Any men changed from straight to bi/curious since starting to swing?

[saywhenillwait]

Im curious as to how many men that started the lifestyle stating that they were straight, have since changed to bi-curious, or bi? Is this something that happens often? If you have changed from straight to bi, what caused the change? How long were you swinging when you decided to change? I cant speak for every man out there, but many that I know have a desire to watch their wife with another woman. Do woman ever think of their husband with another man?

[Miss_Piggy]

I'd love to see Kermit with another man.
That's on my top 10 list.

[CoupleOfC's]

It would be interesting to know just how many female halves have a fantasy of seeing their hubby with a guy. Are there some of you out there that harbor the fantasy, but never mention it because you know what your hubby's reaction would be? Christine and I seem to be in a very small minority because neither of us are interested in seeing the other with someone of the same sex. I know I know....how can I be normal if I don't want to see her with another woman?? (that's totally tongue in cheek btw!) It's just SOOO much more exciting seeing her with another guy! Anyway....back to the original topic..... I've always (and still do) consider myself straight. If Christine was interested in seeing me in a bi situation, then I guess it's something I would seriously consider. But since she's not, and I don't think it's something I would ever seek out on my own.... Then again, who knows, when we got married I never thought I'd see (much less enjoy!) her riding another guy. Isn't exploring our sexual selves what this is all about anyway?

Chris

[saywhenillwait]

Are there some of you out there, that harbor the fantasy but never mention because you know what your hubby's reaction would be?

I cant honestly tell you how my reaction would be if my wife told me this is something she would want. Ive always concidered myself straight, and havent had the desire to change. How can I ask my wife to play with another female, but completely refuse to consider a wish that she would have. Chris like you I dont think I would ever pursue it on my own....

[naughty A]

I probably should keep my mouth shut but... I haven't learned yet.

I have read a lot of porn/erotica... and just viewed stories that featured two males interacting as part of the story... erotic, exciting what ever... mildly interesting.

I knew my hubby had no interest... W h a t s o e v e r ... and I would never have requested that he indulge my curiosity.

then I happened to be at a bdsm club one night and there was a gay couple there. and they were interacting and frankly... I hope I concealed my emotions because as judgmental and hypocritical as this sounds... it was far from appealing (to me at any rate). it is not an experience I want to witness again. we left early and on subsequent nights are always careful to take seats where the option of NOT observing is possible but not obvious.

was it because of the activities that they were indulging in?
was it because it was my first experience at a bdsm club?

I don't know...either of those are possible ... but any possibility that I might have ever found it interesting has been completely obliterated from my mind.

I feel like everything out of my keyboard is a wet blanket these days

[JustAskJulie]

That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.

[saywhenillwait]

If you dont mind me asking Julie, why is this your #1 fantasy?

[jcbicouple]

We both find watching each other with the same sex extremely erotic. We're never content to just watch though, which is why we are interested in bisexual playmates! LOL!

[BiloxiCouple]

That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.

I thought it was 3 guys and I was drunk?

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by saywhenillwait

If you dont mind me asking Julie, why is this your #1 fantasy?

Because it's still unfulfilled

[tulippe44]

My husband (95mustang) is totally straight. Although I have told him that it is a fantasy to see him do oral with another man, we both agree that it would be better keep to fantasy for us. It doesn't bother him that I fantasize (sp) about this, but it will never happen. Some fantasies for us should just remain fantasy.

[GerdOEvert]

1. When we started out my wife knew of my teen sex experimentation, and the psychological pain it had caused me for many years.

2. After some years of swinging, we tried oral with several guys at the club and at home exchanges. I never did have a male cum, but it would have been sexy and erotic if he did.

3. At this moment, I would love to taste a cock before it goes into either Eileen or his wife, and then taste it after it has cum, and still wet with creme.

4. I also think it would be erotic to eat out Eileen or Doris while Don is using a small vibe on my ass, and then perhaps later butt fucking me while I am eating Doris or Eileen.

5. I have wondered what it would be like to be at a gay club in Seattle and really be reamed by a guy.; But with the AID epidemic, I will leave that to my imagination and stimulation.

