jennandjamesinm - New MOTW #5

jennandjamesinm · 08-18-2005, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by clit pro poet

Jenn, what's looking interesting so far, in your studies?

I think this semester Abnormal Psych....but the 3 Sociology classes that I am taking seem to be somewhat interesting. I still haven't gotten my books from Oxford yet

Until I get a look at them - I know that for those particular classes, we are using books that aren't traditional texts - If they will be interesting or not. This whole school year for me, will be about taking pretty much what I want to. Which is nice change from the general college crap that I had to take

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Originally Posted by clit pro poet

James, are football fans just born that way? (Can't be inherited; our daughter keeps the Saints and Titans in the picture at most times. She sure looks like her Dad, who is interested, but not ardent, about football. Her Mom, same way. Must be, maybe, geography?)

I believe they are! It is just a passion that some people have...In my case I fell in love with football at age 3, my parents would take me to my cousins pee wee games and I would absolutely cry my eyes out to get on the field and play...so at age 4 I started playing football with 5 and 6 year olds. It is like any other passion a person has...it is loved from the heart and you can just not get enough.

jennandjamesinm · 08-18-2005, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Keremi

We are pretty hesitant to put our picture out. What made you comfortable about sharing your photo so openly? Keremi

James - I think we wanted to put our pictures out there because we are so open and do not want to hide anything about us. We are proud to be swingers and love the lifestyle. I can understand some peoples reservations about putting face pictures on SLS and other sites, because of children, family or careers. We look at it this way though, if they see your face there then they are looking for the same thing.

Jenn - WOW Keremi - great question!!! I guess that for me its just the manner in which I live my life. We are "out" to most of my family - my sibilings and my mother. I grew up in a home where everything and anything related to sex was talked about. We don't give details of course, but they know the lifestyle that we live. If someone that knew came across our picture, on here or SLS, well then if they wanted to "out" us to others, they'd have to also explain why they were there at a swinger's site too

We also use our real first names. With us, what you see is what you get. But I do understand other people's need for discretion - jobs, children and family, and we are sensitive to our people's reasons, even if we are open about who we are. So I guess what makes us so comfortable is that I have finally gotten to the point in my life to where it no longer matters what everyone else thinks, the people that are closest to me know about our lifestyle, and they accept it, whether or not they agree is another story LOL but that it really doesn't change who I am inside.

Keremi · 08-18-2005, 02:54 PM

That's so awesome you guys! Okay, one more issue: what about safety concerns as far as putting your pics along with other info? I think that is mainly the concern for me. Keremi

jennandjamesinm · 08-18-2005, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Keremi

That's so awesome you guys! Okay, one more issue: what about safety concerns as far as putting your pics along with other info? I think that is mainly the concern for me. Keremi

James - Well we do post pics but chat before we give out phone numbers and we have to be very familiar with the couple to give an address.

Jenn - I agree with James. We never give out our last name or home telephone number. We only give out our cell numbers. And even if they got our last name - the phone is listed in my last name from my 1st marriage still. I think that you DO need to be cautious in giving out your personal information - and depends on your comfort level with the other person or couple. We usually can pick out the losers and bullshitters by chatting with them on IM or the phone, they tend to show their true colors pretty quick. We always meet new people in a public place, just like we did when we single dated. People that we have become close to do know our last names, but I don't ever think that we have given out our home number to anyone. I think that's because we have our cell phones and that's the way we communicate 90% of the time. I hope that helps.

EvilMJ · 08-18-2005, 03:57 PM

I am I reading that right..you have been together since March and married in June. SO we are talking a couple of months? If this is correct..did you know each other before you got together..and why such a quick time between dating and marriage.

BTW James- I love the bald head, very sexy !!

jennandjamesinm · 08-18-2005, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by EvilMJ

I am I reading that right..you have been together since March and married in June. SO we are talking a couple of months? If this is correct..did you know each other before you got together..and why such a quick time between dating and marriage.

BTW James- I love the bald head, very sexy !!

James - Yes we did in fact have a short courtship. We both are very much in love and I feel as though I have know Jenn all my life. We actually met online, we e mailed and talked on the phone for about a month before we actually met in person. Once we did meet there was an instant bond between us. It is hard to explan but it is like the most romantic movie, my soulmate has come into my life and it really did not seem like it was fast. At least not to us, before the wedding some of our friends asked us if we were rushing things, we both agreed, not at all. When you know deep down in your heart and soul you were meant to be together, why put off the inevitable. As a funny story: I first contacted Jenn and she shot me down...but as we joke now "absolutely persistent man" finally got through...and thank God I was persistent.
Thank you for the compliment on my bald head..lol. I told Jenn I was going to shave it, but she would not let me until after the wedding..lol. It is growing on her.

