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JimWActg

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About JimWActg

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 09/16/1953

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  • Relationship Status
    M. Male
  • Location
    South Suburbs of Chicago
  • Occupation
    Accountant - Financial Planner

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  • SLS Name
    JimAndMaryW
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Club Adventure, Couples Choice

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  1. It takes a lot more work to keep on ongoing everyday relationship exciting and new than it does to be excited over your first time with someone different. But it is worth it! It is also the only sensible thing to do to keep your main relationship safe and be in the lifestyle. You two need to talk about it and maybe step back from all of this until you get a handle on fixing it.
  2. Both my wife and I are on our third marriage. I was in the lifestyle with all three partners, she has only entered into it after meeting me. Don't think the lifestyle made or broke any of the marriages.
  3. I admire photos that show some thought was put into them. It is too easy in these digital days to simply strip down and take a pic. I would rather see a picture that reflects a persons style and taste and what their idea of when and how they look attractive. Same as I look for when first meeting someone. Innuendo is much sexier than blatant, at least to me!
  4. I am 51 & my wife (EmpyreanPleasure) is 45. She has been in the lifestyle for 6 years, I have been in it for 32 years. We have been together for five years.
  5. I like to see a shot of the entire person, including face. If it is a little enticing or provacative, in a classy way, that is good also. I am a little put off when someone I don't know sends me a picture of themselves naked or exposing their genitalia in the initial contact. Makes me wonder how discreet they are about other things.
  6. If this was happening all the time or the majority of times you had sex that would be bad and selfish on your partners part. But as all of us in an ongoing sexual relationship know there is hardly ever a perfect match of desires and knwoing your partner is extra hot that night and letting them get the most they can out of it is a great satisfaction all on its own. Of course on another day when it is your turn to have that little something extra going your partner should be just as generous!
  7. Been married for five years, had some involvement in the lifestyle from the start as we were both in it before we met. Married previously for over 20 years and was involved for most of that also.
  8. Actually I have never had an urge to tell anyone outside of the lifestyle that I am part of it. In fact I have gotten pretty good at avoiding it unless directly asked, when I will always admit it. After 32 years I have gotten it down to a science! lol My wife thinks it pretty funny that I have a couple of friends for just about that long who have never even suspected to this day and would be shocked if they found out.
  9. I am 51 and started swinging when I was 19 and a girlfriend took me to a key party.
  10. Swinging does not make your marriage better or worse, it just enhances what was already there. If your marriage needs "spicing up" swinging will just be a delaying tactic until you have to deal with the real problem.
  11. Whenever my wife is jealous or insecure about someone in the lifestyle I try to take it as a compliment that she treasures me so, and a sign that I have not been giving her all the little TLC's that reassure her that she is number one. Once I back off, pay that special attention to her, make sure she knows she is not only number one, but all that matters to me. She always comes back stronger and more secure in the next encounter. Of course part of that is letting her decide when the time is right for that next encounter, whether it is with whomever she was jealous of or a new person.
  12. I can't fathom why anyone would want to limit the scope of what is possible by loudly proclaiming such a specific preference? All of us have either personality or physical traits that we know we like but have we had so much experience that we have defined what we don't like down to that point. I can only answer no for myself, but I think that it is really true for all of us. As my wife already said in this thread we try to hold to a "never, say never, just not right now" theory, not only in the lifestyle, but in everything. Not only am I incapable of judging the book by its cover, sometimes it takes several reads before I realize what a good book it is!
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