Dynamar - MOTW #7

[jennandjamesinm]

This weeks Member of the Week is Dynamar. We are glad to have her in the spotlight this week.

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[Dynamar]

Question limit: No limits... bring 'em on!
Gender (if not a couple): Single female
Age(s): I'll be celebrating my third annual 39th birthday in two weeks
Birthday(s): September 15, 1964
Location: The wilds of Southwest Indiana, but an Illinois native
Relationship status: Swingingly single, and loving it
Swinging for how long?: Six months
Prefer to swing with: Couples, single males
Biggest Pet Peeve: People with no common sense
Brief Intro: It's pretty much here, and in my SLS and Swappernet profiles... I'm an open book
Picture (if you feel comfortable sharing one): It's here
Website (your own or one of your favorites): www.televisionwithoutpity.com

[Vespertine]

Welcome to the hot seat!!

What got you interested in swinging, Dynamar?

What does the name 'Dynamar' mean anyway?

If you were to find yourself in a relationship-- Do you think swinging would continue to be a part of your life?

Since you are a single female, do you have to fight couples off with a stick?

Best swinging experience thus far?

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Welcome to the hot seat!!

Thanks, I think it'll be fun.

What got you interested in swinging, Dynamar?

I started doing research after I had a bi-sexual encounter with an acquaintance. She is involved in an open marriage, and told me all about her bi-sexuality and her relationships. My research soon brought me here, then SLS, and finally Swappernet. I figured out that I'd long been doing things that danced around the perimeter of the lifestyle... and it all just felt right to me.

What does the name 'Dynamar' mean anyway?

Good question! Dynamar is sort of my own personal 'alter ego'... the single bi-sexual superheroine. The 'Mar' part is a permutation of my first name.

If you were to find yourself in a relationship-- Do you think swinging would continue to be a part of your life?

I certainly didn't get involved in lifestyle activities to 'find a mate.' However if I became involved in a serious relationship, I think I definitely would want swinging to be a part of it. Guess, I'll cross that bridge if and when I come to it.

Since you are a single female, do you have to fight couples off with a stick?

One would think so judging by the number of couples who say that is what they seek, wouldn't you? However, my experience has been quite the opposite. Yes, there are a few couples I've had to beat off with a stick, mostly because they are far too aggressive and/or clingy, and want me to quit my job, move in with them and become their personal concubine! (And I'm not exaggerating by much!)

I do get a lot of mail, that is true. And I feel like I'm open and friendly to a great number of people. After that, because I don't ever want to be viewed as a 'pushy single', I leave the ball in their court to initiate further communication and ultimately ask me for a meet.

Nobody really talks about the down side of being a single female in the lifestyle. For me one negative is that I don't really care to be a newbie couple's "swinging training wheels"... I need to see that a couple is on solid ground before I continue, and oftentimes they must not be, because they just fade away.When you think about it though... this can also be a positive, since I don't want to get involved in any couple's drama, and I think my M.O. definitely helps keep that to a minimum.

Best swinging experience thus far?

I guess I'll have to say that first time with my female friend. Still, by far, the hottest thing I've been involved in. I wrote about it elsewhere here in a thread about fisting.

[starlinn]

HI Dynamar...glad to finally get to ask the questions, instead of answering them.

What do you prefer...
Cotton or Silk?
Heels or Flats?
Dresses or Slacks?
Mountains or Ocean?
Quiet Candlelight Dinner, or Noisy Bar and Grill?
Roses or Daisies?
Bands or Strip Clubs?



What do you look for physically in a couple?


If you were to give advice to a couple looking for a single bi female, what would you tell them?

If you had 3 wishes, what would you wish for?

(Okay, you said to let them rip!)


On average, what is the longest sexual encounter that you have had?

Describe the perfect speciman of a man:


What would you call the perfect vacation?




THANKS!

[JustAskJulie]

Welcome to the hotseat Dyanmar!

Have you visited any clubs as a single female yet? If so, what was your experience(s) like?

