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  • Birthday 12/01/1971

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  1. Hey all, Just wondering what role texting and or sexting plays in your swinging relationship? Do you worry that texting with the opposite sex can lead to a Pandora's box or find it adds to the dynamics? Thanks....
  2. Hi forthwort would love to chat with you I"m in forthwort as well

  3. Yes.... And brings up a point my wife and I talk about. How many people you know that have had affairs that don't keep it a secret At least at my job at any one time more than one person has something on the side and not really judged harshly. Yet if I were to openly say we swing, holy hell would break loose. So it's ok to fuck around on your wife but not fuck around WITH the wife. Not sure I get that double standard.
  4. Oh trust me, we've discussed it. Several times. For my wife it's more of a needing or wanting to be liked/attracted to. She's in her mid 30's, has had a child and recently lost almost 70 pounds! So she get's her rocks off (so to speak) to guys paying attention to her, etc. She'll go out with the girls, flirt a little, dance a little, and come home and f**K my brains out. All because she's been out flirting and getting flirted with. And don't get the wrong impression. My wife is beautiful. And I'm not just saying that because I'm married to her. Deep down that was probably one of the subconscious reasons we/I didn't stay in longer when we were actively doing it. I don't mean to sound vain, but we met some real trolls. But again this was all from SLS. I never meet one female half that even remotely compared to my wife.
  5. I like that. I can very easily relate to that quote. The sex has been the easy part (so to speak). It's all the other stuff that's no fun.
  6. WOW. Thanks for that reply. Ur right there is a little insecurity as play here but I'm working on it. One of the first couples we messed around with she admitted that she had an attraction to the male half and that was hard on me. And I no attraction to the female. So I found myself "taking one for the team" a few times. We of course broke it off with them soon after that. If we do get back in we've agreed that there will be some rule changes. Try to make it more just about the sex and not so much a relationship. How many guys would love to trade places with me? I've got a wife that is extremely open minded about sex, giving me permission to play around, and it's me with the issues.....
  7. We've talked about that and if/when we fully get back that will more then likely be the case. As for her getting jealous, no she doesn't. Not at all. And that's one reason I am so hard on myself. She gives me all this "freedom" but I find it hard to do the same. And trust me, the wife and I have talked all about this. I'm just looking for insight from some others. We've got a great marriage and love each other dearly. Thanks for the reply.
  8. Hey all, Just venting and rambling a bit so plese bare with me and have a little latitude. Not sure if I'm wanting advice, or affirmation that my feelings are normal. My wife and I have been married for 10 years next month. Two years ago after talking about "swinging" we jumped into the lifestyle feet first. Let me back up about a month. One night at a local Gentleman's Club that we go to a few times a year, we got to talking about any "opportunities" that we've had over the years. I had had a few but of course never acted on them. My wife of course had a couple as well and never acted on them. The talk turned to messing around and I told her that the idea of her and another man turned me on. She's very open minded that way. And she has said over the years that as long as I come home to her that she really doesn't mind if I were to "mess around". She just doesn't want me falling in love with someone else and leaving her. Well we kept talking about it a little and one day I found SLS and told her about it. I really don't think she knew much about "swinging" at the time but she was intrigued. We ended up joining in and for about 3 or 4 months saw several couples. However after a few months of it we grew tired of the drama and what seemed like dating in high school again. We didn't have any truly bad experiences, I guess for lack of a better term, the new wore off. We've dabbled with seeing a few people in the year and a half or so since we quit but haven't slept with anyone since early last year. My problem though is that I was fine seeing my wife have sex with another man but I found it hard to handle all the texting, IM, phone calls etc with the "other guy". She never tried to keep anything from me and would always show me the chat logs, texts, etc but I couldn't help my self when it came to being jealous. How could I handle watching her give another guy oral sex but that other stuff bothered me? While she says she's glad we out I think she'd be back in if I was more comfortable with it. Is there sometime wrong with me? After all my wife has basically given me permission to mess around, not to mention everything else we did and I am the one wanting to scale back? Are there other guys like me? We still see some of our old "couples" and haven't ruled out getting back in but for now we are on the sidelines. Thanks for letting me vent. Comments?
  9. bringing "drama" to the table. Don't care about your personal problems.
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