Member of the week - LikeMinds321

[gatorvol64]

This week's Member of the Week is LikeMinds321. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

Swingers Board interviews are a way for us to get to know each other better. It is a way to acknowledge just how wonderfully varied a community we are. Every Sunday, a new interview will start and the old interview will be locked. Be sure to stop in and get to know them better by asking them every nosey, intimate, personal question you can think of.

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We'll start each interview with a few overview questions to get things started:

Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
Website (your own or one of your favorites):

[LikeMinds321]

Gender: Female

Age: I'll address age this way, I've finally gotten used to the fact that my age starts with the number 5.

Birthday: I'm a Virgo.

Location: Midwest

Relationship status: Married to my first husband and don't plan to have a second.

Swinging for how long?: I've been involved with the Swingers Board since January 2004, so I consider that my swinging start, but if you want to know when MrLM and I had our first sex with swingers, it was later that same year.

Prefer to swing with: Couples

Biggest Pet Peeve: Customer service people who are lousy at their job.

Brief Intro: Married for over 30 years, I'm a private person who enjoys time by myself or with MrLM. We have lived in the country for 30 years. No kids - by choice, have a couple cats and we run a business together.

Picture: I won't be sharing a picture of me, but you can see part of our yard in my profile picture.

Website: The Swingers Board continues to keep my interest.

LM

[Chris&Amelia]

Hi LMs!

What brought you guys into the Lifestyle?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

Hi LMs!

What brought you guys into the Lifestyle?

I brought the topic up.

I told MrLM that I didn't want to die having had sex with only one man my whole life.

He was very understanding, we discussed swinging seriously but the more we talked the funnier and more stimulating it became. I then came to the Board to research the subject and educate ourselves about something we knew nothing about.

LM

[JustAskJulie]

How old were you guys when you first got together? You mentioned in the last post that you didn't want to die having only had sex with him.... so he was your first? How did you meet?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

How old were you guys when you first got together? You mentioned in the last post that you didn't want to die having only had sex with him.... so he was your first? How did you meet?

We met in college, I was 17 and he was 23, and yes, he was my first.

Sexual exploration was not a big thing for me back then. I was more interested in finding a guy who liked me. I had almost zilch dating experience when I entered college.

MrLM and I had great fun dating and learning about each other. It was a unique relationship from the start, I think, because neither of us ever set rules or said we won't date anyone else. We never thought of our relationship as 'going together.' Both of us were free to date others and we did.

LM

[Dynamar]

LM...

You're definitely one of my 'board heroines'!

I noticed we're both Virgos and we share the peeve of bad service.

If you were in a position teach service employees and managers about doing their jobs better, what would you have them learn?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Dynamar

LM...

You're definitely one of my 'board heroines'!

I noticed we're both Virgos and we share the peeve of bad service.

If you were in a position teach service employees and managers about doing their jobs better, what would you have them learn?

Gee, thanks! The word "heroine" takes me to one of my many fantasy scripts (I like to imagine being a screenwriter) where I've placed myself in the role of a heroine from the late 1800's...visualize me running around in a long cotton dress, cinched up in a some lovely undies, and men wanting to peel all that clothing off me. In my stories I decide to do something out of the norm and work my way into a world run by men and I take over and rule!

As a Virgo, you've probably had the same fantasy.

I have thought about how I would teach customer service people, if I had the opportunity. My response may get long, and I'm heading out the door now, so I'll come back later and post on that subject.

LM

[lovinher]

Ahhh, my favorite poster with my second favorite Avatar.
What was you major?
How often do you swing? Do you go to clubs? Are you into couples, singles?

Do you work for the phone company?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Dynamar

If you were in a position teach service employees and managers about doing their jobs better, what would you have them learn?

In the interim, I realized that I have taught others how to provide good customer service, and get business clients in the process.

The focus of my class was to help small business people who were taking all the calls or had only one employee to do the job. I new the market and so was very comfortable talking about it.

Large companies are a different thing, I'm not in touch with what they have to deal with, so my advise on handling customers may not be applicable to big business.

