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olycouple last won the day on February 28 2009

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About olycouple

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    Committed to debauchery
  • Birthday 03/17/1976

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    couple
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    Olympic Peninsula, WA
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    Hobbies? Who has time for those?
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    shhh...it's a secret.
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    not long enough

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  1. Our 1st post in a thousand years, but we hope SLS is ok. The quality is better than AFF or SDC. We have been life members for a few years so we aren't concerned with a payment breach. But, it has been a mainstay of the community for so long, what will fill the void if it does not survive is more concerning.
  2. olycouple

    Busting ass

    Wow Sweet, I had all but forgotten about this post until yesterday when it hit our "swinger" email account inbox. Two years seems like a blink of an eye. But, all of the activity in it make it appear like a lifetime when I look back. I completed the "reeducation" which qualified me for an unpaid internship which I presently serve. And, I still work at the career I possessed prior to starting the whole shenanigans (mortgages must be paid). I am still waiting because positions opening in this field are very few in my area. Sometime in 2009 I also decided it would be a grand idea to try and finish my degree, which I did. But time costs, and time is one of those "steal from Peter to pay Paul" deals when you don't have enough of it. We have not been to the club we enjoyed so much and there has been zero action as of late because we have no time to actively look and meet people from Swing Lifestyle or otherwise. We have a couple who have become good friends with that have even noticed. They keep asking to join them at the club and we have kept declining, but hopefully not for much longer as we both think they're hot and we like playing with them! I cannot blame it all on a hectic schedule, a HUGE, VAST, COPIOUS majority yes, and with our friends the schedule is to blame, but the whole seeking out new people cannot be blamed on time, only some of it. In many ways we have changed in how we approach the "lifestyle" as a couple and what we as a couple as well as two individuals want out of it. Enough for tonight I now have a tiny bit of free time to update these blogs and to expound upon the how and why of our maturation in the lifestyle. Hopefully there will be some free time to "do more" than just update a blog. Mr. Oly
  3. I would say that our definition is couples that want to have sex without starting some sort of interpersonal relationship, AKA "friends. I surmise that some couples think friendship will make it easier. And, while some may be looking for a poly or pseudo-poly relationship, I think that a majority are just trying to justify being promiscuous (Mmmmm, promiscuity ((in my best Homer voice)) ) to themselves. Or they have inadequacy and/or security issues that they feel will be easier to deal with once they "get to know someone". I had a hard time coming up with a definition because I don't quite get it. We are all here for the sex right? There was a time very early on in our swinging career that we had that "friends" thing in our profile. It took an extremely short amount of time (a month or two) to figure out that was FAIL. Our philosophy quickly became "Sex first, Friends last" as we already have friends and a limited amount of time to maintain a relationship with them. But, that is not to say that we aren't open to friendship, somehow we ended up with one really good set of friends though swinging. I am glad we have that relationship as it is full of spice and zip that other friendships don't have. But,having a friendship with another couple that you have few boundaries with is a double edged sword. You constantly do an intricate dance of maintaining separation of the two worlds, Swinging/Vanilla. For us to try that with everyone we wanted to swing with, in my opinion, would be exhausting as we like newness and variety (although our bedpost is rather unscathed). Possibly its just a way some "mature" in the lifestyle as it was for us or for others it could be a "Monkeys Paw" and they don't know the consequences as a result of their wishes. In any case we tend to shy away from profiles that say that. We think that they will want more time than we can allocate them or they will be offended when we don't call after having gotten naked together. As has been said before too numerous times to count,the lifestyle is like dating. When I was dating, if I took a girl home it did not make her my girlfriend or even my friend; we went to whatever place to have sex. If we liked each other well enough we could do it again and if not, it was still sex and we parted ways. The possibility of something more could be there, however, the promise of it NEVER was. The women that wanted to get to know me first, I passed by as I wasn't there for that reason. Here is to "Hoppin and Notchin" and "Hoppin and Notchin with friends" Mr. Oly
