Member of the Week - CplnuSwing

[JustAskJulie]

This week's Member of the Week is CplnuSwing. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

Swingers Board interviews are a way for us to get to know each other better. It is a way to acknowledge just how wonderfully varied a community we are. Every Tuesday, a new interview will start and the old interview will be locked. Be sure to stop in and get to know them better by asking them every nosey, intimate, personal question you can think of.

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We'll start each interview with a few overview questions to get things started:

Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
Website (your own or one of your favorites):

[cplnuswing]

Ok, here we go:

Gender: couple.

If a couple, which one primarily posts: usually him.

Age(s): 39.

Location: Georgia.

Relationship status: married.

Swinging for how long?: about eight months.

Prefer to swing with: couples, although open to threesome with right person.

Biggest Pet Peeve: people who only think of themselves, rudeness.

Brief Intro: We've been together 20 years, married for nearly 18. Outwardly, we are fairly reserved but we both have always had a wild streak lurking underneath that the other brings out in us. We enjoy the Lifestyle because it gives us a chance to step out of our conventional work/eat/homework/sleep repeat the next day lives and just be free to have a good time with some really fun people.

Website (your own or one of your favorites): Swingers Board

[JustAskJulie]

Who initially brought up the idea of swinging? And how did that conversation go?

[sweet_tna]

No fair, Julie--you took my question!

Soooooo . . . What's your preferred method of meeting playmates?

[cplnuswing]

He did, but kind of in an answer to her question. Every summer over the last few years, we would plan a "wild weekend" getaway just for us. Maybe a trip into the city for a nice dinner, toy store shopping trip, nice hotel. Another year was dinner/hotel with strip club visit.

The time came to plan the next trip and when he asked her what she had in mind for this trip (we kinda take turns), she ran down the list of what we had already done and said she was having trouble thinking of something new. So, that's when he brought up the idea of an on-premise club visit. Researching what club would be best led us here, which led us to the Nashville Meet-up where we had a great time along with learning about the Lifestyle and receiving some great advice, which led to Swing Lifestyle profile, and here we are today.

The initial response was probably a 60/40 mix of intrigue and hesitancy, mostly from fear of the unknown. It brought up lots of good conversation though, and from the start we totally agreed we are in this for us as a couple, not individuals. Too, we had reached a point in our lives where we were working too hard and not getting out enough together, and on the rare occasions we did, it was very vanilla. We decided that, more than we realized, we had missed the fun times and shared experiences we used to have that were part of what solidified our relationship when we first met. It is just so easy to get caught up in the daily grind, and we knew we had to make a conscious effort to get out of it.

Long answer to a short question

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

Soooooo . . . What's your preferred method of meeting playmates?

Probably Swing Lifestyle, followed a close second by on-premise clubs. Like most people, we are time-limited, so the whole Swing Lifestyle back and forth can be hard to make work, but we have met several compatible couples there.

[ktownkrazy]

Hello guys, nice to meet you. so did you guys start off looking for couples or single bi females? i ask because we are have been looking for a sbf for a long time. at one point we started checking on couples because unicorns are so hard to find and we felt like if we were ever going to be with another woman this was the route we would have to go. it didn't take us long to decide that a couple wasn't really what we wanted. and we have been on the hunt ever since. do you feel like alot of couples turn to other couples because single bi females are to hard to come across?

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by ktownkrazy

Hello guys, nice to meet you. so did you guys start off looking for couples or single bi females?

Nice to meet you too. We are interested in couples, so it is hard to give any first hand perspective on finding SBFs or whether some who play as couples are really just interested in the female. Just an opinion, and although that scenario surely happens, it doesn't seem to be the best way to approach the problem since you are "settling" for something you didn't really want to begin with and also isn't fair to the other male.

[LikeMinds321]

Hi CplnuSwing ~

Nice to see you starting off the Member of the Week interviews again.

1. Do you stick together when at clubs, or find yourselves sometimes separated when visiting with people?

2. Which of you is the most social and does the best job of making a great first impression?

3. Do you have a way of signaling each other when you are interested in someone at a club?

LM

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Hi CplnuSwing ~

Nice to see you starting off the Member of the Week interviews again.

1. Do you stick together when at clubs, or find yourselves sometimes separated when visiting with people?

2. Which of you is the most social and does the best job of making a great first impression?

3. Do you have a way of signaling each other when you are interested in someone at a club?

LM

Hi LM.

1. Mostly stick together although we do sometimes separate for a little bit. Outside of the club environment, we may separate too to kind of get a few minutes of one on one conversation with the opposite half of the other couple. For example, meet for dinner then leave to go somewhere else. He might ride with her, she with him. We wouldn't do this though unless we already know we are interested, are in familiar surroundings, and are extremely comfortable with them.

2. That's a good question, hadn't thought about that before. Not sure there is a cut and dried answer, probably depends on the situation and what sort of chemistry each is feeling. If riding the fence isn't allowed , then her.

3. Finished with an easy one. We can usually tell what the other is thinking just by looking or exchanging a glance. To confirm, we just lean over and whisper in the other's ear, "do you want to play with them if they are interested?" That works at the club since it is loud and plenty going that you can steal a few private moments in public without being rude. Outside of a club, we try to arrange things to have just a minute to ourselves to talk just the two of us. Probably do need to come up with some code words in case that opportunity doesn't present itself though.

[JustAskJulie]

Do you have kids? If so, how do you balance family life with swinging and just personal time for the two of you?

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Do you have kids? If so, how do you balance family life with swinging and just personal time for the two of you?

Yes, and we just do the best we can to carve out some time for us. On the bright side, we have more time for ourselves now, although still limited, than we did a few years ago and as each year goes by should have even more time. Kids need a break from their parents just like parents need a break from the kids, so it's good all the way around to get away for a weekend every now and then.

[des1re06]

If you knew the host/hostess would you like to try a house party?

You two are fun and we'd like to see you again. We just didn't want to be too pushy.

Mrs. D

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by des1re06

If you knew the host/hostess would you like to try a house party?

You two are fun and we'd like to see you again. We just didn't want to be too pushy.

Mrs. D

Easiest question yet, YES!

[BiloxiCouple]

How has the lifestyle affected your personal relationship with each other?