Member of the week - Fun4Ds

[gatorvol64]

This week's Member of the Week is Fun4Ds. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

Swingers Board interviews are a way for us to get to know each other better. It is a way to acknowledge just how wonderfully varied a community we are. Every Tuesday, a new interview will start and the old interview will be locked. Be sure to stop in and get to know them better by asking them every nosey, intimate, personal question you can think of.

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We'll start each interview with a few overview questions to get things started:

Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
Website (your own or one of your favorites):

[fun4Ds]

Gender (if not a couple):

Man and a woman

If a couple, which one primarily posts:

Mr.fun4ds is the primary poster with all posts approved and edited by Mrs.fun. Many times we talk about the ideas of others, here and away from the screen. But we spend allot of times sitting here together in the evenings. Its winter in Indiana. We do allot of talking in the winter months. Mr.fun4ds(aka.the man) is on early in the mornings. Mrs.fun anytime during the day between work hours.

Age(s):

Both 46 yrs .

Birthday(s):

Mrs.fun, June 1st. The man, Oct.25

Location:

Indiana

Relationship status:

Married 28 yrs

Swinging for how long?:

6 yrs.

Prefer to swing with:

Couples and singles, Primarily with Single females now

Biggest Pet Peeve:

Mrs.fun, Don't eat out of the pan while I'm cooking.

The Man, Doors that are half opened. Either open them, or close them.

Brief Intro:

Mrs.fun is from a family of 9 kids 4 boys 5 girls.
The Man, has 5 sisters
We have 3 adult children 2 sons 1 daughter that are now married with 4 grand children. Have we mentioned that we are family oriented

Website (your own or one of your favorites)

Swingers Board, Brads place, swinglifestyle.com. and lets not forget Bob and Tom.

[gatorvol64]

I've been looking forward to your interview.

This is an issue with us (more so with our quad than with swinging) and I don't recall what you've said on the subject. You have three adult children. Do any of them know? The swinging really wasn't anything that our children should have known about. Not any of their business. However, due to the parents of one of our youngest son's friends, he found out. Long story and not a fun one. Although he wasn't happy about it, I truly don't think he or our oldest had as much a problem with that as they do our quad. I sometimes question if we've handled either situation well with our sons. That's a bit normal for me. If your children don't know and were to find out, how would you handle that and how do you think they'd feel about it?

Vol

[JustAskJulie]

You mentioned that primarily swing with single females now, how did that come about? are you just primarily seeking single females? Or have things just progressed to where you have found it easier to swing with single females?

[fun4Ds]

KaBoooom... Gatorvol, Couldn't ya have just asked us how we feel about condoms?

Our kids do know about our lifestyle. As do some, if not all of the mans side of the family. We have always shown respect for our children's privacy while they were growing up. It was like, we didn't make them clean their rooms. If they wanted a messy room so be it, It was their space their privacy. If the door was closed the door was closed. Somehow with that, it turned out they invited us in, and in return we invited them in. When they had problems they came to us, but only after we had shown that there was no punishments for what they would come to us with, no matter what. They saw us as loving parents that had regular problems, when they would occur we would always say "We will get through this" Its passed on in their marriages now, They are the ones that say "we will get through this".

Our lives are different because when our son(the oldest) first found out, he just said "Oh you guys are swingers" pretty much played it off as nothing. Our kids are all close enough that within a few hours they all knew. They talked amongst themselves before they brought it back to us. They put things together and knew we would let them bring any issues to us, they couldn't understand. They pieced it together that mom was always really close to her friends. What we didn't know ourselves at the time they picked up on. Kids know more than they admit to. A closeness that was above the (normal friends) like their friends had.

We really didn't have to explain a whole lot. Like We say they grew up knowing they could talk to us about their private stuff like sex, and they did. Some of the stuff as they were growing up talking to us, actually shocked us. We always showed confidence that Mom and Dad were o.k. They wouldn't have to be concerned about us as much, as we worried about them(their lives). Their normal lives, that they were facing growing up. If that makes any sense. Its just accepted without asking personal questions about our sex lives.

Our daughter was watching me here on the swingers board the other day. She had came into the room and asked what I was up to. She knows. I couldn't hardly shut things off in panic. I told her we had met Julie and some other people from the website and how this was a discussion group about how we live(our lifestyle) Its not a porno site and she is married so she thought it was pretty cool. She was more interested in what I do to help Julie with keeping her website clean from spam, and trash like nasty sites. It wouldn't surprise us if they were all at home waiting to see what our answers are here.

What they know and have learned from us, is that they can have normal marriages. Normal lives. We as a couple have always tried to set an example that our marriage comes first. We made their lives safe to grow up normal. We focused more on them than us.

[Alura]

Great post, Fun4DS! Laura and I could talk with you two for days about ideas on raising kids. I think we'd agree on most issues!

How old were each of you when you first had sex?

Mr. Alura

[des1re06]

I applaud the relationship you have with your children. Respect and communication are so important. We are very similar in our style.


What's the most fun you've ever had at an event?

[sweet_tna]

Kudos to you both on having such a great relationship with your kids. I wanna' be like ya'll when I grow up!

Describe your idea of a perfect weekend.

=)

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Mrs.fun is from a family of 9 kids 4 boys 5 girls.

Mrs. fun, I grew up with the exact same configuration of kids in my family. Where do you fall into this mix?

