WesternSwing - MOTW # 17

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What advice do you have for someone who is working on overcoming the guilt of a religious upbringing in regards to sex in general (and swinging in specific)?

Lots of therapy. Letting go of social norms, finding your inner Goddess and sexual being and accepting that you are such. And having a very secure, patient, and accepting mate who is not threatened by you and helps you to come out of your shell, loving and accepting you for who you are and who you want to be.

For me it was leaving behind the religion that created the guilt in the first place. Realizing that it was what some mortal being wanted for me, not what the God or Goddess wanted for me. It was rules set down by someone who was afraid of someone like me: a strong, self-confident, sexual woman.

It has taken years for me to overcome what was drilled into me from the day I was born. I never felt comfortable being who I knew I was because of what others might think. Not what God or Jesus might think, but what other mortals might think because of how THEY believe I should behave. It was finally coming to the realization that it doesn't matter what they think. As long as I am happy, my husband is happy, and I am hurting no one, they have no say-so in what I do. That is a hard thing to do, but I am happy now. Happy in my own skin. And my family is better for it.

Mrs. WS