Valley - MOTW #20

[jennandjamesinm]

This week's Member of the Week is Valley. We are glad to have them in the spotlight this week.

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Gender (if not a couple):
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Age(s):
Birthday(s):
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[valley]

Hi,nice to be here.

we are a married couple living in Hobart,Which is the capital city of Tasmania ,which is the island state of Australia.I(she) am 45,hubby is 44. It's our 2nd marriage each.He has 2 adult kids,I have none.

We have been swinging for 8 months,choosing M/F/M. Why?Because it was a mutual desire.

My pet peeve?.....definately unpunctuality.I hate waiting,and I hate being late.

personally,I am 5'5",135,and reasonably slim.light brown hair,and a cute butt.Gravity is snooping around but so far i've got it under control.

Hubby is 5'9" fair haired, quiet,constantly smiling,and gloriously voyeuristic.

[fun4Ds]

are their many people in the lifestyle in your area or are they far and few beyween?

[Lovinlife59912]

When you say it was a mutual desire to swing, how did it come up in your conversation. Had either one of you been swinging before?

[valley]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

are their many people in the lifestyle in your area or are they far and few beyween?

simply...no.There are no clubs or pubs.The odd ad. appears in the local papers at times.There is no formal swinging scene.Not that it concerns us as we have no trouble,only seeking single guys.

In addition it is a small community,so the need for discretion is paramount.Scandal can ruin you.However there are ways and means to meet others.It is amazing how many Australians are in chat rooms.We have chatted with many,and we have actually met 2 of them.It was very successful because we already knew how compatible we were......only needing to find out if the chemistry was there.

So in a way,our choice of swinging is,I'm sure less frustrating than those into couples or single ladies.

[valley]

Originally Posted by Lovinlife59912

When you say it was a mutual desire to swing, how did it come up in your conversation. Had either one of you been swinging before?

Thanks for asking this.Boy! theres no easy way to answer it.

As i said ,this is our 2nd marriage.Prior to my 1st,I was 'playful',high spirited,promiscuous.I was seduced one evening into bed with two guys older and wiser than me.Until then I thought I knew what sex was like.Wow! on and off for 2 months,they kept 'seducing' me. Then they were gone. I settled down,1 year later fell in love,married,sex twice a day,then twice a week and then twice a month,not long before it was once a month and suspicion if I was late back from shopping.If I looked at a guy twice I was 'after' him,flirting.If I had two dances with a guy I was on with him.Masturbation was a disgusting aberation.....there was no point in telling him to watch me and you might change your mind.Unfortunately that was in my past life.

So ,I got the guts.I left.After 6 months I had my confidence back.I went out and got deliciously screwed.This set me on a promiscuous course again,and it wasnt long before I ended up in bed with two men,at a party.The door was supposed to have been locked.Some one came in,not that I took any notice,because I was in my orgasmic paradise.About an hour later a quietly spoken guy with lovely eyes asked if he could take me to lunch next day.I said yes,I'd love to.

Six months later we got married.He too had been in a marriage that had stifled him.Every time he asked his wife to let him watch her masturbate,she rebuked him,demeaned him and humiliated him.

So here was a man who wanted to watch,married to a woman who wanted to be watched.Not only that but we understood the other.Not WHY we liked it but just that we DID.So we talked and talked and fantasised and we talked some more.Then one day he said would I hate him if he asked to see what he had the first time he had ever seen me?I knew what he meant,I smiled at him,and said,"only if you let me watch you watching".

He cried.It was the enormous relief.For the first time in his life he knew he could fulfill his desires,his fantasies,without being shamed,made to feel dirty,depraved.

So that was it.I can have what I've always desired,while I am satisfying my husbands life long desire. We will broarden our experience as we go along,because we are not prudes or shy but in the meantime we are loving every day of our existence.

I hope that answers your question.

[jennandjamesinm]

What kind of underwear do you wear?
What's on your desk?
Rock Concert or symphony?
Play or Opera?
Have you ever fired a gun?
Do you like to travel by plane?
Right-handed or Left-handed.
Smooth or Chunky Peanut Butter?
How many pillows do you sleep with?
Ever hitchhiked?

[fun4Ds]

we were just sitting here talking about pet peves. so what are yours

[valley]

I like lingerie that makes me feel sexy,but is not too fancy.Plain,silky,mostly see through.However I do have some lovely Teddies,camasoles,and thongs,mainly for 'entertaining'. My favourite colour is lemon and pink.

My desk is actually a very large old pine top table,c1850. We both enjoy antiques,have a number of pieces,and in fact this pc is getting into the antique range <EG> .I always have flowers on the table too.Do not let a day go by without them.We also have books on it,as we are both voracious readers.

