almostnewbies

My Mr is extremely picky as well. He's always been attracted to a certain look and has tried to expand his zone to include a larger pool of what I consider attractive and he considers ok looking women. To boot, he's shy and needs to feel really comfortable with whom he will be having sex. I am picky too but a little more forgiving. I won't take one for the team, and neither will he, but I will give points for personality and humor where he doesn't seem to be able to. So where does that leave us? Playing with each other which we're more than ok with. And when we do find that rare four way match where we're all physically attracted to each other and the chemistry is there? Bliss! Just wanted to post and say that you're not the only picky guy out there.

Excellent advice bbarnsworth. We like going to different clubs in the area and have found entirely different atmosphere's. Not only because of the particular event going on but also just the crowd in attendance. At this one club we particularly like to go to the crowd is different from a Friday night to a Saturday night. So, give the clubs in your area a chance. Visit them on more than one occasion. Go without expectations of playing with anyone but each other to ease yourselves into the club scene. We've also found that going to a club to meet couples we've chatted online with or met at Meet & Greets is fun too. Even though we'd chatted or met these couples before, no pressure for play was expected although we did end up playing with one of those couples. It was just nice to know some people when we went to the club. Hope you have a great time! Let us know how it goes too!

Yup, I have to agree with you, guess we should've asked "Are you BOTH active participants?" Thinking back, he was the one doing most of the talking...lol Lessons learned... ~T (She's T and He's R)

We had an experience with Mr. Stud and Mrs. Deadfish this past weekend! We were at a club and had met this couple before. I give my guy credit, he was not sure he was into her but she was attractive so we decided to give it a go. He could tell that Mr. Stud wanted me bigtime and I was attracted to him too. R wanted to see me enjoy myself and hoped for the best. Mr. Stud was excited and he and I enjoyed each other. Mrs. Deadfish just laid there with her eyes closed. R told me after they left the bed that had she not made some bucking movement while he was going down on her towards the end that he wouldn't have known she enjoyed herself or for that matter was still alive! R said that the only thing that kept him hard was his seeing me and hearing me and Mr. Stud enjoying ourselves. What a trooper huh?! We won't be trying this couple again to see if it gets any better. Nice people but...oh well ~T (She's T and he's R)

Well there isn't much (I don't think) we haven't tried with each other so if a play partner could add something to our repretoire I'd say go for it! There are things that we do at home we wouldn't do at a party though, kind of nice to have something be just ours...but then ya never know, if a play partner wanted to try it and hadn't done it before we might be willing to teach them...

At the moment we are both 45 (for a few more months anyways, then I'll be 46-eek! lol) We've been together for 15 months and swinging together for 7 months of that. I know that some couples would shy away from us because we aren't married, oh well, their loss. We are committed to each other and put each other first and we've even bought a house together and are living together. What can I say? When it's right, it's right! ~T She's T & He's R

I hold nothing against a playmate who feels the need to pop a little blue pill to facilitate my pleasure! I know he needs to be aroused in order for it to work so it's not cheating or him "taking one for the team" when he does use Viagra or whatever. I also believe if it helps alleviate his psychological or swinging ED and helps him have a better time playing then there's no harm/shame in taking something to help him overcome it. ~T She's T and He's R

This was our experience. I felt jealous on the third full swap we had completed, not the first as I thought would be the case. I didn't say anything during the evening because I didn't want to make a scene. It all boiled down to a misunderstanding. Well, after we left we talked it out and he assured me that what I was imagining wasn't the case and explained what had actually happened. All's well now and the reassurances have helped us move past this momentary jealousy issue, thank goodness! I have found that keeping involved in the events transpiring leads to a more enjoyable time. Sitting back and watching is ok if you're used to it and can keep your mind from letting those jealous thoughts in. I for one have not gotten to the point where I think I can just watch my SO with another woman. Of course, I haven't actually sat back to see if I am at that point yet either. I think I much prefer the 4 person dogpile. T

I voted 5 times a week but it can be more. We have 2 kids at home during the week and 4 on weekends ranging in age from 3-13. Most of our private time is early morning hours during the week or weekends as the Mr. has to get up early for work so early and is comatose by 9pm I'm typically a nightowl and would love playtime at night but am kept happy when he will wake me for some lovin after he's had a few hours of sleep. We rarely go without for more than a day. Weekends can be 2x a day depending on the activities...After playing with others the following week or two is even better... T

I wonder if the guys on MYTHBUSTERS would be game...

Personally I think it's more than that, although you are correct too. Women's bodies are softer, skin is softer, tits and nipples are typically bigger, boy I'm gettin myself worked up thinking about this! T

Only speaking for my own experiences... I've always taken notice of hot sexy women and been curious what it would be like to be with a woman. When R and I first started relating our fantasies to each other, we both had the FMF and FMFM fantasies. Neither of us had experienced any sort of swinging, other than in our minds lol. Neither of us had been with partners who would have been open minded enough to explore those fantasies either, until now. When we went to an on premises club and were in the sexually freeing and charged environment things just kind of happened naturally. Dancing on the dance floor led to kissing and fondling on the dance floor which led to going to the bedroom area and more exploring. It was awesome. R could barely contain himself, he was excited to be watching me with the other women. Our profiles state that I am bi-curious, but I think that's mostly because I'm not very bi experienced. The few times we've full swapped have been with couples where the women were bi-curious and were sensual and fun times. Lucky me huh?! I'm sure I'll be changing my profile soon enough lol. T

Well as you may be able to tell by our sreen name we're almost new, we've been to a few meet & greets and a club 3 or 4 times. We've played with 3 couples so far, 1 soft swap at a club, 2 full swap at the same club and full swapped with one of those club couples again at their home. We jumped in with boundaries and rules and went full steam ahead faster than a minute man cums. lol We had a lot of fun but have taken a step back for the time being. A few things were discovered along the way and we're working those issues out. Alot of communication going on. We're still interested in the lifestyle and like all it stands for as well as the people we've met.