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Emily & Art

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Emily & Art last won the day on January 21 2014

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About Emily & Art

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  • Birthday 01/21/1966

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  1. The bigger question is why do woman not believe the guys when we "yes camel toe is sexy as hell" ?
  2. We do friend our lifestyle friends on Facebook. But..... With one important note. We perv there Facebook profile prior to initiating or accepting a friend request. This way we ensure that they understand the meaning of discretion. And we typically only friend those that we have a vanilla connection with as well as a life style connection.
  3. Drama!!!! Lots and lots of drama...... If we went to a club and the majority of couples were fighting. There were hoards and hoards of single guys. Police were at the place. Imagine everything that you don't want a club to be. If we ever found that we wouldn't go back. Unless of course it was a really off night for the club. Then maybe we'd give them a second chance.
  4. The answer to that question depends on what rules you as a couple have established. For me and my sweetie this would be a non starter since we only play same room. Since you two play separately maybe what you need to do is tell your hubby that you'll go for the social aspects, that he can play but when you get home he'd better have saved enough energy to fuck you senseless. Just one possible answer
  5. Hmmm???? So let me get this right: you two aren't swingers. Your wife is more sexually adventurous than you. She might even be trying to slowly work you into swinging. Is that about right? I'd strongly suggest the the two of you start reading Dan Savage's sex advice column (savage love)out loud to one another. It's simple really, read one of the letters submitted out loud then take turns answering the letters writers question then read Dan's answer to the question. This will get the two of you to honestly and openly discuss sex and your joint sex life. It will have the added benefit of opening your eyes to a much larger array of sexual expression and sexual pleasures. Just my two cents.
  6. I think that's the best definition yet.
  7. Hello swingingnot4me, I am so sorry for the pain you are going through! You've already gotten some good advice. So, I am going to refrain. But, I will give you one good resource for possibly coming up with a different way of thinking about this situation. Google Dan Savage "savage love" he is a sex advice columnist that has letters from readers about this very subject. Search his archive for polyamory, cockolding, monogamish, hot wifing, etc etc I think at minimum your wife needs to come up with a way to reassure you that you and your relationship are her main priority. Once she gets that down maybe the two of you can figure out a way to let her have some outside experiences that'll get you both back to that hot crazy sex you used to have.
  8. Excellent idea PA Couple. I will also selflessly volunteer my person to serve on the examiners board.
  9. I'm so sorry this has happened to you!!!! I know what your going through. I've been there done that and got the t-shirt. The only thing I can offer you is that #1 it sounds like your doing the right thing. Your former can't play by the rules you two have established. As you get older and life and your relationship gets more complicated his behavior wouldn't change. # 2 you've gained valuable relationship experience. Your now far better at identifying what it is that you want from a relationship and partner. Again, I'm really sorry your having to go through this.
  10. P.S. we went to our first swingers party full expecting to only do soft swap. Met a couple we still play with to this day and decided to go full swap right there and then. Be prepared that you may change your limits in the heat of the moment. Just make certain that you both agree before you do anything.
  11. Your limits are your limits and there TOTALLY ok. From your first post you pretty much sound like soft swingers (swingers that will only go as fat as oral sex). You just have a little more restriction. Every swinger ive ever met would be more than happy to respect your limits. Just make certain that you express those limits. And that both of you are on the same page about how to express those limits.
  12. Hmmm...... good question. "Can singles be swingers?" I'll answer from a my experiences perspective. We've been in "the lifestyle" for a few years now and the parties we go to typically allow singles. I've noticed that there is a high attrition rate among the singles. There are two that I can recall that seem to keep showing up. But overall it appears that singles don't really last in swinging. I think that is due to the fact that they do get laid but they end the night alone. That's a lonely place to be. Additionally, the couples all bring something to offer to the party, their partner. The singles only bring themselves. In summary, I vote yes, singles can be swingers. But, it's very hard to be a single swinger. Just my two cents
  13. One encounter does not make "that's the way I'll always be". Maybe you were to distracted, maybe you were to tired, maybe the experience was to new. Who knows... could be lots of reasons. One thing I know for sure is if you keep thinking / focusing on it you'll be sure to have the same problem again. Try thinking about it this way. If you had oral sex with the othet woman, fingered her, kissed her etc. Then you had sex with her. You simply didnt have penis in vagina sex with her.
  14. Hmmm.... It took my partner and I three years of talking about fantasizing about swinging before we ever took the plunge. And a suggestion.... start reading dan savage (sex advice columnist, savage love is the column) the wife and I read his weakly column out loud to one another. Then take turns answering the letter writers question before we read his answer. It a great low stakes way to start discussing sex and the alternative options because your not discussing your sex life. Your discussing a letter writers issues.
  15. I know im late to the party here. But Why not just play with couples together and stop with the playing separately? Reading the full thread it seems like he wants a hall pass to fuck who ever he wants whenever he wants. You seem to appreciate playing as a couple more. So Default answer should be we only play with couples together. Just my two cents.
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