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Nitati

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About Nitati

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    Healthy, Happy, and Here
  • Birthday 04/26/1981

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple - We both read, but she does all the typing.
  • Location
    NC
  • Swinging Experience
    We've gotten our feet wet... ready to jump in all the way!

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  • SLS Name
    Nitati
  • Favorite Club(s)
    YKW (You Know Where)
  1. Oh, I totally understood where you were coming from since the beginning! I'd honestly rather see weights listed as "0lbs" than a lie! We don't care about people's weights at all... but I come from a family where none of the women lie about their age or weight LOL. We're an odd bunch I guess. I'm chubby and people either love it or hate it... but that's their right. Fortunately for us, the hubby & I tend to think that variety is the spice of life! It does bother me when I see other chubby folks with profiles saying "We're HWP and prefer that you be also!"... or an obviously plus sized wife where a profile says "No BBW's!" LOL!!! Those make me go but again, I guess people are attracted to what they're attracted to!
  2. Actually, I really did wear a size 12 when I weighed 200lbs. Just wanted to let you know that it's *totally* possible due to individual differences in body shape. I now weigh around 225-ish and a size 16 or 18, depending on design (as many here have already stated). So yeah, it's possible that your coworker isn't kidding!
  3. Oh on a side note (kinda off topic, but kinda not)... recently it was said by a single male acquaintance, "If you were my wife, I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off you!" to which I replied, "What makes you think my husband's able to? We fuck like bunnies and we love it!!!" I think his implication was that we are seeking a male 3rd because I'm not satisfied at home? When of course, it's quite the opposite! Daddy keeps *this* mamma VERY happy lol! But as members of this board, I'm sure you're all probably very familiar with how that works
  4. This has happened to us a couple times now. The guy thinks I'm cheating, everything is great! The minute I say "actually... we have no secrets & the hubby would love to talk to you about having a straight, mfm 3some with us" they run. Quickly. Explaining that, for various reasons, they don't think they'd be able to actually "do it". And of course, the only thing left behind is a vapor trail LOL. Add to that the fact that most guys we've come across on Swing Lifestyle *are* cheaters (or lie about even the small things), and we are just dumbfounded and not quite sure if we'll ever find who we're looking for.
  5. No clue about percentages. But, I learned that I could do it while masturbating alone 2 or 3 years ago. I'm more of a "trickler" than a "gusher". I'd given myself multiple orgasms (I'm greedy lol) and kept pushing myself to get just one more. Boy did I ever. For me personally, it is very intense. It leaves me exhausted, drained, and really thirsty for whatever reason lol. It is unlike either clitoral or g-spot orgasms for me... and seriously only occurs after I've already had multiples of both clitoral and g-spot o's. In fact, if I go for a while (a month or two) without at least one good session of squirting, I can honestly feel the buildup. Anyway... As a result, I always try to go pee before sex "just in case". I'm paranoid that one of these days that "gotta pee" feeling might actually come out as pee if I don't go potty first! The ejaculate and urine are *definitely* two totally different substances. It is not an all the time thing, but when it does happen, it's pretty amazing
  6. Women are so beautiful. I've always enjoyed looking at all different types of women. That said, with all my gawking I have never been tempted to so much as kiss another female (not even in my drunken college days) because I love men so much, and didn't get sexually aroused by the ladies. Going to the on-premise club we like didn't make me yearn for a woman's touch either (I just felt like all the girl-girl stuff was "fake" or not fake, but more for the sake of turning the men on, if that makes sense... which only served to remind me why I don't enjoy fmf or lesbian porn). I was set & settled in this knowledge too, until I actually saw a whole group of only women going at it like 6 months ago. Whoa. My mind has not been the same since. But I've still never so much as kissed a woman, lol! I guess it's a good thing my hubby doesn't have the FMF fantasy lol. Even if I do get to finally experience bi-play, I don't know that I would ever be considered fully bi. And rather than FMF I'd rather do FFM where the hubby and I completely devour & ravish the other girl. But then hey, what do I know? I've never actually tried it... yet....
