Member of the week - GatorVol64

[fun4Ds]

What would be an ideal vacation getaway ?

[SevenTech]

Originally Posted by cplnuswing

When both couples initially started swinging, was a poly relationship something that was on your mind at that time?

Who's better, Tim Tebow or Peyton Manning

i would say no not really. What kitten and I were looking for was a small circle of about 2-3 couples that we could hang out with. Kind of a friends with benifits relationship. Kitten and I are very different personality wise and hobby wise, so we figured we would need to find a group of friends to spend time with. We never thought we would ever find one couple that we have so much in common with.

[SevenTech]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Hi GatorVol64 & SevenTech ~

Regarding "things like that"...

Since you all get together at least once a week, how often do you all have sex?

Once you found yourselves in a poly relationship, has sex been as big a part of why you are together as it first was when you all started out as just two swinging couples?

LM

"Since you all get together at least once a week, how often do you all have sex?" as often as possiable. As Vol said earlier sometimes we just get together to go out to lunch, dinner or a movie. Then there are times we just want to spend the night with each other.

"Once you found yourselves in a poly relationship, has sex been as big a part of why you are together as it first was when you all started out as just two swinging couples?" I would say the sex is not as big part of why we are together as it was when we first started. It is just a natural part of our relationship as any normal married couple.

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Did all four of you arrive at the realization at the same time that this was more than "just sex"? Or were some of you falling for each other before the others did? How did all of that work out?

When you four are together, is it mainly straight swap MF MF? Separate play or all together?

The kids who were told about your relationship: how did they respond? Do they understand, or is understanding this a process for them to work though?

I just knew you'd have questions that gets to the meat of things.

No, all four of us didn't get here at the same time. Gator and Kitten jumped in "the deep end" as Tech says. Right from the beginning. They didn't develop a "foundation" as I like to say. Kitten and Gator are more open to giving and receiving feelings. Tech and I don't let people in easily. We took more time to get here and have more under us as a result. I was in denial longer than any one. Due to an issure with our youngest son (Gator and Vol) we got slapped in the face with just how much we all do mean to each other. It was an eye opener for me. Gator and Kitten didn't have the foundation under them that we did and had to go back and get that. Going back steps is difficult. Slow and steady is what we aim for now.

We've done it all those ways and FMF as well as MFM. We started with the sex, the way we have it and in what configuration hasn't changed. Love adds to it.

Kids that have been told are all but one of them and that will be soon. He's the oldest of all five and in the Air Force. He's home on leave since last night and Tech and Kitten will be talking to him any day now. Then we'll finally get to meet him! Since I started with one of Tech and Kitten's children, I'll continue with them. Neither of the other two have a problem with this at all. They are really starting to treat us like family. Everything is good there.

Now for our children. Our oldest didn't have a problem with it (he was the first to be actually told). Said as long as we were happy he was. He likes Tech and Kitten. He's started voicing some objections lately. I'm not exactly sure what changed for him and he hasn't wanted to get into it with me. Gator just hasn't had the chance to get to talk with him. The oldest also works shift work and has a 3 month old. Our youngest...well, he's been the most vocal about things by far. Disrespectfully so. He'll need time to go through a process to accept it all. And he'll be our biggest supporter once he does. He's been quite lately and I hope he's getting through it all. To be fair to my children I have to admit that their reactions are partly our fault. We raised them in church. Now, we don't regret that at all. We just didn't raise them to think for their selves in that regard. We, Gator and I, blindly followed what we were taught also. We've since questioned that and now decide after our own bible study what we believe. When I can get my children to question and search for the answers their selves, things will be better there. This is our hardest problem at the time. The attitudes of our children.

Vol

[SevenTech]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

What would be an ideal vacation getaway ?

during summer or winter?

for Kitten it would be a beach trip for about a week. doesn't matter what beach any will do.

For Tech it would depend on if it was winter or summer. If it is winter a hunting trip to Canada. If it is summer it will be a month on a small South Pacific island just south of Bora Bora

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

What would be an ideal vacation getaway ?

