MOTW Interview #13 - txduo2000

[jennandjamesinm]

This week's Member of the Week is txduo2000. We are glad to have her in the spotlight this week.

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Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
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[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by jennandjamesinm

Question limit (as the interviewee you may limit the questions on a per post or per user basis if you wish):
Gender (if not a couple):
If a couple, which one primarily posts:
Age(s):
Birthday(s):
Location:
Relationship status:
Swinging for how long?:
Prefer to swing with:
Biggest Pet Peeve:
Brief Intro:
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one):
Website (your own or one of your favorites):

Thanks, I appreciate being active enough of a member to be noticed for interviewing!

I have no preference for limitations on questions. Ask away ... I have very few secrets (unless you are a neighbor or co-worker or one of my kids' teachers ... lol)

I (the female half of the couple) am the primary (only?) poster. Hubby just does not understand nor share my addiction to the boards.

I am 35, he is 40 (my birthday is in 2 weeks, but I am thinking of skipping it this year!)

Birthdays: Mine is October 27; his is July 16

We live in a suburb east of Dallas, Texas.

We have been married 5 years, together almost 7 years.

We have been swinging off and on for approximately 4 years. We are not what I would call "lifestylers" but rather "recreational" swingers. At times, I have felt that the "lifestyle" has consumed too much of our life, so we have cut back at times, opting for more mainstream activities. Upon initial meeting, we are both very conservative in appearance and behavior, so we are very closeted in our swinging activities.

We have a few differing preferences so we do find ourselves needing to compromise, though that's not to say we "take one for the team" ... we are very against that; but through communication we try to compromise our differences. He pretty much prefers to swing with primarily couples, and I understand that ... it's a way to make sure that there is equality in the fun. My overall preference is MFM, because (as I have stated in previous threads) I am a Scorpio, and as such, very "me" oriented. lol I like being the center of attention.

I guess what I would really have to say is my (current) biggest pet peeve is cheating "single" men who think that swinging is a welcoming community for their deceptions.

I am 5'2" around 140 pounds (which is actually overweight for my height, but well proportioned. Most people guess me around 125). My hobbies include internet surfing (duh! lol), reading, studying criminal justice and law, spending time with my kids and hubby, sporting events for my kids (not much into professional sports), movies, amusement parks, traveling, dancing, partying. Hubby is 6'2" and around 200 ... he's not really a cowboy/hick as depicted in our pic, but I do love a man in a Stetson facelick, so he amuses me. He indulges and even shares in my criminal justice interests. He loves dancing, too. He is a very friendly, never-met-a-stranger kind of guy, whereas I am a little more shy and reserved. He likes fishing, music, parties, traveling. We really have a great deal in common which is why we are married, I suppose.

Our picture is on my public profile here on the boards.

My favorite website is www.swingersboard.com
His is www.sdc.com or www.swinglifestyle.com

[Spoomonkey]

Let's start with the tough questions...

1. If forced to choose between beef or pork - which would you choose, Jewish or Hindu?

2. Why does the word "average" make men feel better?

3. Should vegetarians eat animal crackers?

4. If peace and love were puppies and rainbows, what would evil and retarded be?

5. Who is your all time favorite Brady?

6. If Bears, Vikings and Lions are frightening in their natural environment, where are Packers scary? Prison?

7. How many fingers do I have up?

8. Up where?

9. Is "Never say never" redundant?

10. If "love is blind", is it really a good idea for single people to drink?

Spoomonkey

[BodyScape02]

gee we share current pet peeves...lol

Welcome to the spotlight txduo2000...

I have a few questions for you. I love your posts and the intelligent thought behind many of them and the way you word things... my compliments...and let me also say, it will great to learn more about you via this spotlight interview. We seem to share the same current biggest pet peeve...

With respect

Ms. Bodyscape

Here we go…lol


Are you sexier in your thirties than you were in your twenties? (If yes, why so?)

What do you look for in a possible playmate? (Describe him/her)

Where do you look for playmates?.... And …Where do you most often find playmates?

What would be a deal killer for you and the Mr. (aside from married and cheating posing as single)?

How did you come to this lifestyle?

How did you find out about SB?

What do you think is the best thing about the board and the worst?

