member of the week - Celtic239

[JustAskJulie]

This week's Member of the Week is Celtic239. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

Swingers Board interviews are a way for us to get to know each other better. It is a way to acknowledge just how wonderfully varied a community we are. Every Tuesday, a new interview will start and the old interview will be locked. Be sure to stop in and get to know them better by asking them every nosey, intimate, personal question you can think of.

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[BiloxiCouple]

Wanna get naked?

Just wanted to get that one out of the way

[BiloxiCouple]

Seriously now.

How did ya'll get into swinging?

[celtic239]

Profile

Couple (55/54)
Location: NY
Relationship: Married 27 years
How long swinging: Very curious about getting into the Lifestyle
Pet Peeve: Obnoxious people
Intro: I (the husband) learned about the lifestyle almost by accident. The Mrs, just after menapause, out of the blue stated that she wasn't interested in sex anymore. Not looking forward to a life of celebacy (I wouldn't go out and cheat) I hit the internet hard trying to find a "cure" for female sexual dysfuntion. I found out that while there were medical reasons in certain circumstances, for the most part, it was psychological. While I was reading some of the web site forums someone, similarly situated was give advice to look into clothing optional resorts. Others sites stated that maybe she was just bored with the husband. We spoke about her "condition" or as many posters on this board are fond of saying "communicated" about this predictament. I made arrangements, with her knowledge, to spend out belated 25th wedding anniversary at a clothing optional resort. I told her that she was under no pressure to put on or take off any article of clothing or engage in any activity. We went there and after an hour she began to relax. We just spent time together and she fell in love with the ambiance of the place. What I liked was that the people there were some of the most down to earth individuals that I had ever met (nothing like the sterotypes that are dipicted in the press/TV). I was very comfortable around them and so was the Mrs.
I came across this web forum during the search and found that the people who participated here were very down to earth also. I asked for and received great advice. I purchased many Black Lace books for the Mrs., surprised her with nice gowns for our second trip to the resort a few months ago and generally the best advice that I got was from the women on this forum. They have posted that she should't be pushed into the Lifestyle and that it should be her decision and at her pace. Well just yesterday we were talking about taking a weekend for ourselves (the kids are all grown up) and I suggested hitting a swingers club. She didn't say yes but she didn't say NO. I guess maybe the pace is picking up?

[JustAskJulie]

Wow. thank you for sharing that bit of history with us. I may copy it and use it to start a new thread as it got me to thinking about something that I won't divert your interview with.

Was your mention of visiting a swinger club the first time you have brought up swinging to her? If not, will you tell us about that discussion?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by celtic239

Life is NOT always about being content and happy. When people get married and have children you sacrifice many if not all of your "wants" in life.

celtic ~

I read this comment you made in another thread and thought it was good advice.

Would you mind elaborating on this thought?

Also, how do you balance your wants along with your wife's and your children's?

LM

[BiloxiCouple]

How long have ya'll been thinking about swinging?

[celtic239]

LM321 - I classify life into "needs" and "wants" which change when one goes down life's timeline. The biggest event on that time line was getting married and then having children. Before I got married I only had to worry about myself (school, work and career planning). After marriage and then the kids, well I thought it was my obligation to take care the needs of the family (shelter, food, clothing and education for the kids). The best I can recall we only took one family vacation to Florida. My Mrs has family in Ireland and several trips were made there over two decades (her wants). For the most part it was work, save for the downpayment on the house, make mortgage payments, tuition for kids school (grammer and high school). I guess my only 'want' during that time period was wanting to have sex a lot more than I was getting but the lack of sex was just something I had live with. Now that we are in our 50's, the kids are in college and the house almost paid off I thought that getting involved in the Lifestyle would be more exciting than joining the Golden Age Society, playing cards at the town hall and going on trips to Atlantic City to play the slots.
Biloxi - been entertaining the idea of swinging for about two years now.

[rpu3]

If she decides swinging isn't going to be for her, will this be okay with you, i.e., was the exploration enough? Is the exploration helping or hindering your sex life?

[prettylady]

I found your post to be open and honest.
Did you always have this level of honety? or is this something you discovered while exploring the lifestyle.
I learnt my communication skills while learning about swinging, they seem to go hand and hand.

Your friend,
Prettylady