  7. What you've said is so true! It just kind of gave us a bit of a rude awakening for our first experiences on the site (it was immediate blocking lol). Now, we find it a laughable experience But it really did piss us off at the time it happened.
  8. Hey, you guys are moving to NC?!?!?! You were approached by a group??? Should we be jealous? lol.... just kidding about the jealousy thing Happy "early" welcome to our state! Have you already checked out the area you're moving to? Oops... sorry, don't mean to hijack!
  9. Hmm... I just read through this whole thread and my head hurts!!! As a black woman, Chicup I was not offended by any of your comments or preferences. But I can also totally relate to where the female half of Easleyfuncpl is coming from as well. People are all different, and will always continue to be different. Some things that are said or done that I find offensive might not phase the next person. Vice versa. Part of life. I can say though that there have been times where (as per one of my posts within the past couple of months) I was approached several times by men of different races while their female partners were elsewhere... and never by an actual couple. But, who am I to say what these guys primary reasons for that were? I honestly have no clue what they were thinking. For all I know, my most recent incident could have simply been because they assumed my hubby doesn't speak English, or something else crazy like that (which is possible since we choose to speak Spanish when discussing other people in public... rude, perhaps... but it means we don't have to excuse ourselves so often). Mrs. Easleyfuncpl, girl living in the Carolinas is tough stuff as it is. Being part of a mixed race couple is even harder, depending on where exactly you live. I constantly worry about how my kiddos will be treated when they start school (we live in a small, rural town). I'm sorry you were so deeply upset by some of the things that were said, but I don't think this thread should be reason enough for you to leave SwingersBoard! If your experiences have been anything like mine (which I of course don't know, but I'm just saying...), I'm sure you've been through worse racially tense scenarios and survived! At least this one has some really interesting, two-sided dialogue!
  10. When we first joined Swing Lifestyle, we were immediately blocked by 2 couples. We did some searching around to find out what it meant to be "blocked" (you know, that page that pops up)... and saw elsewhere that they "don't play outside their race". We are a mixed race couple, but neither of us is white. It kinda pissed us off since, although we we are open to all shapes, sizes, nationalities, and colors, after seeing them around in person, and on other sites, we would have had absolutely no interest in them anyway. Turns out they're not our type either, lol! But still... Why would we message anyone who clearly states they're not interested in either of us? People have their preferences, and we know what we are and aren't attracted to. That's a fact of life. But with this immediate blocking thing, it felt like they were saying, "You are beneath us and unworthy". I know, that may be irrational... but it's how we felt!
  11. Be warned: This will be a long one. Okay... as someone who's young AND a parent, let me just say that the idea of parents introducing their young daughters to another couple for sexual initiation is ridiculous & antiquated. It also assumes that the girls (I'm thinking the OP meant the 16-18yr old range?) are "innocent", or "pure", or "virginal". Let me be the first to tell you that this is FAR from the case of young people today. They are having 3somes, 4somes, moresomes, and swinging as well (though they don't fully know or understand the names for these things). They are having straight sex, bi-sex, gay sex... in the bathrooms and stairwells at their high schools, or at the mall. They're also doing it in their parents' homes or at their friends' homes. They are drinking & doing many other expirimental drugs that I never even knew existed when I was in high school. This is the modern-day reality of what goes on with teenagers here in the U.S. As someone who used to volunteer for Planned Parenthood and still works with teenagers on a daily basis, I can't even begin to tell you how many 14-19 year olds, mostly girls, were being seen & treated for STD's. It was eye opening, and scary, and it amazes me still how many parents DO teach their kids to "save it until marriage" while never realizing what's going on when their little Lisa goes to Maria's house for a sleepover. More often than not, sex is definitely involved. Heck, our high school's pageant queen was notorious for advocating maintaining vaginal virginity by having anal sex instead. She was quite serious about it... and always gave speeches about "saving it 'til marriage". Now, with that said.... I want you to know that I will fight fiercely to teach my girls that the world is a wonderfully beautiful yet frightening & scary place. I want to answer all of their questions to the best of my ability however keeping the explanations age-appropriate. Age-appropriate means no dirty details unless/until they're old enough to both ask for AND understand them. I hope that I will be able to appropriately judge this because for all intents & purposes, I plan on being fully involved in their lives. I think that only someone who isn't a parent could ever think that something like what the OP is suggesting would be okay. I myself have stated recently that I'd have problems deflowering a 19 year old male and sending him back to his parents' house afterward... and I'm only 27!!! Things like that are just generally considered as morally wrong in our society & culture. Perhaps in some minor culture in a foreign land one could find people who find this sort of thing as an acceptable practice. But I honestly doubt it. Remember the couple who were arrested for having sex in front of their daughter to "educate" her? Or the big stink about that religious sect in TX with all those young moms & pregnant teenaged girls? Even in countries with cultures where they still practice arranged marriages, I don't imagine they are sending their daughters to be sexually trained (in fact, some of them routinely practice female circumcision so that their daughters aren't sexualized at all!). I can understand how the fantasy of something like this could be appealing... particularly to an older, childless male. But the reality of it? It could potentially scar the young girl forever. We parents tread a really fine line because everything we say or do has the potential to either help or harm our children. Being open & honest is far better than being restricting liars. But almost all parents try their best to bring their kids up right, to the best of their ability. I only hope that my kids turn out as well as some of the other posters have said theirs have... I want what's best for them, sure... but I also want them to find out what's best for them on their own & in their own way.