6. I was once blown by a male -- and he gave me the very best blow job I have ever had. He seemed to know how to get every drop of creme out, and I felt so relaxed afterwards.

7. There have been other opportunities, but for one reason or another did not take them.

8. The description of "Tete beche" also sounds sexy and fun.

9. More than one of our female playmates has said that she would be turned on by male - male action.

10. As we have gone along, Eileen has come out more and tried more bi stuff with her girlfriends.

Otto & Eileen

[jennjenn]

OK, I'm a single (but attached) female exploring swinging with my significant other. Before I met him I interacted with a lot of single guys in this lifestyle, online, on the phone, and some in person. It has been my experience that the guys who are into this lifestyle are a lot less homophobic than the general population of guys who aren't into swinging. The idea of being in the same room with another naked aroused male is very threatening to a lot of guys outside the swinging community but a given within the lifestyle.

Having said that, I have a fantasy about two guys together in a threesome situation - some m/m - with a female (that would be me lol) but the guys are both straight. Let me explain....I used to think two seeing two guys together would be really really hot but after getting to know one single guy who was straight in his profile but way more than bi in reality, I discovered that when a guy leans toward being gay as in saying beforehand that he loves women but in a threesome situation would love to suck a cock (especially if it's been inside me first) and would be open to anal with a guy in the same situation, it was a turn off. I found through that that my fantasy has more to do with a guy who is truly straight but comfortable enough with his masculinity to be open to incidental (or a little more than incidental) contact in a mfm situation. Who is so into the moment and so turned on that he lets things happen/does things he wouldn't have done otherwise. A straight guy who will go down on me after another guy has cum in me (huge fantasy, not bi but certainly not homophobic), who will maybe in the heat of the moment let another guy fuck me while we are in a 69 position with me on top. This is a big fantasy, I don't want him to suck another guy's cock, but there will be some incidental contact in a situation like that involving licking more than likely. I think that is SO yummy. A guy who's not afraid to touch another guy's cum on me or who loves sloppy seconds and cream pies. I don't consider that bi but the idea of it turns me on a lot. Even a man who's comfortable guiding the other guy's penis into me if it slips out or who's comfortable with his cock touching the other guy's cock inside me in a double penetration kind of thing. The fantasy that gets me off everytime right now is this: The guy I'm dating and I are in a mfm and the attention is focused on me entirely facelick . We have all kinds of foreplay, both sucking my breasts, a lot of kisses from my guy, etc. One going down on me while I suck the other guy. Then I suck them both at the same time, one then the other, holding both cocks in my hands. I have their cocks like an inch from each other while I suck them and even let them barely touch as I take one in my mouth and then the other (Very hot to me btw). Then we attempt a double vaginal with me on top of the other guy (who can't be very big lol) and my bf behind me. Both guys are loving it. My bf cums inside me first and pulls out leaving the other guy inside me and then slides a finger or two into my pussy while the other guy and I are still fucking. I usually come by this point, my fantasy gets no further lol. But that's the one that really works for me right now. So it's kind of a bi fantasy, but kind of not because neither guy in my fantasy is bi. Just open to the moment. The thought of two guys kissing or hugging is a huge turn off though as is straight out oral, one guy on his knees in front of the other guy...submissive guys are a big turn off to me, maybe that's why. A guy with a cock in his mouth or on the receiving end of anal is putting himself in a submissive position.

[midnight hour]

I have seen male/male porn here and there...it is nothing that turns me on in any degree. I have NO fantasys about Mr. Midnite and another man at all...and I know 100% he has none either...at times even female/female porn will give me a turn off...even though i am very bi friendly...giving and recieving..
He is not freaky about things touching in a MFM at all...he knows things can get brushed and bumped...

midnite hour

[L&R]

R here: For the record, L is coercing me to reply to this. She read it, while I squirmed squeamishly. I have long held the opinion that women are biologically oriented neutral and have the capacity to go either way. Whereas, we males are almost definitely either oriented streight or gay. It just seems unmanly to be indecisive. No I can't be changed. L says she'll try it. Ok, I may have had my dick sucked in the Groping room n Negril...but it was dark and my hands were busy....and I didn't RECIPROCATE!!!!