And now the most trite questions ever...

What are your top 3 favorite movies and books?

What do you wear to bed (other than a big smile if it’s a threesome night? ?

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Let's start with the tough questions...

1. If forced to choose between beef or pork - which would you choose, Jewish or Hindu?

2. Why does the word "average" make men feel better?

3. Should vegetarians eat animal crackers?

4. If peace and love were puppies and rainbows, what would evil and retarded be?

5. Who is your all time favorite Brady?

6. If Bears, Vikings and Lions are frightening in their natural environment, where are Packers scary? Prison?

7. How many fingers do I have up?

8. Up where?

9. Is "Never say never" redundant?

10. If "love is blind" is really a good idea for single people to drink?

Spoomonkey

Spoo, I am afraid I don't have near the sense of humor and wit that you possess, so my answers will probably come across much more seriously than you intended with the questions. lol By the way, I would PAY to watch you from afar, mingling and conversing with people.

1. I think I am very slow-witted on this one ... beef? Jewish? lol

2. How does the word "average" make you feel? For a literal answer, I suppose because "average" is better than small, which counteracts it being worse than small. Or maybe because "average" is roughly 70% and therefore a majority ... no one likes being singled out.

3. I guess as long as they are made without animal fats or oils, they would be acceptable to most vegetarians. Vegans might be another matter altogether, however.

4. Evil and Retarded .... ummmmmm, I think Evil would be serial killers and Retarded would be ..... ummm, I think it might be too political for this board to say it out loud (or in writing, whatever).

5. Jan was my favorite Brady ... she was way under appreciated.

6. Prison, sure, that's a fair answer.

7. Do you still have any up?

8. Yeah, up where? That was my next question. Hard to type with any of them UP.

9. VERY

10. Probably not. But sometimes when the pickings are slim, you gotta drink til they are attractive.

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by BodyScape02

gee we share current pet peeves...lol

Welcome to the spotlight txduo2000...

I have a few questions for you. I love your posts and the intelligent thought behind many of them and the way you word things... my compliments...and let me also say, it will great to learn more about you via this spotlight interview. We seem to share the same current biggest pet peeve...

With respect

Ms. Bodyscape

Here we go…lol


You have your actual photo as your avatar! We can see your beautiful face, and that is way more brave than we are. So…

How did you get so brave, and does it ever worry you that someone who knows you will see it?

Are you sexier in your thirties than you were in your twenties? (If yes, why so?)

What do you look for in a possible playmate? (Describe him/her)

Where do you look for playmates?.... And …Where do you most often find playmates?

What would be a deal killer for you and the Mr. (aside from married and cheating posing as single)?

How did you come to this lifestyle?

How did you find out about SB?

What do you think is the best thing about the board and the worst?

And now the most trite questions ever...

What are your top 3 favorite movies and books?

What do you wear to bed (other than a big smile if it’s a threesome night? ?

Thank you for the compliments, Bodyscape! I have definitely enjoyed your being on the boards as of late and find that we share many traits/beliefs/commonalities. I am confused on the avatar deal though???? My avatar is of two smilies with a heart in the middle. I am afraid I do not resemble either one in real life.

My brevity probably comes from, again, my being a Scorpio. Actually, I am VERY concerned with what others think of me, though I am continually trying to change that about myself. Perhaps that is why I don't mind my face being shown. All our profile pics on sls are of our faces, all g-rated. None of our mainstream friends are swingers or even remotely interested. We have a very busy family life, so truth be told, we don't have a large circle of friends, so I am not too worried about one of our mainstream friends seeing us on these sites. I do not currently work outside the home, so I have no co-workers to fear, and my husband's boss and his wife are former swingers so there is no issue there. Other than that, I guess my feeling is that if someone were to see me on these sites, that means THEY are perusing them themselves, so what do I have to answer to that they would not?

I feel like I am much sexier in my thirties than in my twenties. The reason being that I believe that sexuality is a never-ending, continually evolving trait. Most of us were raised in a society that labels all things sexual as "dirty" or if not dirty, then definitely private, so many of us grew up with very conservative views. And it is only with time, exposure, education, and experiences are our sexualities allowed to blossom and grow.