[two4youinswva]

Hi Dynamar! We'll pile on as well and get you further behind on your responses!

What are ya driving?

What do you wish you were driving?

What was the last book you read?

Do you put the toilet paper on so it rolls over the top or from underneath?

Favorite Candy Bar?

You're going to be a contestant on "Survivor". What's going to be your one luxury item you get to take?

[Dynamar]

Damn girl... your pencil must be out of lead!...

Originally Posted by starlinn

HI Dynamar...glad to finally get to ask the questions, instead of answering them.

What do you prefer... Cotton or Silk? Cotton... I'm kinda conservative that way.

Heels or Flats? In between... I'm tall (5'9") so too high of heels is generally not good for the men I date. But I also have two bad ankles from a car wreck in 1991, so both too high of heels and too flat of flats usually cause problems.

Dresses or Slacks? Mostly, slacks. I feel more powerful and authoritative for my job.

Mountains or Ocean? Hands down... mountains, preferably Montana.

Quiet Candlelight Dinner, or Noisy Bar and Grill? Bar & grill

Roses or Daisies? Tulips

Bands or Strip Clubs? A band, by a nose... because then *I* can dance too!

What do you look for physically in a couple? I tend to have a couple of basic "types" that I drift toward in men, however a couple is a whole different thing. I'm not sure how physical this is, as far as individual traits of the people in the couple... but I like to see a sense of "connectedness". Mostly this comes through in eye contact, both between them, and individually with me.

If you were to give advice to a couple looking for a single bi female, what would you tell them? Well... be patient, obviously. Other than that, just be "politely persistent" with any woman you think you both might want to meet. If schedules allow, there's no reason why you shouldn't ask a single female out on a date within the first 3-5 communiques. I think most people know within that period of time if moving forward is something they all want. Just make sure that every communication you have is moving things forward.

If you had 3 wishes, what would you wish for? Gosh... this is always a hard one for me, although Wish #1 would be easy: To have a long talk over a CC&7 with my dad. He died in 1987, and I miss him every day. The other two? Be able to retire from the work-a-day world and do volunteer work... I wouldn't have to be fabulously wealthy, just comfortable. And... oh boy... I can't really think of anything else.

On average, what is the longest sexual encounter that you have had? I dated a young man for a time, a couple of years after I was divorced. It was my first experience dating someone much younger... he was 27 at the time, and I was 36. The first time we had sex, we went from like 11 p.m. at night until 5:30 or so the next morning! We figured out fairly quickly that we each weren't "the one" for the other, but we continued to have casual sex for a couple of years after that.

Describe the perfect speciman of a man: Great smile, with eyes that smile too. Good hands... not too soft, not too rough, and just firm enough. Preferably taller than me. After that, it's all negotiable.

What would you call the perfect vacation? Doing absolutely nothing, really... be it in a mountain cabin or a beachside hut. Reading, eating, relaxing and making love. Oh yeah... being naked a good bit of the time would be fine too.

Edited because 'to' and 'too' are not the same thing

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Welcome to the hotseat Dyanmar!
Have you visited any clubs as a single female yet? If so, what was your experience(s) like?

Thanks Julie. It's always nice to get to write about my favorite subject

I have been to one club, back in May in Indianapolis. My date was a very well-known member at this particular club, and we went on a nite when they were having a big anniversary party. I had a great time, met a lot of really fun people, and even played a little. It was a positive experience, however, I'm not sure I'd do the club scene a lot in any case. I tend to have an addictive personality anyway, so I try to be 'moderate' in any kind of hobby.

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Hi Dynamar! We'll pile on as well and get you further behind on your responses!

No problem!

What are ya driving? The perfect "salesmobile"... a 2001 Ford Taurus

What do you wish you were driving? I've always thought I wanted to own a Jaguar... maybe someday.

What was the last book you read? What are these books of which you speak?... Not much of a book reader, but I guess it was "He's Just Not That Into You." I do try to keep up with several periodicals... MS Living, Budget Living, Real Simple, Vanity Fair, BHG, and trade publications.

