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audiguyvdubgirl

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About audiguyvdubgirl

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 02/01/1968

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    San Francisco
  1. First of all, they guy is asking for feedback. He didn't do anything as far as I could tell in his post. Yet, some of you are vilifying the guy for just posing the question. It's a tough situation to be in for sure, and he's looking for a viable solution, not looking for you all to crucify him or treat him like a leper. I see some of the women write their scathing remarks to this guy, not really understanding his situation. His wife is going through something that probably a good portion of us have witnessed in our own families, but the fact of the matter is, someone is not getting that physical contact that is so desperately needed in a relationship. Whether intentional or unintentional, the lack of sexual interaction can be detrimental to anyone's psyche. What is he supposed to do if he talks to her about his needs and she says no, which would be understandable given her circumstances? Is he supposed to jack of for the rest of his life? Jacking off may be a short term solution, but even that gets old. Is he supposed to just turn off that libido as if it is a light switch? It's easy to cast stones when they're not being thrown back at you. Easy up on the guy.
  2. What your rules are shouldn't have anything to do with whether or not you are married. I've seen similar questions asked before it always makes me wonder if the couple asking really views themselves as a long-term couple... Oh, and as far as whether or not we see other as a long-term couple, well, that remains to be seen Julie. We just take each day as it comes. So far we've been together for a year and a half and it's been great.
  3. The fact that you ask that would make me question whether or not you were a seriously committed couple to the extent that we would play with you. I only asked out of curiosity, not to put our relationship on display or to give anyone a sense of what our relationship is like. The question was just to understand how couples approach swinging. We're fine, but we're new to the swing community just within the past 5-6 mothns and again, we have yet to swing with anyone (not by choice, just haven't made that connection with anyone). We're still having discourse about what we'd do in a situation where we actually get to swing. The difference between her and I is that I'm the more adventurous one and am not one to really care about boundaries. After all, I ran Bay To Breakers (a 7.46 mile race naked). That's not even a big deal, but she would and could never do that. 1)She's not THAT outgoing and 2)she's in a position career wise where if she were to do something like that, the repercussions could be detrimental to her job. Anyway, the most we've done was to have same room sex with other people who were doing the same thing. I only asked because even though swinging is swinging, married or not, some couples have their own set of boundaries as to what they will participate in. That's all I was interested in finding out. Of course, I went off on a tangent regarding the whole marriage thing.
  4. Thank you all for your responses. It's interesting to get each couples view on swinging. As for the marriage thing, I know it's sort of a crap shoot to swing with unmarried couples for the reasons listed above, but I think the same could be applied to married couples as well. My gf and I are both of the opinion that we don't need a piece of paper to prove the validity of our love for one another and if we ever get the chance to swing, we'll be seen as exciting and trustworthy as a couple who are married. Considering that we have both been in marriages that ultimately didn't work out, we both feel and are quite content with not being married. For us; been there, done that. I think marriage is great, but speaking for myself, I wouldn't do it again and don't want to. Anyway, for the purposes of swinging, I can understand how one can get the impression that the unmarried couple is only in it for all of the wrong reasons. In any case, I think most of you all are wise enough to discern that married or unmarried, it just depends on the individuals. Again, thank you all for your lending me your eyes...Peace.
  5. Is there a big difference? Do those of you who swing as a married couple or non-married couple have different rules when it comes to swinging? It may not be a big deal, but I was just curious. As a married couple do you mainly play together or do you have the option of playing separately at a party, eventually reconnecting to continue the experience? My partner is more into the the idea of playing together with another couple versus individual swing. As for myself, I'm cool with either aspect, and feel either could be would be really fun, but I certainly would never go against her idea of how we should swing. Regrettably, we have yet to swing, but have attended parties. We're looking for a couple or couples that we could develop a relationship with as opposed to just going to a party and hooking up with someone (although that could be fun). Despite living in San Francisco, it has been difficult at best, to find that elusive couple.
  6. I personally like it when my girl rims me or gives me ass play. I just feel that if I want to try things, then she should be afforded those same opportunities. Last night, I was pegged for the first time. I don't know what the big deal is. It was uncomfortable to say the least intially, and I didn't feel these supposedly amazing sensations as a result. I do, however, have an understanding of what a woman goes through when a guys ask to do anal on her. I'm certainly not bi, just fair and I think in the interest of sexual exploration with your partner, like Stevie Wonder said, "All in love is fair."
  7. Nothing would interest me in BI play. I'm not intimidated by it and wouldn't fret to see it, but I wouldn't be interested.
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