Overall, in potential playmates, I look for respect. That truly, in my opinion, is the underlying most important factor in ANY type of relationship, be it friendship, marriage, or play partners. If people are self-respecting and respecting of their existing partner, odds are they will be respecting to others they meet. Since my preference is really for single men (YOUNGER single men ... lol), then respect is of the utmost importance. They cannot view swinging with couples as an outlet for their pent up sexual energies alone .... they must be able to see it as a cohesive and mutually satisfying exchange. They must have a very deep understanding of why it is couples will occasionally seek out single men, and that is that the woman is not looking for something her husband can't give her. I will say that we have been pretty lucky in this regard. In fact, I do not like overtly sexually-charged inuendo in discussion or chat, and I have found that married men, operating within a couple, are THE most lecherous we have come across. In couples, my preference is that the woman is not bi, because I am not, but if she is, she be tolerant and accepting of the fact that I am not. I do not want or need anyone to try to convert me.

We are listed on both sls and sdc, though our successes have generally occurred in on-premise/house party environments.

A deal killer for us is definitely when a male, single or married and part of a couple, attempts to make first contact with me. Primarily because we have put my husband in charge of weeding out the fakes and the phonies and it is a requirement that men talk to him first to make sure that they aren't cheating or lecherous or only trying to get at me, which is so very common, unfortunately.

It's a long story as to how we came to the lifestyle, and I am sure it is in one of my past postings/threads here, but I will make it succinct and simply say that my husband had dabbled in it a bit with his ex-wife. They never came full-circle into the lifestyle, because she was one of those women (they are out there) who basically wanted to DO while he could do nothing, and when situations arose where women showed their attraction to him, she would go ballistic. So he introduced it to me, slowly because I was shocked at first, and because I am a very experimental and gregarious kind of girl, I agreed to go to some off-premise clubs. Very intimidating at first, but gradually got into it, through sexy talk during love-making, browsing websites, going to clubs, experimenting. We hit some bumps along the way, but I am proud to say that I never expected the type of "lifestyle" that his ex-wife expected. I just couldn't participate and deny him the same opportunities.

I stumbled upon SB through sls, I think. I don't really even remember anymore, actually. lol Or perhaps it was while snooping through some of my husband's computer history stuff from when we were separated late last year/early this year. Not that he is a member, but he was swinging with a girl he was seeing during our separation and I think maybe I stumbled upon it that way. Like I said, I can't really remember. But I am glad I found it, regardless.

I think the best thing about the boards is a true feeling of friendship with those who I have not really "met" ... people actually get to know each other, respect each other and feel for each other and they may live 2000 miles away from each other and never lay eyes on one another in person. The worst, I would have to say, would probably be those who come on for just a very short period of time, seem to only be there to stir up controversy and get everyone riled up, then take off. Hey, I am all for controversy every once in awhile. Just stick around to see what comes next is all I am saying!

Ok, top three favorite movies and books:

Movies:
Imitation of Life
Hope Floats
Breakfast Club

Books: (this one is hard because I love to read and own thousands of books)
To Kill A Mockingbird
Anything by Ann Rule
Anything by Patricia Cornwell

I am not terribly sexy at bedtime, I am afraid. I wear an oversized t-shirt and boxer shorts, or pajama pants if it's cold.

[starlinn]

Hello and welcome to the hot seat!

1. Do you prefer cotton or silk?

2. What is your favorite activity on a rainy day?

3. If the electric is out for 4 hours, what do you do during that time to keep you busy?

4. If you had a chance to have lunch with someone from your past, who would it be, and what would you talk about?

5. What color of car do you drive?

6. Ocean or Mountains?

7. What is your fantasy vacation?

8. What is the one thing that you would change about yourself?

Hope you have a great time answering the questions this week!

~starlinn

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by txduo2000

I am not terribly sexy at bedtime, I am afraid. I wear an oversized t-shirt and boxer shorts, or pajama pants if it's cold.

Don't underestimate the sexiness factor of an oversized T-shirt on a lady!

Ok, a couple questions:
1. Are you real Texans or imports?
2. What's the riskiest place you two have done the nasty?
3. Have you ever "mooned" someone in public?
4. What's your "dream car"?
5. What's your "reality car"?
6. Ever done it in a car?
7. City or Country?
8. If you owned your own swing club, what would it be called?

