Member of the Week - bellsandwhistle

[JustAskJulie]

We are happy to welcome another new member to the hot seat this week.

This week's Members of the Week is BellsandWhistle. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

Swingers Board interviews are a way for us to get to know each other better. It is a way to acknowledge just how wonderfully varied a community we are. Every Sunday, a new interview will start and the old interview will be locked. Be sure to stop in and get to know them better by asking them every nosy, intimate, personal question you can think of.

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We'll start each interview with a few overview questions to get things started:

Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
Website (your own or one of your favorites)

[bellsandwhistle]

Gender (if not a couple): We're a couple.
If a couple, which one primarily posts: N does (the lady)
Age(s): 30 (N) and 29 (in July, for S)
Birthday(s): 2/9 and 6/16
Location: Massachusetts
Relationship status: Married
Swinging for how long?: Little over a month; thinking about it on and off for years.
Prefer to swing with: Couples
Biggest Pet Peeve: Lack of open communication.

Brief Intro: This was posted in our member intro...

We're newish to the lifestyle and have so far had a fun time, both i meeting new people and with our first experience in the bedroom.

I found this site (the lady) when I was researching about swinging. We've been together for almost six years and are at a point where we were ready to add a little bit of friskiness to our relationship. We are very much in love and committed to one another, and so far it's been cool, as we've found other couples in the same boat.

We're hoping for some fun, comfortable times and new experiences to share together. We'd like to check out a club sometime, too, or a party. For some reason, I've felt more comfortable meeting folks on AFF, and feel a bit intimidated by the club/party scene. I'm hoping to break that comfort zone, though, because I know I'll be a fan.

I have had some fun on cam, too, but I'm trying to behave and focus on my graduate studies and work for the time being. Cam is very fun, but ultimately time consuming.

We're both excited to see what the future holds in this playful lifestyle.

Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one): On AFF and our name is ssdnbld
Website (your own or one of your favorites): swingersboard.com, CNN.com, etsy.com, facebook.com, trashy.com, wikipedia.org, the LOL! cats site, AFF, and so many more!!!

[DE_BBC]

First off...love the avatar/profile pic. you're one sexy lady...but I'm sure you get that a lot.

My question is: What has been you most erotic/hot lifestyle experience thus far?

Don't worry...I'm not expecting a "letters to Penthouse" type of reply....I just find it exciting to learn what a woman finds erotic/hot/sexy when it comes to meeting new people in the lifestyle.


Thanks.

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by DE_BBC

First off...love the avatar/profile pic. you're one sexy lady...but I'm sure you get that a lot.

My question is: What has been you most erotic/hot lifestyle experience thus far?

Don't worry...I'm not expecting a "letters to Penthouse" type of reply....I just find it exciting to learn what a woman finds erotic/hot/sexy when it comes to meeting new people in the lifestyle.


Thanks.

Thank you.

We've had a few lifestyle experiences thus far, and our first was our hottest for a few reasons.

First off, it was our first. That in itself made it really HOT!

The couple was also experiences in the lifestyle and they were able to make us comfortable. They made the first move, but we were ready.

We were both nervous, but all four playing together was awesome - sexy, playful, funny, relaxing and a million other things.

I personally like the couple were playing with to make the first move. I've made the first move, and it's ok, but I prefer the other couple to make it.

I'm also exploring (somewhat) the bdsm lifestyle and my husband is supporting me, although he's not really interested. I don't want to go totally off subject, however, I think it might be fun for us to explore the art of bondage with a couple/single who has experience. My husband may be interested in that aspect of bdsm.

[sweet_tna]

If you were a book, what your your title be, and in what section of the bookstore would you be found?

=)

[bellsandwhistle]

Let's call it Play by Jacques Derrida (how meta of us) I thought it'd be fun to choose an author for our mythical book. Since I have a girl boner for JD, and he had a lecture on "Structure, Sign, and Play in the Human Sciences", well, I'm a dork and couldn't help it!

We'd prefer to be a philisophy book lost in the humor section.

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

If you were a book, what your your title be, and in what section of the bookstore would you be found?