Jenn - Yes, we met in March and married in June. Seems sort of crazy to most people but its just one of those things that was right.

We met through Yahoo Personals and yes, the first time he contacted me - I shot him down. When he saw that I was active on the personals again, he contacted me again. I figured that if anyone was that persistent, I ought to give him a chance. We emailed back and forth and talked on the phone for quite some time before we actually met. We met and it was "love at first sight." I believed in it, but had never experienced it until the moment I met James. Our first date ended chastely - with me giving him a kiss that made him about jump out of his skin

A couple of days later, something came up in my life (that I would rather not discuss - probably the only thing that I won't talk about on here) and he supported me in whatever decision I made. For a man to do what he did for me, a woman that he only knew a few days, without question or reservation, pretty much cemented it for me. I was head over heels in love with him.

We had originally planned on getting married on New Year's Eve, but decided we didn't want to wait. We got engaged on my birthday, May 27th and were married on June 25th. There were a multitude of reasons - he was already living with my 3 boys and I and we wanted them to have a good example, my health insurance sucked, and then finally - who wants to wait on marrying the love of your life!!!! We had a wonderful wedding - outdoors and all the people that mattered were there. I now have a sister that I affectionetly call "The Wedding Nazi," but without her - it would not have been near as beautiful. Another one of my sisters got ordained and married us. It was a family affair to say the least.

Alot of people think that we are crazy to even bring swinging into our relationship at such an early stage, I disagree. We have the kind of relationship that is solid and works very well for us. Swinging was something that I had always been interested in and James had some experience. We have both been married before, both were very bad marriages. Some people learn from their prior mistakes and learning experiences, and we are two of those people. We both knew what we did wrong and the things that our former spouses did that damaged our prior relationships. We took those experiences and grew from them. We always have communicated well and since day one have been each others best friends. Swinging seems very natural to us and its an adventure that we share. I know that there are those people out there that won't play with a couple as "new" as us, and we do understand that. But if they got to know us - I think they would be surprised.

MJ - Yeah - the bald head IS very sexy...it just took me a bit to get used to it. But now I like it, I like it alot!!!!! Sorry about the book that I just wrote, but I hope that answers your question.

lovedoctor · 08-18-2005, 11:33 PM

It's awesome that you are in college Jenn, and raising kids at the same time. I was wondering what your major is, and how soon will you graduate?

jennandjamesinm · 08-19-2005, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by lovedoctor

It's awesome that you are in college Jenn, and raising kids at the same time. I was wondering what your major is, and how soon will you graduate?

I actually have a double major - Psychology and Sociology. Because of the time I spend as an Education major, I think I have about 3 more years to go. I have some sophomore level classes that I still need to take that I probably won't take until next fall. I usually take 15 to 18 hours a semester and usually 9 over the summer, so its kind of a wait and see thing on when I will actually graduate. But I plan on going right on to grad school when I'm done. I haven't decided what I am going after yet though - I just don't know what I want to be when I grow up

Dynamar · 08-19-2005, 08:55 PM

Jenn... You mentioned being on Yahoo personals, and off, and then on again before agreeing to meet James. How many frogs did you kiss before you found your prince?

And for both Jenn and James... What are your overall thoughts about online vanilla dating services?

Thanks... this has been interesting.

iowancouple96 · 08-20-2005, 12:07 AM

What is each of your fantasies, and have you fulfilled them yet?

Favorite positions?

What drives you insane??

What makes your marriage strong? Any advice for others?

jennandjamesinm · 08-20-2005, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Dynamar

Jenn... You mentioned being on Yahoo personals, and off, and then on again before agreeing to meet James. How many frogs did you kiss before you found your prince?

Too many to count LOL. I went out on 4 different dates and had 2 set up, but got stood up

It was worth it to find my prince though

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Originally Posted by Dynamar

And for both Jenn and James... What are your overall thoughts about online vanilla dating services?

Jenn - I think that vanilla online dating is the dating wave of the future. It does make it a lot easier then trying to meet someone at the grocery, bar, etc..... People just don't have the time that they used to, and online dating usually helps to screen out the losers. I used alot of caution though - always met in a public place, let someone know where I was, the usuals. You still have trolls who are only looking for only one thing, but I think that's everywhere. You have to be able to read people and go into a date with no expectations and have an "out" although I never used one.

James - I think thats there is alot more weirdos on vanilla sites. I think that in the vanilla world, you have to take longer to get to know someone. I think online dating is a good thing. I met the love of my life through Yahoo Personals, so I can't really say anything bad about it. Overall I would give vanilla online dating a B.

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Originally Posted by Dynamar

Thanks... this has been interesting.

Yes, It has been

jennandjamesinm · 08-20-2005, 02:05 PM

Jenn - I'm going to answer these now and have James add his thoughts later.

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