How do you prefer to meet the people you play with? Do you often go to clubs or do you like to meet over coffee and/or drinks and dinner?

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

KaBoooom... Gatorvol, Couldn't ya have just asked us how we feel about condoms?

Our kids do know about our lifestyle. As do some, if not all of the mans side of the family. We have always shown respect for our children's privacy while they were growing up. It was like, we didn't make them clean their rooms. If they wanted a messy room so be it, It was their space their privacy. If the door was closed the door was closed. Somehow with that, it turned out they invited us in, and in return we invited them in. When they had problems they came to us, but only after we had shown that there was no punishments for what they would come to us with, no matter what. They saw us as loving parents that had regular problems, when they would occur we would always say "We will get through this" Its passed on in their marriages now, They are the ones that say "we will get through this".

Our lives are different because when our son(the oldest) first found out, he just said "Oh you guys are swingers" pretty much played it off as nothing. Our kids are all close enough that within a few hours they all knew. They talked amongst themselves before they brought it back to us. They put things together and knew we would let them bring any issues to us, they couldn't understand. They pieced it together that mom was always really close to her friends. What we didn't know ourselves at the time they picked up on. Kids know more than they admit to. A closeness that was above the (normal friends) like their friends had.

We really didn't have to explain a whole lot. Like We say they grew up knowing they could talk to us about their private stuff like sex, and they did. Some of the stuff as they were growing up talking to us, actually shocked us. We always showed confidence that Mom and Dad were o.k. They wouldn't have to be concerned about us as much, as we worried about them(their lives). Their normal lives, that they were facing growing up. If that makes any sense. Its just accepted without asking personal questions about our sex lives.

Our daughter was watching me here on the swingers board the other day. She had came into the room and asked what I was up to. She knows. I couldn't hardly shut things off in panic. I told her we had met Julie and some other people from the website and how this was a discussion group about how we live(our lifestyle) Its not a porno site and she is married so she thought it was pretty cool. She was more interested in what I do to help Julie with keeping her website clean from spam, and trash like nasty sites. It wouldn't surprise us if they were all at home waiting to see what our answers are here.

What they know and have learned from us, is that they can have normal marriages. Normal lives. We as a couple have always tried to set an example that our marriage comes first. We made their lives safe to grow up normal. We focused more on them than us.

Oh my Gawd, we've found our twins!!!! All the way down to the messy bedrooms. There are other things more important than that. Just no Grandkids yet. Just when....

[MRSfun]

Julie,
We wanted to get together this evening and answer these questions together but the man is going to be late with other commitments. Since some of the questions are directed towards me, Ill log in separate and answer as best I can.
[quote]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

You mentioned that primarily swing with single females now, how did that come about?

I guess I should start early in my life with this. Because its where we began our discussions and going with my bisexuality. When I was young, we played a game back then called spin the bottle. I thought it was o.k. kissing the girls and the boys. I didn't know. Then I found out I was the only one in the game that did. After the bottle landed on a girl in the group everyone laughed and I just kissed her. I knew then I liked that, it was different than with the boys. I liked both. After I realized they were laughing at me, I acted like it was just a mistake and hid this side of me way deep. I always had the feelings for women but it was just labeled wrong. I went with that throughout life. We were listed as me being straight for a long time when we joined this lifestyle.I really fought it but slowly showed my interests. Then one evening a single Bi female kissed me at a party and I knew what I felt was O.k. and really exciting. Then began our talking and experimenting slowly. We just talked pretty much the first year. This past year has been the real opener for me to explore it with my partner. He has really made me feel like I have all the freedom I needed to feel comfortable. I think him showing me this wasn't about him, it just makes it more about me. I like that.

are you just primarily seeking single females?

Yes, for now. But don't get me wrong. Sometimes I want men as well.

Or have things just progressed to where you have found it easier to swing with single females?

Yes, after searching and searching the web we were more successful meeting a few single bi females at the clubs. Then I have one girlfriend that lives close and she loves spending time with me as well as the weekend with us.

[MRSfun]

[quote=Alura;306892]

Great post, Fun4DS! Laura and I could talk with you two for days about ideas on raising kids. I think we'd agree on most issues!

Thanks you guys, that would be a good conversation.

How old were each of you when you first had sex?

We were both 16. It was his birthday. I'm a little older so it was his sweet sixteen birthday gift. The man, couldn't resist my charm.

[MRSfun]

Originally Posted by des1re06

What's the most fun you've ever had at an event?

The meet up in Nashville was really the most fun we have had in quite a while as far as lifestyle events go.

[MRSfun]

[quote=sweet_tna;306959]

Describe your idea of a perfect weekend.

Relaxing, sex , more relaxing followed by more sex and then more relaxing.

[MRSfun]

[quote=LFM2;306963]

Mrs. fun, I grew up with the exact same configuration of kids in my family. Where do you fall into this mix?

brother, brother, sister, sister, ME , sister, brother, brother, sister.

Maybe thats why I like being in the middle of things. Like a threesome

How do you prefer to meet the people you play with?

In our home once everyone is comfortable with that. We check the clubs for possible playmates. I am the one who stalks the ladies or couples on sls

Do you often go to clubs or do you like to meet over coffee and/or drinks and dinner?

We check out our regular club 3-4 times a year. If meeting a new couple or single bi female, we prefer a drink somewhere public so if things are all good we could order dinner. Or if things look like (no way) we can run after a drink.That does happen once in awhile.