BandM3412

Thanks for the input. There are some valid points and we have considered most of them already. I think the one that hits closest is Julie's when she said bad mounth others makes her feel better about her self. There was no exculsivity agreement between anyone, the limited number of couples was our choice going in. As far thinking we were not going to be talked about, well that was just a dumb mistake on our part and we realized too late what kind of person we were dealing with. I've known her for years and for some silly reason, thought maybe she was cool. OH well live and learn. After posting this last night I went ahead and sent the first of two couples we played with an email and got an almost imediate response asking how we were and were the hell have been. They said we were missed and the fewmutul LS friends we have had been asking about us. So i tseems all is well and we can just chalk this up to a newbie mistake and go forward with a vluble lesson learned. Again, that's for the input. Matbe it's just our limited exposure so far, but it sure seems that this lifestyle lends itself to being a lot more friendly and undersatnding that "regular" adult friendships. We are going to jump back in soon, well as soon as I take off about 10lbs!!!

I've searched the forums and found some similar situations but I wanted to go ahead and recount ours for your insightful comment:) Here it goes- We got involved in the lifestyle after a lot of discussion and pillow talk, about a year and a half ago. To our pleasant surprise, we were welcomed in and met some really great people. As it turns out, not everyone is into the "hit it and quit it' thing. We had several great encounters with one couple and decided to branch out a little. Well it turns out that the next couple we played with was also friends with a vanilla s/f friend of ours. Also, as it turns out, the vanilla friend knew of the others couples lifestyle and, once she knew we were friends with them, began to "warn" us about them and say some very negative things about them. Chapter two- Here's where it takes a wrong turn. After having a really good mixed (vanilla and non) party, the s/f friend stayed saying she was too drunk to drive. She began the lifestyle talk about the other couple not knowing that we had played with them and, well in the interest of time I'll cut to the chase. One thing led to another and the vanilla friend and my wife played a little but I declined(not really into her). The very next day we get a call from the couple telling us that the s/f was bad mouthing US!!! We decided not to mention that she talked bad about them every chance she got- you know- trying to take the high road and all-. Now at this point we have played with all of 2 couples- and they had played and introduced us- we have now been branded "sluts" and the swinger couple stopped calling or returning email. We decided to delete the profile and take a break for a while. The part I'm not sure about is do we defend ourselves or just continue to high road it? We want to get back involved but.... Is this even remotely similar to anything anyone has seen? We wanted to make a small group of friends and have a good time, not hook up with someone new every weekend and it seems to have back fired!!! I rambled a bit but hopefully I was clear enough as to get a word or two of advice.