes with him since then, but I still quite often love to just watch. But these days when I watch I fuck her almost immediately after he's cum in her. Her pussy feels so slick and loose that it drives me crazy!
  9. Well, this was definitely more embarrassing for the guy than for us... One of the things that was on our "list" for quite awhile was finding a younger guy (19-23 or so) for her to play with. Eventually a situation more or less fell into our laps when we weren't even actively looking (isn't that the way it often happens?!). In any case, this guy was 21 (22 now since this was last year) and had the serious "hots" for my wife. We invited him over for dinner a couple times just to get to know him and make sure things seemed cool. At this point we hadn't mentioned anything to him about actually getting to be with her sexually. Once we were convinced that things would probably go okay we invited him over for dinner again and figured that'd be the night we let the proverbial cat out of the bag. Just to liven the mood I suggested that my wife wear something a little more revealing than she had previous times. It wasn't anything outrageous, but she had on a short denim mini-skirt and a top that definitely showed him more than he'd seen before. After dinner my wife and I cleaned up and I made drinks for all of us. I asked her if she still wanted to go through with it and she said she did and was feeling pretty horny. We hadn't really discussed "strategy" beforehand and were talking about how I should go about letting him in on everything. After a little back and forth she decided that she'd probably be most comfortable with just starting something. She said that she thought he'd probably be more comfortable that way, too, since he wouldn't be sitting there thinking about it and feeling weird. And keep in mind that, again, this guy was really into my wife. I returned to the other room with our drinks and he and I began talking. Shortly into the conversation I told him that my wife had a special dessert planned for him. Corny, I know, but it was the first thing that came to mind. His back was facing the entrance to the kitchen so he didn't see her immediately when she came back in. I, however, did. And much to my surprise she was topless. Now, if you think I was a bit surprised, you can imagine his surprise when my wife kneeled down beside his chair. This was all at the dining room table just so you have the visual. His eyes nearly came out of his skull! She started rubbing his crotch and he was at a complete loss for words other than a few "ums" and "whoahs." Now here's the embarrassing part (for him, anyway). She instructed him to stand up, which he didn't waste much time doing. Once he stood she pulled his jeans and boxers down and he stepped out of them. He was already completely rock hard and she started stroking him. He couldn't take his eyes off of her and what she was doing. Having gotten much more comfortable and verbal over the last few years we've been in the lifestyle, she started talking to him a little bit - telling him she loved how hard he was and that he had a nice cock and all of that. The kid was literally shaking while she was stroking him. She asked him if he ever thought about doing something like this with her and he managed "uh huh." She sat there a few more seconds just stroking him and looking up at him. Then she said "would you like me to suck on it?" He said something like "oh God yes!" She started licking it a little bit first, and then started "snapping" her lips over his head with her lips tightened. She does this to me and it drives me crazy. She did that maybe three or four times and then took him down. As soon as she did he started yelling "oh God, oh God, I'm gonna cum!" And boy did he! Everywhere! She was completely covered. I haven't seen a guy cum that hard or that much in a long time. It was actually pretty amazing! Now, you can imagine this poor kid's embarrassment. She barely even started the blowjob and he had shot his load. He kept apologizing and saying how bad he felt. I lightened the mood by telling him it was no big deal and that my wife was just that good. He was definitely shaken though. So while my wife went to clean up we sat and talked a little and finished the drinks we had. I went to make another round and my wife appeared in the kitchen. She was saying she felt really bad for him and that she hoped we hadn't ruined the kid. I told her I was sure he could get it back up with no problem and that she should give him another shot. So we went back out (my wife still topless) and moved to the living room where my wife sat on the couch next to him. She had her hand on his leg (his boxers and jeans were back on by this point) and finally just came out and told him that it was okay to touch her if he wanted to because I think he felt a little uncomfortable just "going for it." Once they kissed and he played with her tits a little he calmed down quite a bit, though you could tell in his mind he was saying to himself "I can't believe this is happening!" I suggested to my wife that she complete her undressing. I thought he was going to have a heart attack when she took her panties off and he saw her pussy lol. I'm not bragging, but my wife is gorgeous and has a heavenly body. In any case, he went down on her and then she returned the favor. After all of the excitement he didn't last too long once he got inside of her, but it was still very hot and very enjoyable for everyone. She called him the next day to make sure that he was okay with everything and that he wasn't uncomfortable. By that point he was fine and even asked about doing it again lol. She was very into it and told him that she'd love to. So, a couple weekends later they were back at it. He goes away for school, but he's home in the summer and on breaks. We've made it a point to get together with him any time he's home. Since a year has passed things are very normal now. She's even gotten him off over the phone a few times when he's away. But wow, that first time he probably just wanted to crawl into a hole. Anyway, I guess that would qualify as our most "embarrassing" story. That is, other than the time a good friend of ours was screwing her so hard that a picture fell off of the wall and nearly took her head off. But we knew him so well that wasn't really embarrassing. And, come to think of it, maybe that's just not embarrassing anyway. :-P
  10. It really all depends on who she's with at the time. If it's someone new (or newer) we always involve condoms. No questions! If it's someone that we know very well and know for certain to be clean then anything goes. My wife loves the "rush" she gets when she feels a guy erupt inside of her (especially the taboo of a guy other than me) so it happens more often than not when we know the guy really well. At present there are three guys, all of whom we know very well, who are permitted to enter her bareback and cum inside of her.
  11. Watching my wife with another guy is definitely something that I enjoy and am very turned on by. We're in a situation where we've been lucky enough to successfully involve a good friend in our activities. It works in our case because we spent quite some time building up to it, and we all talked about it very openly for months prior to any sexual activity actually occurring. After our first "get together" we all discussed again and found that we all really enjoyed the encounter. Open discussion was especially important because the friend is at our home quite often for non-sexual activities and we didn't want any uncomfortable feelings or worse, a ruined friendship. Luckily our approach worked and we now have a good, trustworthy friend we can involve when the mood strikes. It's also nice because we can go weeks or months without anything "happening" and the friend never "expects" anything from my wife. So that's the background... and the truth of it is (in direct relation to this question) there are times when we'll start out as a threesome and then I end up sitting back and just watching my wife with my friend. She was admittedly a little nervous at first (as we all were), but now that everyone's comfortable (and most importantly, SHE is completely comfortable) it's especially hot to watch her "do her thing" because she really lets him take her with no fear of any jealousy on my end. I know that if things were different and she was just going through the motions for my benefit I'd feel completely different and probably wouldn't get any arousal from it. The arousal really comes from knowing that she's comfortable and knowing that SHE wants it to happen, too. Perhaps I'm one of the lucky ones where reality actually ended up being even better than the fantasy.
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