My approach: listen well and use your brain. Don't rely on assiting people using stock replies. Two customers can say the very same thing, but how they say it and what you hear in their voice can tell you how different the two people are and what they need from you. It takes being intuitive, and I think that can be taught.

My biggest frustration with CS people is that they don't care about helping you, I can hear it in their voice. Good CS people know how to develop rapport and ask questions in order to problem solve more quickly, and if there isn't a problem - just a matter of selling - you definitely need to know how to ask questions and provide answers on multiple levels to sell your client.

I never like being pushed on to another person, then another, and another, simply because the previous person can't answer a few simple questions. I like developing a relationship with one person over the phone, I think the chances of solving issues (or me deciding to buy) is so much better when I feel rapport developing with one person.

Which brings me to ethics. I have never tried to sell someone on something that I don't feel is going to give them what they are seeking. Money has never been the bottom line for me, and I think I'd find it hard to convince most businesses to accept my lesson plan because of my belief.

LM

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by lovinher

Ahhh, my favorite poster with my second favorite Avatar.

Goodness golly, thanks for the nice words!

What was your major?

I didn't continue college after completing two years because I couldn't decide on a major and I wasn't interested in putting out the bucks to get my B.A. when I had no game plan for a career. I was an average student and didn't enjoy school that much.

As a child, I considered school a prison for children, and I couldn't wait to grow up, move out of the house and be free.

My main interest in starting college right after high school was to meet boys, get some dating experience and become a more social person. I met MrLM within days after starting college.

How often do you swing? Do you go to clubs? Are you into couples, singles?

We haven't been focused on sex with others for the past few months, it wasn't a formal decision, it just happened that way. We've been busy with other things and aren't perving the profiles or heading to the club like we used to. With the warm weather coming on we'll want to get out for some fun. We tend to stay close to home during winter.

Our pattern of swinging over the years has varied, depending on how many compatible couples we meet, but we have typically met with people or headed to the club at least once a month.

We play with couples, although we've always been open to considering singles should we come upon some that we like.

Do you work for the phone company?

LOL! Heck no. You couldn't pay me enough.

LM

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

As a child, I considered school a prison for children, and I couldn't wait to grow up, move out of the house and be free.

I was the exact same way.


Ok, here's my scenario for you:
You've been chosen for a very special honor. You get to host a dinner party (don't worry, someone else will do all the work). This will be a traditional multi-course dinner, with plenty of time for good food, good drink, and good conversation.
You are to invite 5 people to attend. Those five people must be "real", but they can be from anytime in history.
So, who does the lovely LM invite to spend an evening with her and her husband?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

I was the exact same way.


Ok, here's my scenario for you:
You've been chosen for a very special honor. You get to host a dinner party (don't worry, someone else will do all the work). This will be a traditional multi-course dinner, with plenty of time for good food, good drink, and good conversation.
You are to invite 5 people to attend. Those five people must be "real", but they can be from anytime in history.
So, who does the lovely LM invite to spend an evening with her and her husband?

This would be wonderful...especialy knowing that "someone else will do all the work"...and I presume that all the housecleaning is included in that condition.

I haven't consulted with MrLM on this, however, since he knows of my interest in these people I'm sure he'd love spending an evening with them.

Living

Bonnie Hunt
Joel Sartore

Dead

Oscar Wilde
Raymond Carver
Brenda Ueland

If we all got along well - and I think we would - I'm sure sex would be a part of the evening.

LM

[fun4Ds]

Do you give to charities or do volunteer work of any kind ?

Not necessarily who too or for. But how much.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Do you give to charities or do volunteer work of any kind ?

Not necessarily who too or for. But how much.

I give money and blood. How much of each varies, but I have been most consistent with the blood donations over many years.

I've never done volunteer work. Maybe someday, but I think I might find it frustrating if I didn't care for the way the person/organization ran things. I'd no doubt be expected to shut up and work, and that isn't my style. If I see room for improvement or have an idea, I like expressing it, even if I don't think it will be accepted (because I realize I don't have the best ideas all the time).

I'm not good at being quiet and passive. I suppose what stops me from doing volunteer work is I have concerns - whether valid or not - that I'd be expected to do things without questioning them and I would find that hard to do.

LM