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  1. Mr, CA posting... The Mrs. and I recently went to an on-premise club. The people there seemed to run the gamet of ages and body types. Some of the people where quite attractive. I would ques that it all depends on the club and how things are run.
  2. Mr. CA posting... This line says it all. It was presumptuous of me to worry, and little hypocritical on my part since the Mrs. and I use the following tag line on our SLS profile... Don't Worry - Be Happy Neruda's an excellent poet.
  3. Mr. CA at the keyboard... I always enjoy reading your posts LikeMinds. They are not only insightful, but very intuitive as well. I will go out on a limb here. Granted, I (and the Mrs.) aren't even really Newbs yet, we're still `Wannabes' in regards to the lifestyle. That being said, and given the limited knowledge I have of you and your husband's relationship (seems very solid on the surface) I suggest using the utmost caution in this. Why? What can go wrong? The LikeMinds are just that, together in everything. The danger lays, in my opinion, in two things. They are the `future' and what I'll call the `Four Horsemen'. These Four Horsemen are almost guarantied to wreck, ruin or destroy a marriage. Two of them CAN be controlled, they are `choices'. Two CANNOT be controled, they are fate. 1. Infidelity: I have been on the receiving end of this and it's a BITCH! This is widely recognized in the swinging lifestyle community to be a poisonous and ultimately destructive choice. It IS however, just that, a CHOICE. I will grant you that your marriage is strong enough for neither of you to make this choice. 2. Drugs and Alcohol: This can also rack a marriage, particularly if BOTH partners take this to excess. Once again, I'll grant both you and your husband the smarts and fortitude to avoid this choice. 3, Finances: I don't care how much of a financial wiz you are, if the three offshore Casinos you just heavily invested in are destroyed by Hurricane Katrina, and they were under-insured, you're screwed. The point is that this can hit ANY of us at any time. How many marriages do you know of that were wrecked this way? This one involves fate. No one is immune. 4. Health: This is one of the items included in most wedding vows, `in sickness and in health'. There are many medical conditions (and medications for them) that can effect ones libido. What does a person do when faced with choice of taking a medication and living, albeit with almost zero sex drive, OR not taking the medication and getting worse? Once again this is fate. We are all vulnerable. Now we come to the `Future' part. While a marriage can be rock solid today, what about the future? Could one of these Horsemen put your marriage at risk? More important, what is the long term danger in mixing the seductive nature that is usually worthy of a well written Romance novel, in with swinging? Poetry is damn near the single most explosive use of language that I know of. It can be used for great things and tremendous changes. It can also move one to make choices that are not the best, in hindsight. Its just my opinion, LikeMinds, I could well be full of Crap on this one. But I'd be very wary of a young Fabio look a like that quotes `A Statue of Eros' by Zenodotos or `In Former Days' by Bharthari from memory. The allure and attraction of such a man may be much to strong in a time of crisis. Who carved Love and placed him by this Fountain, thinking he could control such Fire with water? translation of `A Statue of Eros' by Zenodotos
  4. Mr. CA writting this post... Thanks for the words of encouragement, LikeMinds321. We popped that off in about ten minutes. Unfortunately one cannot actually read anyone elses profile until one makes their own. How do you write one without an example? Fortunately this Forum has given some good advise. Amoung the advise was not to whine about `we want this and we want that' and `if you can't give us what we want, then DON'T waste our time and yours!!!'. We kept this sound counsel in mind as we wrote. It seems to be working, we've had 15 E-Mails sent in by couples in the first 24 hours. I give the credit to Mrs. CA's fantastic gams and thighs (excellent definition on the legs). I actually stuck a picture of the Old Goat himself (me) on there rather quickly after we were contacted by a `Barbie N Ken' couple. They need to know that a thin male body with six-pac abs does NOT come with the legs! On another topic, I finally put two and two together on Bodyscape's moniker tieing in with a love of photography. Homer Simpson "DOOOAH" on that one !
  5. Mr. CA posting... BodyScape...... I am throughly impressed. Wonderful photog work on a wonderful model. The Mrs. and I have just made our first attempt at a profile on SLS under the CA91709 moniker. All we have up at this point is a shot of Mrs. CA's legs (Oh how wonderful they are). I intend to get more shots up of the two of us. The Mrs. does want to stay street legal and not show her face directly. I don't mind so much in regards to myself. Any and all comments are welcome, remember, we're very new to this so don't be shy in pointing out obvious blunders on our part!
  6. Mr. CA on this post... THAT is the most complete and fullest `other side' of the story I've read in quite a while. While I hate being judgmental, seriously, you've got a son involved. It's best to straighten up now with your wife, in my opinion.
  7. Mr. CA putting in two cents here... NOT having taken the plunge yet (me and the Mrs.), all I can write is some of the advice I've read in this Forum. A couple that plays apart has to have a pretty solid relationship to keep things together. Many couples only play as a team, some not only in line of sight, but within reach as well. If Mrs. CA and I ever take the leap, We'll definitely stick together! From reading your post, it sounds like you and your wife gave a rebel yell and both leapt right in, damning the torpedoes not once, but twice along the way. While I salute your resolve, I do wonder about your bringing in your friends so quickly. It seems a little fast paced to me. I think you and your wife need to talk and you both need to take care of each other first. Just my `take' for what it's worth.
  8. Mr. CA posting... Small of the back on a woman.... very cool. Going back a few threads. Intuition897 had an interesting idea, secret swinger tattoos. Maybe a tattoo of a bracelet design around a woman's right ankle ?
  9. Mr. CA is reponsible for this post... JnCC, in my opinion, you're cluttering some good points on the issue with attacks on individual posters. Isn't a `swing' life style supposed to involve the word `tolerance'? This doesn't mean that one HAS to do something they don't want to. I VERY seriously doubt that you and I will ever meet personally while standing together in a `GB line' somewhere, but that's OUR choice. Let others make their own choices. Grant us the Strength NOT to get involved in something that may be unsafe and the Wisdom to keep our opinions to ourselves and our significant others.
  10. Mr. CA here.... the Mrs. is at work right now. I can understand where your coming from JnCC. Standing in line is NOT my idea of fun. Don't think I'd get into it either. But if someone wants to get something going, its up to them to do it right. I don't think that many women would want to have unprotected sex with a large group of `Stray Dog' men. It just seems that it would be a minority of people that would get into something like that on a whim or a lark. Is a Gangbang that is run with protection any riskier then an multi-partner Orgy? Don't know, there are so many variables such as how well you know your partners, etc. That being said, a GB does have only a single focal point which is being watched by all. A condom slipping off is noticed. The unrestrained indulgence of an Orgy has plenty of opportunity for mistakes and slip-ups with condom use that may well go unobserved. As with any behavior, risk versus reward should be weighed IMHO.
  11. Does anyone know much about Club Amnesty (located in Orange, California) in regards to the groping issue? It seems from the reviews I've read, groping is very actively discouraged there.
  12. Oh heavens, THAT had to be rough! My wife and I always have a rule that We've used over the years with `pics'. 1. NEVER shoot above the neck. 2. NEVER shoot pics in the house, Hotel background shots only. It is to late now, but maybe this advice may help someone else.
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