Yes I have fired a gun.12 guage and a 22. When I was young ,my best friend's parents had a property in the country. When I visited some weekends we would go out with his brother and his friend,shooting kangaroo and rabbits.One weekend there, her brother showed me (for the first time) something else that shoots facelick .

I love flying.Its the packing I hate.

I'm right handed ,but very ambidextrous in sex

Yes i love peanut butter,but not in bed.

4 pillows on the Kingsize bed,but there are more if needed.

Yes ,I have hitched,with a friend ,a long time ago. I'm not sure I would anymore.In fact ,no I wouldnt.I find it an interesting question to ask me ,as if you have been reading my mail,as they say.4 months ago we were out driving,heading to the north of the island and in fact picked up a hitch hiker,a backpacker from Alabama.He was a very beautiful young guy,26,studying medicine.He was heading to the same place as we were,except we were booked into a really nice hotel,he was looking for backpackers accommodation.we decided to give him a treat.We invited him to stay with us.It wasnt hard to seduce him. We had a truly wonderful weekend.We stay in touch,and he tells everyone how 'friendly' Australians are.We wish every guy we meet was as sweet as him.

Thanks for asking.I hope I've satisfied you.

[valley]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

we were just sitting here talking about pet peves. so what are yours

My pet peeves

1.Unpunctuality

2.men who have no idea of physiology

3.Dirty fingernails

4.Rudeness

5.jealousy with double standards.

6. Possessiveness




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[Chip_n_Muffy]

Bi-sexual? Bi-curious? I often wonder at the number of women who are bi-curious Val. Are you bi-sexual? Bi-curious? How do you describe your sexual preferences?

Muffy

[Thrax]

I don't have any questions yet. Just wanted to say "G'day!"

I spent a few days in Hobart when I did my month-long 'walkabout' in Oz back in 1992 (That was after a month in NZ). A great trip! Wonderful people in Tasmania, beautiful scenery, and just all-around a great experience. Oh...the beer was good, too. I just didn't have enough time there. Or anywhere in Oz or NZ for that matter.

I was in Hobart in time for the ANZAC Day parade, and went to a very moving service at the memorial, too. Visited Port Arthur and did the usual touristy stuff. Oh, and did I mention there was beer, too?

After the dry and dusty "mainland", it was refreshing to see all the Tassie greenery.

Now that I know Tasmania "swings", I think I have one more reason to make a trip back!

Take care!

[valley]

Originally Posted by Chip_n_Muffy

Bi-sexual? Bi-curious? I often wonder at the number of women who are bi-curious Val. Are you bi-sexual? Bi-curious? How do you describe your sexual preferences?

Muffy

I think it would be best to say I'm simply Sexual.I am not naive about sex.Sex with another woman does not frighten me but I love sex with men enough to not want to desire sex with women.In the event I was in the situation where it was a potential,I would not hesitate......I know the mechanics of it....and then let the experience teach me.

To describe my sexual preferences,I would have to say ....gluttonous.

I can not recall any time I have had too much.I am not overly adventurous,my tastes are rather ordinary,but I like a lot of what I like.......coitus and giving oral

My husband has almost the same attitude as me ,except he does want to feel a man come in his mouth.Yet it is not important if or when it happens.Watching me being slowly and deliciously penetrated is his great love.Our next plan is for him to watch me with 2 men.....a situation we hope is going to be remedied in the very near future..

[valley]

Originally Posted by Thrax

I don't have any questions yet. Just wanted to say "G'day!"

I spent a few days in Hobart when I did my month-long 'walkabout' in Oz back in 1992 (That was after a month in NZ). A great trip! Wonderful people in Tasmania, beautiful scenery, and just all-around a great experience. Oh...the beer was good, too. I just didn't have enough time there. Or anywhere in Oz or NZ for that matter.

I was in Hobart in time for the ANZAC Day parade, and went to a very moving service at the memorial, too. Visited Port Arthur and did the usual touristy stuff. Oh, and did I mention there was beer, too?

After the dry and dusty "mainland", it was refreshing to see all the Tassie greenery.

Now that I know Tasmania "swings", I think I have one more reason to make a trip back!

Take care!

G'day,Thrax.

yes, its stiil the same lovely place.The beers even better. You were at Port Arthur...did you hear what happened there a few years later? Look it up on Google....the Port Arthur Massacre. It was horrible.

If you do head back this way,we have ways to make you feel welcome......

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by valley
If you do head back this way,we have ways to make you feel welcome......

Hmmmmm...and it IS summer there, too. Give me a day or two to check those international flight schedules...


(P.S. I did read about the Port Arthur massacre, and since I had recently visited the site I could too easily visualize what happened. Sad, scary stuff.)