Member of the week - rpu3

[gatorvol64]

This week's Member of the Week is rpu3. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

Swingers Board interviews are a way for us to get to know each other better. It is a way to acknowledge just how wonderfully varied a community we are. Every Tuesday, a new interview will start and the old interview will be locked. Be sure to stop in and get to know them better by asking them every nosey, intimate, personal question you can think of.

Try to ask only one question (or group of questions) per post, to make it easier for the interviewee to answer the questions, and also to allow for others to ask their questions.

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Also, please keep in mind that any answers you post are viewable to complete strangers. There is some risk in that. Again, all questions are optional.

We'll start each interview with a few overview questions to get things started:

Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
Website (your own or one of your favorites):

[BiloxiCouple]

What type of meeting environment do you like? Club/Social/Meet&Greet/PersonalAds?

[rpu3]

Gender (if not a couple)
Female

If a couple, which one primarily posts:
I am married, but I post as an individual under my own screen name. The Spousal Unit rarely posts (rpu99).

Age(s):
39

Birthday(s):
September 18

Location:
Ohio

Relationship status:
Married (12 years)

Swinging for how long?:
Well, it is hard to say given we’ve stopped and started based on interest, etc., like many do. Further, given the occasional debate over the true definition of the term “swinging”, some would say our open marriage and implementation of the same does not qualify as swinging.

So, perhaps it’s easiest to say that I/we have not exercised the traditional monogamy-based marriage since mid-2004. That should cover it!

Prefer to swing with:
I’m kind of reserved and quiet, and I really just prefer those who aren’t pushy and who are more laid back than I am. Being a good conversationalist, intelligent, funny (I enjoy sarcasm quite a bit) and easy on the eyes is a great mix to me. It’s hard to describe what I prefer – I simply know it when I see it. The Spousal Unit is far more outgoing/open than I am and has a much easier time meeting and talking with people, so his preferences are quite different than mine.

Biggest Pet Peeve:
I can only have one? But today is one of those days in which everything peeves me!

Bad drivers… okay, pretty much any driver on the road besides me, my neighbors, people telling me to “relax”, people at work who take the elevator for to go up or down ONE floor, people who bring very small ill-behaved children to a $25 and up entrée type of restaurant, jerks, people who mistake quiet people as snobs or as rude… okay, I'll stop.

Brief Intro:
I am an almost-middle-aged semi-professional member of the middle class. I spend most of my time worrying, fretting, overthinking, obsessing and overplanning, and augment all of that with an unnatural and probably unhealthy side obsession with cleaning, legal research, making money, travel, carb-counting and all things internet.

I am a typical Virgo and fit my ISTJ type descriptor rather well – I am on the extreme side of all four measures. My “Big 5” (OCEAN) score (the test my spouse as a psychologist likes better than Myer-Briggs) is even worse. All three probably explain the whole overthinking/control freak side of me. And the judgmental biatch part, too.

Otherwise known as an "...average everyday sane psycho and supergoddess...", in Liz Phair speak.

Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
I have a picture in my profile.

Website (your own or one of your favorites):
If I'm not here, I'm often looking at the headlines at Fark for fun or on LexisNexis for work. Or at People for my celebrity gossip fix.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

What type of meeting environment do you like? Club/Social/Meet&Greet/PersonalAds?

If we are meeting with another couple and we've not met before, we'd prefer to meet at a club. At least if it doesn't work out, then all can happily go on their separate ways.

When we met with single men, it was easier to meet at a bar or coffeehouse.

I really prefer meeting at a club now. It's just easier and no pressure. If we don't hit it off, I still have a nice night out with The Spousal Unit, and others have the option to do as they see fit. Far more effective for our time and money IMO.

[fun4Ds]

Whats your favorite kinds of books to read ?

Favorite movie ?

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Whats your favorite kinds of books to read ?

Books are hard. I used to be a voracious reader until a couple of years ago. I could read 5+ books a week. Then I obtained a laptop and became addicted to reading all sorts of internet stuff instead of books. I'm slowly moving away from the laptop and I've actually gone to the library a few times in the last three months.

Anyway, I'll read just about anything except for most sci fi or fantasy. If someone suggests something with a compelling reason as to why I should read it, I'll consider it.

I just finished Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and have started Reading Lolita in Tehran by Azar Mafisi, which I hope to finish by this weekend. I did what I thought was unthinkable and read all of the Harry Potter series, and actually thought those were pretty good.

Favorite movie ?

I'll often watch American Beauty, Before Sunset, Bread & Tulips, The Godfather or Amelie if it's on a non-commercial channel, even though I've seen these a gazillion times. I'll plunk those in the computer or DVD player as well. I like foreign flicks quite a bit, maybe because it occupies my brain a bit more having to read the subtitles in addition to listening to tone and facial expressions. If I want a laugh, I'll watch Clerks - I like a lot of Kevin Smith's stuff. My favorite list changes depending on my mood.

Of course, what I like is the exact opposite of what The Spousal Unit likes, so I end up back at the computer or I'll read a book because there is only so much John Wayne, Clint Eastwood or other forms of war movies I can watch before I want to poke my eyes out. And I'm sure that's a vice versa for him!