-Enjoy your week!

[pistol pete]

Originally Posted by txduo2000

... when we were separated late last year/early this year.

Why were you separated?

What did you do to mend the fences?

[LikeMinds321]

Do you wear cowgirl hats and boots?

Do you take more baths or showers?

What shampoo and conditioner are you using right now?

What is your favorite color and brand of lipstick?

And because an odd number is better than an even, question No. 5, what was a movie you recently saw that you enjoyed?

LM

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by starlinn

Hello and welcome to the hot seat!

1. Do you prefer cotton or silk?

2. What is your favorite activity on a rainy day?

3. If the electric is out for 4 hours, what do you do during that time to keep you busy?

4. If you had a chance to have lunch with someone from your past, who would it be, and what would you talk about?

5. What color of car do you drive?

6. Ocean or Mountains?

7. What is your fantasy vacation?

8. What is the one thing that you would change about yourself?

Hope you have a great time answering the questions this week!

~starlinn

1. I prefer cotton. Unfortunately, gravity and age has taken it's toll so I feel much more comfortable in strong cotton fiber. lol Silk is just tooooo loooose .... not a good combination with certain body parts that have become tooooo loooose as well.

2. I love to sleep on rainy days ... the darker and gloomier, the better. It's probably a symptom of my clinical depression. :rollseyes

3. If the electric were out for four hours, I would probably spend a good portion of that time COMPLAINING that the electric was out and wondering when it would come back on. That out of the way, it would depend on if we were alone or had a housefull of kids.

4. I would have lunch with my best friend from high school. We are still in sporadic touch but only very rarely get to see each other. We would talk like usual, as though no time at all had passed since our last seeing each other. Typically we talk about current family situations, our children, their successes/shortcomings, our frustrations as wives and mothers, my jealousy that HER high school romance has turned into a 14 year happy marriage, while mine fizzled out after 9 years. Just hum-drum convo ... she is as straight-laced, Mary Poppins/Donna Reed as one can be! But I love her!

5. Silver Honda Accord, two door. Satisfies the sports car desire, yet maintaining a certain amount of practicality.

6. Oceans

7. Austrailian cruise

8. Physical: boob job Personality: be more outgoing

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Don't underestimate the sexiness factor of an oversized T-shirt on a lady!

Ok, a couple questions:
1. Are you real Texans or imports?
2. What's the riskiest place you two have done the nasty?
3. Have you ever "mooned" someone in public?
4. What's your "dream car"?
5. What's your "reality car"?
6. Ever done it in a car?
7. City or Country?
8. If you owned your own swing club, what would it be called?

-Enjoy your week!

Lol hubby doesn't consider my normal pajama-wear sexy at all, but perhaps that's because he sees it all the time.

1. I am a real Texan, born in Waco, raised in Arlington, lived in North Texas since I was 5 years old. Hubby was an imported import ... lol. He was born in Los Angeles, moved to Oklahoma (ok, can you say CULTURE SHOCK?????) at age 13, then moved to N. Texas at age 18.

2. As I have stated before, we are really kind of conservative ... I would have to say that the riskiest place would have been in his car parked off the road in the dark in the middle of nowhere. Not all that risky. I will say that on numerous occasions, while drinking heavily in bars together, I would simulate fellatio on him (to his utter embarrassment!) and would flash him by unbuttoning my top in the club. I am a complete NUT when I am drunk. A fun one, but a nut nonetheless.

3. No, I can't say as I have.

4. 1967 Cherry red corvette

5. 2001 Silver Honda Accord EX V6 2-door

6. Yes, see #2

7. I love both. I love the convenience of the city and the peace of the country. I don't think I could live full-time in the country, unless it was one of those "psuedo" country areas that's within a few minutes drive of a major city. lol

8. Never thought about that ... probably "Just-a-Swinging" because we love country music and that's a cute song that can be looked at with double entendres.

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by pistol pete

Why were you separated?

What did you do to mend the fences?

Well, Pete, I am certainly not surprised at all that this question came from you, so please don't take my response as a personal "flame" at you.

