Member of the Week - Olycouple

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Ok, you can talk my ear off anytime. I have to say I highly enjoyed your introduction, as well as all that you had to say.

So just what is your personal definition of swinging?
Are you strictly looking for couples? Single females? Males?

I have a few free moments so I (Mr. Oly) will try to field this. My answers tend to be more clinical in nature, so for me, my personal definition of swinging is:

An interpersonal relationship, however brief, wherein the purpose is obtain some type of sexual gratification from a person other than your spouse/partner. With the consent, blessing and aid of your spouse/partner.

At the moment we are looking for couples but that does not mean that couples are the only thing on the menu. If we were to meet a single, of either gender, that both of us were compatible with and attracted to I bet the clothes would fly faster than you could say "use our latex free condoms".

Mr. Oly

[SnowwwWhite]

Originally Posted by olycouple

Oh, damn! Where?

Hahah! I'm so much like that... I just can't stand grammatical stuff. I feel your pain.

I don't think it was a grammatical error actually. You used the word "and" instead of the word "an" in the last paragraph. I do it every once in awhile by accident and go GRRRRRRRRR!!!! :\

Don't worry... you're (hehehe) writing is sooooooooo good compared to most on the internet. I need to check out your blogs!

[Alura]

Don't sweat a little typo, Mrs. Oly. Like the rest of us, the more you write, the more errors you'll make. The real sin is in not taking a chance.

For y'all, where does "soft swing" end and "full swap" begin?

I have to agree that your area is one of the most beautiful in the world, although Dal Lake in Kashmir would win that contest, in my opinion. Except for what seemed to be overpopulation to our hick Okie family, we loved it. But you must understand, we've been to Slap Out, Oklahoma.

Mr. Alura

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by Alura

For y'all, where does "soft swing" end and "full swap" begin?



Mr. Alura

Hmmm...to me, and correct me if I'm wrong, soft swing would/could entail touching and sexual stimulation without genital penetration. Touching would be the softest...oral play would be flirting with becoming full swap. Full would be a complete trading of partners, but in the same room. I have no plans ever of doing anything without Mr. Oly there to watch and be watched. I know some people move in that direction, but, even with another woman, I still feel like it would be cheating if he weren't there. I don't need a girlfriend or a lover outside of my marriage. So, unless Mr. O is getting something out of it, too...I wouldn't be involved. Just my opinion.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by Olycouple

I don't know...what would you do to get us naked? (Am I allowed to ask questions here? )

We would get naked first to make your more comfortable, then the red wine, then...

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by LFM2

What brought you into the lifestyle?

Of course a hearty sexual appetite helps but the main reason was I have always really enjoyed seeing my partner being pleased and the lifestyle facilitated taking that to a whole new level. Do not get me wrong, I too really relish the thought of being pleased by someone else.

How long have you known each other?

As Mrs.Oly said Jan of 2005

Who brought up the idea of swinging?

It was me who brought up the idea and her answer to this question did the conversation no justice.
I remember some tears shed during that first conversation over the thought of me "trading her away". Mrs.Oly is not a drama queen and the whole tearing up thing really concerned me as I could tell it really worried her. Thank god our communication skills and emotional maturity were up to the task as the whole thing could have gone south fast. After a few days of reading this site she was put at ease and found the whole idea very liberating, adventurous, and loving (in the sense that one would be so unselfish as to want to see their partner pleased by others in a way that they alone could not do).

Mr.Oly

[gatorvol64]

I "get you". I laughed out loud at your introduction. It was great.

I really think I'd like to live in Washington State. I do NOT like hot weather and wouldn't you know? I live in Florida. Mrs. Oly, where did you live previously and was it a hard adjustment for you to make initially?

Vol

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by gatorvol64

I "get you". I laughed out loud at your introduction. It was great.

I really think I'd like to live in Washington State. I do NOT like hot weather and wouldn't you know? I live in Florida. Mrs. Oly, where did you live previously and was it a hard adjustment for you to make initially?

Vol

WA is beautiful and I have no plans of turning back. Yikes! Florida! I've always wanted to visit the Keys and take home a 6-toed cat (huge Hemingway fan!). But, I've been to the South, and I can't stand the humidity...I don't know how you do it. I've lived in lots of places; the last place was Idaho. Not too far way, but a continent's worth of difference! I grew up vaguely Catholic...but suddenly when I was dropped in the middle of southern Idaho, I came across a species known as the Mormon. Now, I try hard not to be judgmental (who am I kidding, I'm completely judging!), but, I have never lived in a place where I truly felt like the unwelcome minority until I lived there. I spent 4 years trying desperately to get out. So I moved to northern Idaho...and to my chagrin, found we were in the midst of a neo-nazi sect (the even had parades!). I think they no longer have quite as many members calling that beautiful country home, but, I don't think I'd ever go back, just the same.

[theCHERRYSs]

..if we aren't attracted to body, mind, and soul...we're out.

• What is it about another persons (or couples) body that attracts you both?

• If you met someone or a couple who matched your requirements for body and mind but their soul was shot to hell, would that be a deal breaker for ya?

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by theCHERRYSs

• What is it about another persons (or couples) body that attracts you both?

• If you met someone or a couple who matched your requirements for body and mind but their soul was shot to hell, would that be a deal breaker for ya?

Well, I'll speak for myself and let Mr. O answer on his own if he chooses (though, we are pretty similar here). Pre-apology for the long response...but by now, you all are probably learning we are a rather wordy pair.

