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  1. Thank you Curiousswingers..as I said earlier, she has been diagnosed with a thyroid imbalance. Her level was 9.7...can you relate to or comment on that? We understand that that is way out of whack and she had her medication greatly increased......btw..she has been on thyroid medication for about 17 or 18 years now. In fact, the doc said she had Graves Disease back then...can't remember a lot about it except that the day the doc told her that Barbara Bush was on the evening news talking about it. I really appreciate you sharing that with me, it almost perfectly describes what's been going on with my lovely other half.....having the time of her life one moment; absolutely frikking nuts and ready to go to the house the next!
  2. Thanks Tybee for your input. To answer your question, she is not actively fundamentalist now. While I have found peace away from it, she still struggles with it from time to time. Her parents are old-school pentacostals, particularly her mother......they give her pure hell about not being in church and it obviously effects her. For me, it took studying the bible, how it came about, and the beginning of christianity to break away. Up until then, I relied on the pastor to enlighten me. When I decided I would go on a journey for my own enlightenment I discovered I had been hoodwinked for an awfully long time. I was actually reading just the other day that the #1 reason for visits to psychiatrists/psychologists was due to religious burdens/fears that had been ingrained in peoples' psyche. Back to the point....we got into this when we discovered our neighbors were into it. I will never forget how freaked out we both were on our first club visit with the neighbors. By the 2nd time though we were both quite into it and have yet to experience any type of jealousy issues...Yes we are early 40ish, have no trouble at all finding partners, and we have plenty of free time to be really involved.....if we just didn't have to work through these ups and downs....
  3. For the "rest of you": Thanks for your thoughts, they have not been just for me. I am going to give this a bit more time and then show her all of your comments..... She & I have really spent a lot of time talking about this situation. I could not be more certain that she wants to continue. I guess I am just trying to figure out if this is typical for (some) couples who are in the early stages of "swinging". I just really don't know what to do. I totally enjoy the experience and she does too for the most part. With all that said though, she is by and away the #1 priority in my life and I would never suggest the subject again if she did not want me too and I have told her that time and again. I really think, at this moment anyway, that it is one of two things...either the thyroid situation, or the religious (moral) thing. She has always been involved in fundamentalism....me....I am an anti-religious christian, 100% believer, 100% against the established, money-hungry, fear-mongering, "church" mechanisms. My father is a retired baptist minister and I have seen far more "crap" from church-going, "so-called" christians in my life than I care to. With that off of my chest...lol..thanks again.....you have all contributed some great points. If you have any more I am all ears. Whenever the input stops, I will have her read all of this.
  4. This is for “SERENEIDERS”. Thank you for your time and expertise. Before going any further though… try to more carefully read my posts please. Specifically: (1) I have not asked you (or anyone else) for a “diagnosis”. (2) I am not looking for “clues” to help convince my wife to continue swinging. (3) If you read the posts you would'nt have to suggest that I begin communicating with her. (4) I am not the one experiencing the strang behavior or "wishi-washiness". (5) I have already stated that we have discussed quitting the lifestyle but she does not want to stop.
  5. Maybe I should have asked my question this way: have any of you ever had to deal with your partner (or yourself) bouncing back and forth between being highly interested in "swinging" and then not interested at all.....sometimes the "bounce" occurring within 5 minutes?...When she is "into" it, she is having the time of her life, when she is not, she does not want to be anywhere around it or talk about why she is not into it at that point. Shelley, you are right, it is something that we need to figure out and I have told her that we would just stop swinging for now but when I suggest this she convinces me that she does not want to stop and then we re-engage and the same thing happens again.....this has been going on now for a year and it's really driving me nuts!
  6. Thanks for all of your ideas and thoughts. Let's see, ADD, bi-polar, menopause, fear, pretty much a lot of the things I have been thinking. Another thing, she was raised in a pentacostal environment and I at times feel that she is in general just flat-out scared to death to have fun. She recently had a gynocological exam and tests and the doc ruled out menopause....he did say her thyroid was way out of whack. I am personally leaning toward the bi-polar thing myself.....I don't think that jealousy or insecurity is an issue because all of our interactions with other couples has created nothing but pleasure for us. She is a very routine oriented type of person, feels that she absolutely has to do a, then b, then c, before she can move to d...hope that makes sense!
  7. We are fairly new to swinging. We have been married almost 20 years and have a wonderful and close relationship, completely in love with each other. Here is the issue: The female half of this couple goes from one emotional extreme to the other, I would liken the extent of it to a roller-coaster ride, a violent one at that. One day she is all about it (swinging), the next she is all against it. We go to clubs a lot, she will be having the time of her life one minute and then, just like that, she is ready to hit the road. I can literally watch her body language and predict almost exactly when it is going to happen. She loves interacting with the girls one minute, can't stand it the next. Can't wait to get a couples phone number one minute, then taking an attitude when I ask her has she called them or when she will. Could anyone...PLEASE...help me to understand what is going on here??
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