Do you put the toilet paper on so it rolls over the top or from underneath?Always, always, always... over the top. (That's how they do it in hotels, so you know it can't be wrong.)

Favorite Candy Bar? Right now, it's Take Five by Hershey.

You're going to be a contestant on "Survivor". What's going to be your one luxury item you get to take? I am like the original 'Survivor' fan, and have even auditioned live for the show before. I'm sure I would take a toothbrush.

[Vespertine]

You had mentioned that your first bi-experience was with a friend. How did that experience come about? Who seduced who?

What field of work are you in?

What is the one place you would like to visit, if money or time wasn't an object?

Describe the perfect speciman of a woman.

Favorite food?

Favorite song?

Favorite drink?

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

You had mentioned that your first bi-experience was with a friend. How did that experience come about? Who seduced who?

We were on a bachelorette party weekend out of town, and my friend and I were roommates. After a full evening of dinner and dance clubbing, all of us went back to the suite, and several of the girls went to the casino, leaving my friend and I in the room. I was the oldest chick on the trip, and it was 3 a.m.! I was tired! We were in a jacuzzi suite, so the bathroom had a large two person shower, instead of a tub. I wanted to take a shower and blow the club stank off, and I invited my friend in because the shower was so large and we were talking, and I didn't want to stop. Next thing I knew, we were soaping each others tits, and I was having trouble concentrating on what she was saying for looking at her tits! In the shower, she told me about her bi-sexuality and her relationship with her husband. After that, I don't think my feet hit the floor on the way to the bed!

What field of work are you in? Media sales.

What is the one place you would like to visit, if money or time wasn't an object? Salzburg, Austria. My dad was stationed there after the war and he always talked of how beautiful it was. Needless to say 'The Sound of Music' was required viewing in our household while we were growing up, and none of us had best utter a peep during the movie!

Describe the perfect speciman of a woman.The same as me, but different from me. Definitely like girl-y girls with bigger boobs! facelick After that, just somebody who's fun and has a playful sense about her.

Favorite food? I'm gonna expand this to my favorite meal... filet mignon, twice baked potato and a Bud, with a big honking piece of New York cheesecake for dessert.

Favorite song? "Brown Eyed Girl" by Van Morrison

Favorite drink? Non-alcoholic: Brewed tea and Dr. Pepper (not together though). Alcoholic: Bud Select or a frozen margarita, no salt

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Dynamar

What is the one place you would like to visit, if money or time wasn't an object? Salzburg, Austria. My dad was stationed there after the war and he always talked of how beautiful it was.

You had mentioned in a previous post that your father has passed away and that if you had three wishes, one would be to have a long talk with him over a drink.

My father passed away this year and I miss him terribly, I can relate to how you feel.

What is the one thing you learned from your dad that has proven to be an invaluable tip/advice/lesson?

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

What is the one thing you learned from your dad that has proven to be an invaluable tip/advice/lesson?

Thanks for asking this. My dad was probably the best example of 'how to live a life' that I have ever witnessed. He saw and went through a lot in his lifetime... born in the 20s, a teenager during the Depression, drafted into WWII, in a loveless and childless marriage before he met and married my mother, went through lots of ups and downs as an independent businessman. Through it all though, he was always the most positive person. He definitely had a 'can do' spirit, that I believe lives on in my brothers and me to this day.

When I was younger, I'd often race into his office with my hair on fire about something. One thing I can often hear him saying inside my head is "Don't worry... everything will work out as it should." He realized that you can expend a lot of energy on being worried, when if you just step back and take a look at the situation, it will probably work out for the best anyhow, whether by your own efforts or just by fate. Of course, we don't always think that at the time... but that's another challenge!

[confunktion]

Hopefully Ves hasn't exhausted you by now with her questions...

We know your favorite song, but what tune will make you scream in agony if you hear it again?
If you had to rename yourself (real first name), which name would you choose and why?
Outside of physical appearance, what is most attractive attribute of another woman? About a man?

Mr. Funk
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