  4. My .02, Your boyfriend was me circa 1999 or 2000 (so you can tell whats coming). I felt that my (now ex) girlfriend and I had a super secure rock solid relationship. And, she knew that I wanted a threesome, as we had discussed it in length but she said that she didn't find anyone attractive enough or feel safe enough with anyone. Well, she had one with her best friend and her best friend's boyfriend, drunk. (Because drunk is a good excuse) It wasn't so much the fact that she fucked someone else (because I could understand that a little better ) It was "why?" she chose to have a one time affair as a threesome knowing it was, at the time, the ultimate fantasy for me. That still bothers me a little bit Its your cross, you fashioned it out of your own choices. You can either carry it for your lifetime, or you can tell him and hope he is a bigger person that hold grudges shorter than myself. Good Luck.
  5. I can say it does happen, in our situation it was not bad at all, as we were not "outed". It was another couple that was seeking information for their own consumption. I do have to admit the thought was a little scary at first. It was actually Swing Lifestyle, not a club that was the "undoing" of our anonymity with the aforementioned couple. The club we go to is a little expensive and I think that this high cost might keep away some of the looky-loo's. Swing Lifestyle on the other hand is free and if someone recognizes a very distinct dress, a tattoo, or your home in some of your pictures you might have some questions to answer. However you might not have a good time doing it. There is always the CHANCE that you might meet someone you know or someone may find out. This "hobby" is all about meeting people and there is a very thin degree of separation in some places. I think you should only bet what you have to lose. If your career were to end due to swinging, then by all means DON'T DO IT! But, if it is just personal ridicule you are worried about, ask yourself how much can you take and is it worth the price.
  6. The last time we were with another couple I found it hard to multitask, I was too busy trying to watch Mrs.Oly. I find it very erotic to see my wife giving a blowjob or getting eaten out by either sex. I have yet to see her get fucked but its on my list
  7. So, we went right on out and did it! Yup. No longer are we virgins, no longer "thinking" about swinging. Since last I blogged, much soul-searching and exploration has occurred. Some of the "naughtiest" things have transpired. And I must speak for us both here, we like it. And our boundaries are not such as we thought they were. So here's a quick run-down of where we are in our lifestyle escapades...the good, the bad, and the fabulous. In an earlier blog, I wrote about our decision to test out the waters of "swing town". I also detailed our first foray into the jungle of naked, writhing bodies, watching, searching, being watched and enjoying the fire of the atmosphere, without really getting involved with anyone else personally. Between then and now, I read several very well-written entries on choosing and setting boundaries. Which we did, before we set out for our first meeting with another couple. We kept them simple, not really knowing what to expect. Before we had a chance to test them out, I learned the hard way that I was going to have to work very hard at staying within my boundaries and those of my husband. This revelation happened as a result of a make-out session with a girlfriend of ours...someone who has been a friend for years and is in a committed relationship with a man who is very supportive, but very ignorant, of this lifestyle. So, we pulled back and said it wouldn't happen again until the two had a chance to discuss and decide. We left the ball in their court. Little did I know how much I would like the feeling of a girl's lips (the right girl, anyway). And it turned out to be harder than I'd imagined to avoid a repeat experiment. She seemed to be very into the girl/girl aspect. But, since this really wasn't the point of my husband's and my interest in the lifestyle, it still seemed wrong. She didn't seem open to all four of us getting involved. And, while an open conversation with everyone involved seemed the most adult thing to do, it also seemed very difficult given the social dynamics of our friendship. So, for now...that one is on hold. In hopes to find less drama elsewhere, we agreed to meet up with a couple we have been emailing for months. We finally found a good time for all of us to meet up, a halfway point, and