Be honest - if you have a bi male, you aren't a straight couple!

[SKPLD]

Seems to me that people think it's ok to lie and be dishonest about what they are and what they are about. But I think most men would totally freak out if a bimale , bi curious or even bi friendly male was to be in a bed with them, be honest here people. And yet you say that in swinging we all should have an open mind.Our society says it's ok for women to be bi but men are not allowed to be. Just doesn't make sense does it.

[passion8]

Had to think long and hard before posting here - not interested in getting into an arguement, but want to share these observations.

As has been talked about elsewhere on this site most men, whether they admit it or not are curious to know what it would be like to give a guy a blowjob, just once probably. Now suposing I had done that, does that mean I have to call myself bi-sexual for the rest of my swinging life? Or perhaps I want to place a seperate advert looking to fulfil this fantasy, if that is the case what's wrong with keeping the straight adverts running? Nobody cares if a woman changes her status and while if I ask someone a direct question I would want an honest response, I respect their right to advertise for different types of swingers. There are female swingers who occasionally like a gangbang, but you don't see an advert - straight male & bi curious gangbang loving female looking for a bifemale.......

You run adverts to try and attract the people you want to meet and again as has been discussed elsewhere many couples have 3 or 4 other couples they like to swing with on a regular basis - perhaps in this case this couple would like to find just 1 couple to share the males bisexual curiosity with.

So my feeling is there's absolutely nothing wrong with running the 2 adverts, but if I were to respond to either advert I would wish that the couple answered any questions that we asked completly honestly - an advert is a marketing tool I don't buy a new truck just because I saw a nice ad in the paper - I do my research and ask more questions, same thing here.

[heandshecpl]

Originally posted by DeesireCpl

MrDeesire says he owes you a shooter.

facelick facelick Sounds perfect to me DeesireCpl Can I trade the shooter for a dance facelick facelick

[austxmark]

This issue has come up a million times before. I agree with the concern of honesty but I also understand the pressure to be silent on an interest that so many swingers get uptight about. I think a person is expected to reveal any relevent information as well as answer any direct questions.
That being said, is it relevent? I mean I do not reveal my kinkest fantasy to anyone who asks..I would only reveal that after a deep trust has developed and meeting at a swingers bar is not that level.
What do I do concerning bi-sex? Do I do oral or anal? Receiving or giving? This is a major issue. If I did anal receiving with no condom then I am totally obligated to reveal that fact to any potential sexual partner regardless of swinger or not. If I did oral where the guy sucked me only then I would feel that I had no obligation as that carries no known risk to anyone else I might meet later.
This statement of trust being broken is bogus without the context being addressed. Those who acted like it was a major lie need to examine the facts more closely and then decide to degree.

[omneesx]

Amen Mark. Well said.

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by DeesireCpl

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It is not a crime to be bisexual ....so why hide the fact , the lifestyle is about honesty and trust.

Trusting the wrong people is a mistake when it comes to discussing homosexual leanings in men. Many, many swingers are 'the wrong people'.

That's why.

[WesternSwing]

If a couple advertised to be straight, but when we got to know them and they were comfortable enough with us to admit that the male is bi, it would not bother us. We don't have to do bi-male activities with them. And I can understand with the stigma associated with bi-male activities why they would not advertise it.

Mr. WS

[misterbates]

Originally Posted by TeamSoBe

Trusting the wrong people is a mistake when it comes to discussing homosexual leanings in men. Many, many swingers are 'the wrong people'.

That's why.

Well it's like this...we list both of us as bi. We have no desire to be involved with homophobic closed minded people..if you are not bi then we dont need bi activities..but if you are great..After many years swinging we dont find ourselves needing to lie about who we are, if you dont like bi males then we dont like you and are not that desperate to get laid that we'll do people who are not on the same page as us......as for anybody who has a problem with me being bi....2 bad 4 U!!!!

As i have said before..Soooooooo many times cples write us with so called Str8 males and profiles that express how much they dont want bi males, but
in their letters they tell us how the male is acually bi-curious or totally bi...makes no sense to me....And most if not all the single males say they will be bi within a threesome setting...

We also very rareley write to people first and would never ever write to a profile that said "no bi males" no matter how sexy they are..the attitude makes them ugly to us.....

Mister B facelick

[SteveInAZ]

Thanks for this thread - the thought that the lifestyle community is more open and honest is a foundation of what makes the community work. Also makes it easier to get a handle on the who you want to meet.

As for me, I'm being pretty open about being bi and have no ambiguity about liking a nice warm dick in my mouth any less than a wonderfully wet snatch. I suspect many men are more bisexual than they let on, but are afradi of astigma that says if you suck a dick you somehow magically become gay.