For men...I'm into a wide variety - I, however, do not really like men to be shorter than me or thinner than me (doesn't mean I'd turn 'em away, though, if other elements were working for me). If they look like I can break them, I'm not interested. My fantasy men are broad shouldered and healthy/fit, but not overly large or cut; and I've always been into Latin men. But, fantasies are not always reality, and in reality I'm attracted to a lot of men for many reasons. Oddly, red-headed men don't tend to appeal to me, though red-headed women do...hmm...go figure. Blue eyes also make me weak. I'm not against older "silver foxes" and I'm not necessarily looking for a perfect physique. I just look for a little pride, some sexy self-confidence, and some ellusive, alluring, sometimes hard to pin-point detail that grabs my attention (i.e. sexy calves...beatiful hands...a chiseled jawline...a well-shaped bald head...a tattoo...an interesting sense of style...etc.) It's so hard to define, because it often what some may call a "fault" in appearance that I am drawn to...a scar, an "oddly" shaped nose, an asymetrical feature.

I like my women like I like my fruit: not too soft, but not too firm, plump and succulent, ripe and juicy, healthy and subtley fragrant (skinny women just aren't hot to me). Brunettes preferred (though I could go any way). Blue or green eyes. I think the hubby and I have a similar vision of women we both like, though he is pretty appreciative of most women in most forms (ha ha!). In fact, we found ourselves considering our waitress the other night. He seemed pretty impressed, but she was tall and (too) thin in my opinion, and even though she had a beautiful face, it just wasn't doing it for me. I'm a big fan of the Vargas girls - '40s pin-ups always seem to be so soft and lovely). But, once again...it's the unique features that draw me in. I'm not drawn to the "cookie-cutter" type girls...especially the ones whom I know won't look like that in the morning.

As for the mind, body, soul thing: Well, appearance is what draws a person in. Hate to say it or admit it, but looks DO matter. If you look sloppy, flabby, or disheveled, is says something about you as a person and I'm not going to be attracted (this goes for the background in your picture, as well - messy houses, Star Wars posters tacked crookedly on the wall behind your naked butt, and too much clutter are icky). The mind?- well, intelligence is hot. If I start talking/writing to person and they tell dumb/sexist/racist jokes, know nothing about the world, or giggle stupidly whenever I say something, it's going to turn me off immediately. And soul? Well, if you're lacking it, don't come knocking. Though it's a tough thing to define, to me soul is what makes you a good person (a relative term, I know), but a good person is more likely to be an honest lover/partner. That's important here.

Hubby and I have a "no playing on the first date" thing going and are currently "soft swing" only. So, we are taking our time getting to know people before we play. When we peruse profiles, we are drawn in by the photos (G-rated preferred), then we skim to see how long the profile is. If it's too short, we don't even read it. If it's long...we dive in. We want our couples to have something to say, to make us laugh, and pique our interest. We try to do the same! We are a package deal, but we are "packages" unto ourselves, as well. People are little gifts...some we treasure...some are fun for a short time...others we immediately return or exchange. I like presents with allure, meaning (not necessarily deep), function, simplicity, and form - in that order.

Mrs. Oly

[sweet_tna]

I thoroughly enjoyed your introduction. It was as entertaining and informative as your posts.

My question: If you were a book, what would your title be? In what section of the bookstore would you be found?

=)

[olycouple]

Mrs. Oly and I share an uncannily similar taste in women, although, I am still learning her reason for being attracted to certain guys. There are exceptions like the other night at our favorite resturant

In fact, we found ourselves considering our waitress the other night. He seemed pretty impressed, but she was tall and (too) thin in my opinion, and even though she had a beautiful face, it just wasn't doing it for me.

I found this woman attractive due to her classic look; high heels, nice late 50s early 60s black dress, brunette hair, gorgeous light brown eyes, high cheek bones most likely of Mediterranean decent and the nylons. Yeah, it was the nylons, thin fishnets with a black stripe running from her heels to "the promised land", that stayed perfectly straight all night. She was thinner than the usual type of women I perv (think Venus De Milo for an example, arms are hot though!). For me though classic is so much more sexy than contemporary styles. Plus it didn't hurt that she was very friendly and had a good knowledge of wine :
As far as the mind, body and soul thing goes the only part I have add to my lovely wife's answers is to the soul portion. I would give a definitive yes to the TheCherryss question of

* If you met someone or a couple who matched your requirements for body and mind but their soul was shot to hell, would that be a deal breaker for ya?

I get really uncomfortable around people who I know are unethical, dishonest, or just plain a dick. A couple could be hotter than hot, both have p.h.d.'s in stand up comedy, but if during dinner treated they wait staff like less that human or tried to skip out on part of the check, I could guarantee I would want nothing to do with them.
I think Mr. Alura's signature line sums it up best!



Mr.Oly

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

I thoroughly enjoyed your introduction. It was as entertaining and informative as your posts.

My question: If you were a book, what would your title be? In what section of the bookstore would you be found?

=)

Okay, we'll field this together.

Mr. O = "The Obsessive Compulsive's guide to being spontaneous without looking like you have Tourettes" in the nonfiction-humor section.
The subtitle would be "Do you ever just want to scream "Cumbubble" instead of hallelujah in church?"

Mrs. O = Oh, boy...I could so over think this one...but I'm going to try not to. How about "Skydiving Naked in Your Living Room" and it'd be in the self-help section or the psychology section. I have a deep tendency to live big in my mind...hence the "skydiving"...I also very much think about sex a lot of the time...hence the "naked"...and I'm a very big, fat chicken; I talk a good game and have lots of fantasies of living on the edge, being spontaneous, etc. but I don't really jump out there and embrace the "danger"...hence the "in your living room." I like to pretend I'd be brave enough to do a lot of things, so I write about them instead. I also sort of like the title "Confessions of a Closet Call-Girl"...cause I'm a very dirty girl in my head.

[gatorvol64]

Thank you for sharing your lives and thoughts with us!!!

Vol