a sitter (it's like the planets aligned and the sky turned polka dot). We met, we talked, we drank, we ate...we went back to the hotel...and I felt like an awkward teenage girl getting ready for her first time...I had no idea what to do with myself, my hands, my clothes. Thankfully, after a bit of fumbling, everyone's fingers and hands and lips seemed to find their natural places. I learned my new favorite place to be is between two men, a cock in each hand, a mouth on each breast, and another between my thighs. We walked away feeling pretty good about the whole thing. Not only were we assured of our interest in the lifestyle, but I was happy to see that the jealousy I was worried I would feel never appeared. We felt close and happy after the other couple walked out the door. And in the morning over breakfast, it wasn't weird or stilted. So, now, it's on to the next experience. We are having a couple over for dinner tomorrow. Guess we'll see where it goes. For now, we are happy to say that we have entered the building. We haven't full-swapped yet. That's yet to come. But at least now, we know we could happily and easily go there. Let's just say we are so sure we bought condoms for our date. How crazy is this? Well, of course none of you think it's crazy, but 10 years ago if you asked me if I'd every thought about swinging, first I would have asked you what it was and then I would have given you a look of complete and utter horror followed by a "good god, no!":eek:. Here's to "Oh, god, yes!":4some:
  8. Might be at least worth a phone conversation with both of them. Text is much too easy to misinterpret. Good luck, Mr. Oly
  9. I cant agree more, a while back we passed on a couple that lived close to us due to the Katrina-esque disaster in the backdrop of their photos. Also, lack of decorating taste; photos taken underneath full length, unframed, crooked, "Star Wars:Attack of the Clones" door posters. Yoda is not sexy, and due to the angle he seems to be perving in the photo. Mr Oly
  10. I think with strangers or "near strangers" it IS pretty darn visual. I mean...I wouldn't walk up to someone I didn't know in a bar and hit on them if I didn't think they were attractive in the first place. Now, with people I know or am even friends with, I agree that personality goes a long way (both negatively and positively). I've know some sexy people who I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole because they were rotten or completely unintelligent. But, I've also had the "beast" factor occur...where once you know them well, the outside sort of slips away. Besides, I tend to pick up on quirky physical attributes and fall in love with them. Sometimes our "faults" are our best assets when combined with our personality. So, yes and no to your question.
  11. Both Mr. Oly AND myself have a hankering for the red-headed ladies. That chick from Desperate Housewives with the green eyes makes me weak! I'm a brunette, but I was a red-head when I met Mr. Oly...I guess it worked since he's mine now (hee hee). Mrs. Oly
  12. Yes, it's what we'd prefer right now. We are very much "newbies"...so it's our starting point. So doesn't mean we won't ever full-swap, esp. with the right couple. But, until then, having sex in the same room and touching and all that is plenty hot!
  13. I couldn't say it loud enough...get the hell outta this thing! Any guy who gives you an ultimatum is bad news. He's gonna cheat later if you say no to this now. Or, he's just gonna leave you. What an ass. From what I've learned on my short road into this lifestyle...swinging is about sharing and pleasing...not about threatening. It's a way to get closer. What he's suggesting is cheating, plain and simple. It's not about you, it's about his childish needs. Find a better man, there are a lot of them out there! Don't even try to talk about it with him or try to "make him understand". From what I can tell, he probably isn't capable or willing. Maybe you should give him an ultimatum. It's you (and only you)...or the highway! Better yet...it's just the highway.
  14. An on-premise club all Parties have a killer dinner, theme and live music but are BYOB (beer and wine only). Associate memberships are for people who do not live in the northwest. The first visit is a little pricey (buying the membership and party fee) but so well worth it! Regular: One-time membership fee: $150 Semi-annual dues: $25 (paid Jan. 1 & Jul. 1) Associate: One-time membership fee: $90 Semi-annual dues: $15 (paid Jan. 1 & Jul. 1) Regular member Weekend parties are typically priced at $85/couple although special events may be higher. Wednesday pot lucks: $35/couple. Associate member Usually priced at $10 more than the regular member price. Guest of Regular Member Usually priced at $25 more than the regular member price. Single Female Typically one half regular member prices. Wednesday pot lucks: FREE! Mr.Oly
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