  12. Sure! I develop emotional attachments to people quickly and easily... which isn't necessarily a good thing. On the one hand, it means I make friends with the people I meet day to day fairly easily. On the other, it's made our search for potential playmates a little difficult because most people we come across don't want any emotional attachment at all (understandable) but I'm having difficulty being sexually attracted to people without actually getting to know them, knowing that they only want a one-time only, preliminary type of encounter. Does that make sense? Being poly to me is about the emotional attachment and personal growth that develops, and the relationship may or may not include sex. It's about sharing life & love with deep, meaningful attachment with more than one person at a time. And that's just not something I'm willing to struggle through any more (I guess you can say my priorities are different now). Once upon a time, maybe. But it's risky behavior considering that I already have a husband (we've been together since 15, married since 19) and now 2 young kiddos that I'm putting 110% of myself into loving and caring and providing for. I'm very happy with the loves of my life, and don't want to complicate things any further by falling in love with others. My hubby doesn't share this type of mindset with me at all, lol. But he understands it. Heck, sometimes he understands it (and me) better than I do! He'd probably be able to explain it better as well, but he doesn't talk or type much
  13. We had a seemingly decent guy we've actually met in person (but never played with) send us a msg on SLS from a couple's profile telling us it's him & asking when we want to hook up. No pics on that profile, of course... plus when we met him, he introduced the guy he was with as his sister.... oops! She was definitely a girl upon speaking, but neither looked nor dressed like one (which, there's nothing wrong with that) but it definitely scratched him off the "possibles" list when they both went into a private room together with a group of 3 other girls.... We're no prudes, but !!!
  14. I'm poly... the hubby is not. But he's willing to share, lol Still, the "poly" in me is currently inactive and will likely stay that way for a good long while. Being a wife & mom, and trying to start/maintain new relationships is too mentally & emotionally draining. Plus, I have no intention of living in a menage or commune as I am not the type that believes it's okay to blend families & involve children in something just so the adults can be happy. Perhaps that has something to do with living in a small town... or that we're already a multicultural family? Either way, I don't want to make life any harder on my little ones... though please understand that I'm not by any means knockin' people who do live an active poly life in front of their children & community. It's just not my personal choice to cause mine any undue suffering b/c other people are judgemental & cruel.
  15. Yes, we have similar lines of thinking here. For the time being, we have put off meeting the couple until we talk with them a bit more and see if they'd like to meet us in a totally vanilla way. We would never even think to bring our kids with us at all as we keep them totally separate from anything LS related... and if the other couple's child was anything other than a baby-baby we would never even have considered it! We have come across profiles of couples who say they have to wait until the kids are asleep to play and as responsible, sensible parents, we just can't fathom doing something like that! Not that I am passing judgement, but I don't get it! Our home is sacred to us, and our family, and we just don't want to invite potential playmates here. But we aren't knocking couples who do choose to have people over. It's just not something we ever intend to do.
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