For all four of us at once?! I'm not sure there is an ideal vacation that fights all four of us at once. To be ideal, it'd have to have a variety of things. Where ever we go, we manage to have a good time. Just depending on where we are, some have a better time than the others.

The truth is, right now, we are just thankful to get to go somewhere together. We all seem to like to travel a bit. We are looking into what to do for St. Patrick's day now.

Vol

[gatorvol64]

Who's better, Tim Tebow or Peyton Manning [/quote]

There is only one right answer to this question and that is the Heisman trophy winner Tim Tebow!!!

Gator

[fun4Ds]

This is one you all will have to concur on, but given this scenario:

If you all were on the show survivor and on the same team, who would be voted the team leader and why?

[SevenTech]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Are ya'll planning on taking the relationship further? Any discussions yet?

if by further you mean actually moving in together, I would say that we have talked about it. right now my family (Tech) is the only one that we have come out to, so to speak. My dad doesn't know yet but he and mom divorced over two years ago. It's not that I don't talk to him, I just have not talked to him about our relationship. My mom and my sister know and my boys know.
and they are cool with it.

We all feel that the immediate family should know about all of us before we really discuss moving in together.

[SevenTech]

Originally Posted by Alura

We heard how the two couples met, but how did the members of each couple meet?

Mr. Alura

well Gator and Vol answered previously so I guess I can chime in on this one. Kitten and I met while we worked together at a factory in a small town named Opp, Alabama. I was working my way through school and Kitten was married at the time. We started off as friends and thats when I found out that she was not only married but it was an abusive marriage. I won't say that I rescued Kitten because I didn't, Kitten just needed someone to believe in her so she would believe in herself. Kitten has always been a strong person when she had confidence in herself. She just didn't have the confidence in herself that she could make it on her own.

I will be the first one to tell you that Kitten didn't leave her first marriage for me. She did that for herself and the boys. So after her divorce was final we realized that we were good frineds and actually had a lot of fun together and the relationship just grew from that. Vol sometimes tells me that it is a bit of a romantic story, I fail to see that at times. But we have been married for 13 years now, so i guess we are doing something right.

[SevenTech]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

This is one you all will have to concur on, but given this scenario:

If you all were on the show survivor and on the same team, who would be voted the team leader and why?

i don't know if i would even want to be team leader...now if you asked who would be voted "designated smart ass" that would be me...haha

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

This is one you all will have to concur on, but given this scenario:

If you all were on the show survivor and on the same team, who would be voted the team leader and why?

We each have strengths in different areas so deciding would be very difficult. We would probably wind up rotating the responsibility as none of us like to be "told what to do". We are either a leader or a rebel or a combination of both.

Gator

[Alura]

I'm wondering if y'all are familiar with the books by Robert H. Rimmer?

They include:

The Harrad Experiment (written 1962, published 1967) and,

Proposition 31

The Harrad Experiment is a novel about a newly-founded Massachusetts college in which gifted students were hand-picked to live in a sexually free environment while doing their undergraduate work. Roommates were male/female and assigned to each other based on personality traits. (Later they were allowed to choose roommates themselves.) Other than normal university studies, the curricula included sex education, relationship studies, life problems, morality, etc. The book followed a group of students from their Freshman year through graduation and the intertwining relationships that evolved.

Proposition 31 was a sequel involving four graduates of Harrad (two men, two women) who formed a ployamorous relationship and moved to California when the state passed "Proposition 31," a fictional law which legalized multiple marriages. One aspect of the novel that sticks in my mind is the ingenious design and construction of the home they built for themselves and their children.

If y'all haven't read Rimmer, you should!

Mr. Alura

[cubnamy1995]

This is for the guys. I am curious of this one particular dynamic. I can only speak for myself in that:

1) More than one woman naked in bed = fun
2) More than one woman getting on me for saying something completely jackass = not so much fun.

I would imagine that the two guys have a brotherly-type relationship. If a disagreement arose, would you be more likely to side with your legal spouse, or with your same-gender partner?

[sweet_tna]

Oooh, good question, Cubnamy!

I was thinking along similar lines with the ladies: As part of two couples, do you ever "dish" on your own husbands like most girlfriends do, or is it too tough to do since you have that attachment to the other spouse?