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My personal opinion is that the original poster is proof that some people are single for a reason.

I always think it is funny when people treat Doctors as if they are a special class of people, rather than flawed like everyone else. The difference between your Doctor and your Mechanic is field of study. An MD or a DO does not grant godlike powers, so if you cannot feel comfortable being honest with your physician you should find a new one. Medical records are not safe, and the US has a set of HIPAA laws that basically cost a lot of money to accomplish nothing. But all that set aside along with the paranoia means you should STILL be able to talk with your doc in confidence and without everything being written down. If you do not feel that way, I am quite serious, go get your records and then shop around. Doctors reported in a recent survey that they expected their patients to lie to them and they had to adjust their care plans to allow for it. Wouldn't you rather have your Doctor working from facts, instead of some truth and their ASSUMPTIONS?

Umm kiss method. If you do not want to do it, say no. If this is not an acceptable answer, then find someone else.

Dude, While it is not my cup of tea, as long as you are all consenting adults I do not think you should worry about it. If it sucks (heh) you can decide to not do it in the future. In the words of one of the more brilliant writers of our age;

/honest opinion on I think you should tell him to go to hell. if he objects, tell him to FOAD. /honest opinion off

Umm free advice is only worth the cost, but as a male, I would encourage you NOT to do this. Any play you do outside the bounds of your original agreement (marriage vows, dating exclusively etc) should be a mutual decision. Anything less is unacceptable. With things being as you have described them, I would say that you should not take one for the team, nor subject a single woman to this drama. In the interest of full disclosure my wife has never spoke of wanting a MFM, but if she did, then it would be bloody wrong of me to say no.

To start with IANAP ( heh ) but your assumption is reasonable other than the fact that you will have your self-esteem improve when others are attracted to you, no way you can help but feel good about yourself when that happens. I get a thrill off of how sexy people find my wife, she gets a thrill when someone finds me attractive, and we both enjoy the freedom to be able to let someone else know how attractive they are, basically swing parties/clubs melt it all down and let people be open about their sexuality. People with esteem issues either improve or stop going.

Spoo, you have covered it so eloquently that I have nothing else to say but HURRAH!!!

Thanks, pictures are reordered. We were allowed to see our private pics, so I did not notice.

Okay, give us a shot please. Rip it up, pick on us, we have thick skins :-0 Well, don't pick me on me, I know she is the hot one! heh We are Catslaughing on SLS.

Sounds simple to me. You had a set of rules and those rules were violated. My wife and I have lines we do not cross, and we are both aware that things can happen that break those lines. We accept that nothing can happen in one night that can ruin our relationship but we are aware that things can occur that may strain it. Now you have a few choices; 1. Stop Swinging 2. Readjust your rules so that you can both live with them But let's make one thing absolutely positively clear, you cannot blame the alcohol. Alcohol can only be used as an excuse, not a reason for fault. Alcohol cannot make you do something you do not want to do, but for some reason we choose to let people use it as an excuse, that is purely bullshit.

MFF or FFM would be more fun for me, and my wife, I do not have to be the center of attention :-) but she could be, or another woman could be, we play fair :-)

I think that all emotionally healthy people are poly. We have discussed it and both of us are so alike that if one of us started to get into someone on an emotional level that both of us would be feeling it. Would we prefer to enter into a poly relationship with the right woman? I think we both would choose that over any other situation. But with that said, we do not pursue those types of relationships but rather accept that they could occur, and that we would not fight it. Hell, if we could find a woman that we were able to feel the same way that we feel about one another with, we would not even need discussion to realize it was right. Love is a healthy and positive thing when it is returned and freely given.

With the exception of those who choose dom/sub roles (and within their limits) we personally feel that extramarital fun is only permissable when both parties are in 100% agreement. Lack of 100% agreement is not swinging, is is soloing.

I tend to dress right, so many med have a direction that good tailors will even take it into account when they make your clothing.