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GreenRoomFun

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About GreenRoomFun

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 03/08/1966

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    USA
  • Interests
    Varied
  • Occupation
    Business Owner
  • Swinging Experience
    6 Months
  • Anniversary
    11/11/2002

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    Only ever visited Red Rooster Vegas
  1. Couldn't agree with you more. It took me a while to pluck up the courage to post, and get this out there for 'judgement' if you will, for better or worse. I remain very thankful and grateful to all who have commented and, like you, get a sense that you all are trying to help with a view that our relationship as a couple is first and foremost THE most important of this equation. I love my wife more than anything
  2. Another good, and valid point. It all seems easier to put in to perspective after the fact, from my point of view at least, because at the time we were just caught up in the moment and the excitement of it all without having the experience, or common sense, to think things through a little more clearly. We were kind of like two kids in a candy store. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond, it's all helping.
  3. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond, your input is appreciated I agree with the points you noted, and we will address these issues, among others. As a side note, there are actually a lot of single guys posting on AM. When we began looking for guys to date this seemed like a good place to find people, which it was, but obviously we weren't considering that point of view at the time. Don't worry about 'coming down hard' on me, I would rather hear a valid strong opinion than a vague polite one any day as we look to make things right in our relationship. Thanks again.
  4. That was the understanding and agreement we also entered into this with, both of us at anytime could stop for whatever reason. We always talked before and after, and seemed to be really enjoying ourselves throughout the different stages of it all. That's why this came as such a big surprise to me...everything seemed fine at the time.
  5. He did make us, I believe, both feel more relaxed and comfortable about the whole thing, and even followed with a nice e-mail thanking the both of us for sharing, and commenting on how beautiful, smart and sexy my wife is,which I thought was a nice touch. Thanks for your input
  6. For those of you checking in on updates, we still have not found the time to talk,our lives are currently very busy and hectic, but we will, soon, I promise
  7. Thanks for your advice, It did seem to not come out right in the past when I tried explaining my feelings regarding all of this, which is funny because I'm usually pretty good with words and getting my point across. I also feel, like you, this is important for me to explain to her as I don't think she ever did fully understand the 'why' from my angle, and, for a while at least, was just happy to play and explore her sexuality. As I said before, that's why I'm most confused. We really did go from 'wow' to now with no noticeable signs of anything being the least bit wrong. The before, during and after were all in accordance and sync with having a good time.
  8. I honestly don't know if either of these things happened, or not. But it's certainly a possibility. I know she loves me deeply and cares for me, and our family, more than anything else, so if that did happen, and she felt it was a threat to our stability she would definitely back off, in my opinion. For my part, our relationship, and being happy in it, trumps everything, so I'm treading carefully with trying to resolve the hows and whys and balancing them with preserving what we have built. I still need to know though, if she will talk, because what she said, if true, leaves me feeling like I don't know her at all, and I don't think that's the case. Also, if she never talks and gets it out in the open I think it has the potential to just keep surfacing at times in the future, and I may not know why she is sad or mad at me. Thanks for your input, it is appreciated.
  9. Haven't been avoiding the issue, but no. Hopefully this week, and will post following. Thanks for checking in.
  10. Thank you again for responding. I do appreciate all of your time and genuine concern and input, it really is helping me try and get my head straight again. I will be talking to her, and will follow the good advice on offer. Then I will post the outcome of it all. One quick question - do you think it would be a good idea to let her read these posts, and use them as a sounding board of ideas ? I will also get hold of a copy of the book you suggest
  11. We haven't done any couple swapping, and it looks like that wont ever happen now. For the most part, my suggesting was during foreplay/sex. Sometimes I would suggest at other times, but it was in a lighthearted way. Her reaction during sex was usually excited, but she may only have been fantasizing while I was being serious, not sure there. She did say occasionally that I should be careful what I wished for because I might not like it. We always read/sent emails together for the most part, and I always had access to her email accounts to read and see what had been said while I was out. I dont believe she hid any messages etc. We met the men through Ashley Maddison, and yes, the men didnt seem to understand the situation, except for one who had experience swinging, and permission from his wife also. I believe that was one of her best experiences. Thank you for your input.
  12. Thanks for responding We came to the decision to hotwife/swing after years of suggestion by me leading to fantasy play and then one night she said she would. I'll never forget that night. I admit I was persistent, but do not feel I was ever aggressive, threatening or punishing her for not acting out our fantasies. One day she just excitedly said she wanted to try, so we did. With regards to communication to play partners, everything was completely open and honest. She made a point of telling them she was married and playing with permission in the emails. Some of the responses were astounded at our agreement, but that never stopped them wanting to see her.We used to read/send emails together. It was very exciting and erotic for us both to participate in the whole planning stages. Feel free to continue to speculate as the more input I receive the more ideas I get for an in-depth talk on the whole subject. She has always been confused as to why men are willing to enter into this lifestyle if they truly love their wives, as I do. So any help on explaining that one would be appreciated. As I mentioned before, I think she is stuck somewhere between accepting the physical fun side of this for what it was, sex not love, and the reasons she has for feeling regret/remorse.
  13. It looks like we are in a similar situation. Let me know if your wife opens up at all, and I will also share any information I get that might be helpful. Thanks
  14. Thank you for responding. I'm working on hopefully getting it all out in the open this weekend if circumstance permits, and sincerely appreciate your input and advice. The (funny?) thing is, prior to playing we spent hours reading forums such as this and taking advice, learning from others mistakes, do's and dont's etc. and spent many a night talking in bed about all aspects of respect/boundaries/safety and most importantly of all, as everybody kept stating...communication! We always talked before and after, and didn't hold back on topics such as jealousy/emotional attachment etc..which is why I'm confused this didn't surface sooner.
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