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titanicmale

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  1. Update: It is always interesting to read how things are turning out, so I thought I would also. The wife of the other couple called me in a panic. She is worried sick with what's been going on. Can't sleep. Can't eat. She asked me what I knew. I told her that I had been threatened that if I talked with either her or her husband that I would be "destroyed" (innocents would be hurt). She begged me to tell her so I told her what I knew. She told them (her husband and my Ex) she talked to me and the threats were made good by my EX. Doing damage control, but glad I'm done with them all. Hindsight:Couples need to have a very strong love and respect for one another or swinging will help destroy the relationship.
  2. MLK, you wrote When she said to me that "you deserve better than me", I told her "I deserved a better you". Unfortunately, this feel on a closed mind. I'm happy for you that you realized you deserve to be happy. I am not as sure as the others above that one day she will realize what she lost. By the way, the abyss is a cold, dark, highly pressurized place from which I am coming out of.
  3. Update: My dad gave me the advice to only say "things didn't work out". Don't say anything bad. I will follow that advice fom now on. I am seeing a couselor. He knows everything. I am feeling better every day. As to the thing I thought could destroy me, I came clean with everyone I needed to. Actually it worked out better than I could have imagined. What a burden lifted off my shoulders. Let the truth set you free!!! To those friends I hurt along the way, I can't say sorry enough. To those friends that helped along the way, including here, THANK YOU!!!!!
  4. I asked her why can't the four of us sit down and talk. She said "no" and if I tried to contact them, she would "destroy" me. Thanks all for the advice. Spoo-witty and wise. I packed a bag and left.
  5. I wrote a long update, but don't know what happened to it. Suffice it to say, she freaked when I suggested the four of us talk and things are status quo. All the different perspectives helped me to step back and see things from the outside. That hit me like a ton of bricks. Thanks to all I'm in a better place. She said I deserve better than her. CURIOUS? Any other advice?
  6. WOW!! Great advice. When I told her to stop talking to him and her, she said I was boxing her into a corner and pushing her away. She talked with both of them that same day. She wants to be his friend and not lose that. I told her she valued his "friendship"ore than our marrige and she used all the same words and arguments she used with the single maleof why I was unfair to take away her friend. Yes, we stopped swinging (and I don't think I will ever again).
  7. You are wise not to even attempt the FFM to please your husband at this time. The red flag I see, even in the FFM, is whether he would be angry with you if you had too much fun with the other woman. I don't think he would react well to seeing you pleasured by another person, female or male.
  8. I thought it ended last week. I have not contacted the other couple. They (both) have contacted my wife, but not me, as I just found out. I told my wife when I found out they were still talking that it needed to stop immediately. She controls her actions. If he calls my wife, she doesn't have to talk to him. I know this is a problem between my wife and me. I value the opinions given and agree. Do you really think I need to talk to him after I have told my wife that the relationship needs to end? Thank you!!
  9. Long time reader. Married about 10 years, in the lifestyle a few years. Started with a MFM, and he tried to steal her away and she almost left. We decided to stick with couples and it is happening again. We went from her saying she is totally in love with me, for the first time can see us getting old together, and never happier to a very bad place all within a week. I told her we can't fix us if she continues to talk with him. What do you think and what do the following really mean: 1. "It's not that I don't love you." 2. "I love you, but I'm not sure I'm in love with you." 3. "He and I have a connection." 4. She doesn't want to give up his "friendship".
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