My husband and I were separated for several reasons, but most of all disrespect that allowed many other factors to seep into our marriage. We treated each other's kids unfairly (we are a step family with no kids together), we treated each other with resentment, disdain and disrespect, and I CHEATED on him with a co-worker. These incidences took place after we got out of the lifestyle for a while, and in fact we had been out of it for about 6 months or so when my affair started. It didn't last long, it wasn't based on anything other than escaping my miserable home life and a cheap thrill, there was no longevity in the relationship and it ended after only a few months.

After it ended, my husband desperately wanted to forgive me, but we are BOTH VERY jealous people ... but we have perspective in the lifestyle, mind you. In mainstream life, we are brutally jealous, though. The reason being that CHEATING involves LIES, SNEAKING AROUND and finally COMPLETE AND TOTAL DISRESPECT. He had difficulty forgiving me, I was on the defensive all the time, we got into really loud fights, sometimes involving violence against each other.

I had had enough and I left. I moved out, got my own place and we were separated for 6 months. During the first 3 months, we rarely talked to one another, though he did attempt to take me out for Valentine's ... ended up in a bust because I was still harboring so much anger and resentment for the things in our life that had been so miserable that they opened the door for me to cheat, I was angry with him for saying he forgave me but not putting it into action, so after V-Day, we didn't speak at all for a couple months.

I guess during those months, my anger, frustration and resentment started to melt and we would occasionally talk on the phone. Asking advice for different situations, etc. Then one night, he showed up, totally unexpectedly at a club I was at with my aunt, which is over 100 miles from the town we live. I was stunned and ..... strangely happy. I never stopped loving him, it was just buried under so much rage that I had to have the time to let it all subside. From that moment we started, slowly, seeing each other and talking about reconciling. Knowing that this time it would only work if we each maintained a very high level of RESPECT for one another and be completely HONEST with each other about everything, no matter how unpleasant those honest discussions may be. We each agreed that if our marriage was to survive, we HAD to put each other above all and work on our marriage in the same way a drowning person struggles to survive in a rising tide out at sea.

And that's how we have mended those fences. We still have disagreements, and we are both control freaks, so it is rough sometimes. But we always have to remember our agreement to never do anything to jeopardize each others' security or emotional well-being, never to lose respect for each other and to always be honest with each other.

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Do you wear cowgirl hats and boots?

Do you take more baths or showers?

What shampoo and conditioner are you using right now?

What is your favorite color and brand of lipstick?

And because an odd number is better than an even, question No. 5, what was a movie you recently saw that you enjoyed?

LM

No hats, just boots, and just when we go C&W dancing .... welllllll, sometimes I will wear them in the winter when I wear jeans. But definitely NO HATS for me ... I have Texas Hair you know ... gotta let it show! But I do have a great C&W belt buckle ... three hearts overlapping, sterling silver, on a terrific leather belt that is smattered with heart shaped conchos. Can you tell, hearts are my favorite shape????

I am a shower girl. I like the occasional soak in the tub, but I just feel icky sitting in what I feel like is dirty water, so if I soak in the tub, I shower afterward. I know, I am weird. :rollseyes

TreSemme moisturizing with Vitamin E

My favorite color is RED and my favorite brand of lipstick is either Revlon or Max Factor. I love their shades. I am also a lipstick hog, in addition to being a perfume hog, so I usually have about 20 tubes at one time ... though I will pick a favorite and wear it to death until I change my mind.

I have seen several movies recently, Batman the Beginning (or whatever it's called.) - WHAT ever ... waste of time and I would say waste of money, but we saw it at the dollar cinema. So, I am going to go to my most recent favorite ....Napoleon Dynamite!!!! It's been a couple months since I saw it, and I know how completely retarded and silly and stupid it was, but it made me laugh and I loved the simplicity of it ... no drugs, no sex, no violence ... just plain ordinary kids, living plain ordinary lives, in a plain ordinary town. No real point, just to entertain. And I thought it was great!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by txduo2000

I am a shower girl. I like the occasional soak in the tub, but I just feel icky sitting in what I feel like is dirty water, so if I soak in the tub, I shower afterward. I know, I am weird. :rollseyes

Me too!

As the tubs draining I turn the shower on.

LM