=)

[lizandtom]

Originally Posted by bellsandwhistle

I'm also exploring (somewhat) the bdsm lifestyle and my husband is supporting me, although he's not really interested. I don't want to go totally off subject, however, I think it might be fun for us to explore the art of bondage with a couple/single who has experience. My husband may be interested in that aspect of bdsm.

What aspect of bsdm interests you? For us I never knew the Mrs. had any interest at all until we were at a Vegas swing convention and lo and behold she ended up in the middle of a breast bondage demonstration. Very informative I might add; there's a lot more to it than one would think

[JustAskJulie]

What are your favorite (vanilla) things to do together? And what are your favorite ways to relax?

[FlyRiteBy]

Hi S and N! One question, pertaining to your first... Other than of course, sexual feelings, could S and N give us a candid bank of the thoughts going through their head at the mention of the idea, when meeting the couple that night, and right before and after your activites. Think of the "Blind Date" captions they have while they're showing the date. If you need clarification, ask .

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by lizandtom

What aspect of bsdm interests you? For us I never knew the Mrs. had any interest at all until we were at a Vegas swing convention and lo and behold she ended up in the middle of a breast bondage demonstration. Very informative I might add; there's a lot more to it than one would think

I'm interested in different aspects, and I'm continuing to explore.

I am very intrigued by the art of bonadge - breast bondage and other, as well! I need to read more on that aspect of the bdsm lifestyle.

I have played online with a mistress and she's been introducing me to various aspects of the bdsm lifestyle. We share limits and have a mutual respect for one another which helps to keep boundaries defined.

I enjoy roleplay, somewhat, but I'm not into taboo elements such as watersports, scat, blood play, gross humiliation, etc.

I know I like nipple play, various ways of dress (nothing gimpy - more sexy outfits), blindfolds, spanking, etc. I guess you could say that I'm kinky, but not that kinky.

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What are your favorite (vanilla) things to do together? And what are your favorite ways to relax?

We enjoy hiking, reading, playing with our Wii, travel, cooking, spending time with friends and family, catching up on our fav shows on the DVR, maintaining our aquarium (45 gallons with tropical, non-saltwater fish), shopping, movies, and tons of other stuff.

I also really enjoy a good bath. Love the girly, smelly bath treats such as bath bombs, and bubbles. He has been hitting the gym a lot lately.

We both love gathering information via the interwebs.

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by FlyRiteBy

Hi S and N! One question, pertaining to your first... Other than of course, sexual feelings, could S and N give us a candid bank of the thoughts going through their head at the mention of the idea, when meeting the couple that night, and right before and after your activites. Think of the "Blind Date" captions they have while they're showing the date. If you need clarification, ask .

Mentioning the idea of swinging with a couple:

N - "I think this will be a lot of fun!" "I'm so nervous." "Is our relationship going to be ok?" "Will I be jealous?" "Will he be jealous?" "Is this normal?"

S - S claims he was cool with everything and didn't think much about it.

Meeting with the couple:

N - "Do I look ok?" "I hope they look like their pictures." "They're really funny and charming, so I'm sure we'll be friends even if there's no attraction." "I am SOOOOOO nervous!!!"

S - S says he was concentrating on making sure I was ok.

Both - "We hope they're not serial killers!" (This was kind of a joke, but not at the same time.)

Right before the activities:

N - "They're cute. I'm glad we came over here." "Good personalities." "I wonder who's going to initiate." "Maybe nothing will happen." "I need to go to the bathroom."

The guy of the couple walked me to the bathroom and kissed me when I came out, swooped me up and brought me into their bedroom. Then I thought/said to him, "Are they ok out there? Are they coming?" He went and brought my underwear/bra out to my husband and his wife and then they joined us in the bedroom.

S - "Wonder what's taking so long?" "Weird that the guy brought underwear to his wife." "Wait, that's N's bra." "Here we go..."


Was this what you were looking for?

[FlyRiteBy]

It was great! Hit it on the head. I especially love S's last comment, classic!

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by FlyRiteBy

It was great! Hit it on the head. I especially love S's last comment, classic!

It was fun and funny to write that out.

[FlyRiteBy]

I hoped it would be, thanks for the entertaining answer!