[sweet_tna]

How'd you meet the Spousal Unit? (I love that term, btw. Mr. Sweet is oft referred to as The Husband Fixture)

=)

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by rpu3

If I'm not here, I'm often looking at the headlines at Fark for fun

Hi from a fellow Farker! There is at least one more I know of on here, and a couple that I strongly suspect.


What's your dream car?

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

How'd you meet the Spousal Unit? (I love that term, btw. Mr. Sweet is oft referred to as The Husband Fixture)

I met The Spousal Unit at work. I was loaned out to his group two hours a day. He took that to mean he was my boss two hours a day and liked to push off all his b.s. admin work on me since I couldn't say no without being fired. Then he decided that he liked hanging around my office to talk to me even though every time he walked in my first response was "no" and my second response was "are you sure you aren't supposed to do that yourself?" and all that was usually followed up with "Are you going to yap through my lunch hour? In case you haven't noticed, I like to read at lunch, not talk to assholes."

Not that any of this mattered; I was fired about 4 months later for being in a relationship with him. He got a promotion. Go figure.

It kind of explains our relationship being antagonistic, sarcastic and full of teasing/harassment (all in fun and it's generally a lot of fun, actually - we are kind of weird). I now refuse to do all sorts of things now that I can't be fired for it and I try to boss him around a lot. And I have an unnatural hatred of typing labels.

[JustAskJulie]

What's it like to live in the Swinger Capitol of the US?

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Hi from a fellow Farker! There is at least one more I know of on here, and a couple that I strongly suspect.


What's your dream car?

If I could just be handed a car, I'd love to have a 1968 Corvette or a 1968 Mustang. I like American heavy metal and '68 seemed to be a good year. I used to be kind of good at some car repair/restoration before cars got complicated, so it would be fun to either find a good one, or find one and try to restore it.

/So, do you do the Photoshop Contests?
//Ever submitted a headline that actually got a green light?
/// NTTAWW not having done either of these things. I try with the headlines and have yet to succeed. I'm usually too late.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What's it like to live in the Swinger Capitol of the US?

Strange, actually.

Having lived in the Los Angeles area a good chunk of my life, it seems odd that this state is just chock full of swing clubs, meet & greets and nude campgrounds while So. Cal. was very quiet on the swing front. I always figured if we had started exploring swinging while we lived there, we would have actually went to Las Vegas to check out the clubs there.

Go figure. It's nice to have options in Ohio.

[gatorvol64]

I've always enjoyed your posts and attitudes. Your open marriage gives you some totally different vantage points to see things.

Do you and your spousal unit (I really like that) know the others friends with benefits? Or even friends with them yourselves?

Vol

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by rpu3

/So, do you do the Photoshop Contests?
//Ever submitted a headline that actually got a green light?
/// NTTAWW not having done either of these things. I try with the headlines and have yet to succeed. I'm usually too late.

No, I suck at teh Photoshop.
I've also never had a green light, even though I submit with funnier headlines.
- Actually I'm usually too late too when I do try.

So, what kind of music gets rpu3 excited?

Aaaand, you've probably answered this before, but, where does the screen name come from?

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by GatorVol

I've always enjoyed your posts and attitudes. Your open marriage gives you some totally different vantage points to see things.

Thank you. It provides a different perspective, and we are happy with the way we do things for the time being. Other times, it’s harder to participate as we don’t spend the majority of our “alternative time” doing straight-up swinging. But it works for us, and this Board is my best fit for interesting discussion of sexual alternatives.

Do you and your spousal unit (I really like that) know the others friends with benefits? Or even friends with them yourselves?

Thanks re: liking the Spousal Unit. I just have a weird quirk about using “my spouse” or “my husband”. I only say a version of “my spouse” about 10% of the time in any domain. However, using his name on the Board doesn’t quite feel right either. And the other two nicknames I use for them are worse. One makes him want to puke although it’s fun to say it in front of people who will torture him mercilessly once they hear it; the other makes me look kind of mean, since it’s kind of sarcastic.

Anyway, where was I?

The Spousal Unit knows my friend, and I think they are casual friends, at a bare minimum. I think they like and respect each other, and they seem comfortable conversing and hanging out when we are all together. The spouse says that he is comfortable enough to hang out with our friend by himself if I wasn’t around or went off on my own, and they’d have a good time since he likes our friend’s company and conversation. Our friend has adapted well to the spouse’s sense of humor and his attitude and outlook, and seems to treat the Spousal Unit respectfully and in a friendly manner in return. Anyway, my spouse considers himself friends with my friend.

The Spousal Unit decided relatively he wanted to look into a similar arrangement for himself. Being a married male, he has a harder time meeting others. Right now, he’s been very lucky in my opinion; he’s had a lot of opportunity just basically fall into his lap recently. So, his possible friendship(s) are just developing and thus I’ve not met them, save for one. I’ve met her, she seems nice enough and it’s certainly respectful and polite, but we’ve not developed any friendship. There’s nothing wrong, but timing hasn’t worked out well to actually meet again, and it’s not necessary. Only time will tell on what happens on the spouse’s end and how any friendships might develop. At a bare minimum, I’d prefer to at least meet his friends, just like I would in vanilla life.

Can you tell I'm avoiding putting together the state taxes (it's done, I just need to assemble the W-2s, etc.) and cutting the check? I figure I have until 11:45 p.m. tomorrow to sign the check.