Any men changed from straight to bi/curious since starting to swing?

[parshoot2005]

My first bi experience was at the request of the lady part of a couple that i played with for quite some time. She was very excitied to watch her hubby and I. It now seems to be anatural and fun part of meetings.

[montresor]

Was already experienced at bi play before getting into swinging. Ms P is fine with m2m oral as long as she's part of the action, as in her getting fucked while the guy in her blows the other man right over her face, says it seems a natural part of mfm, but it's not a necessary part of swinging for her. She likes to be with men who are open-minded enough to not shy away from m2m contact, but also likes being the object of all that male lust. Ms F is a hardcore enthusiast of watching two men play with each other. She will watch and masturbate during such a show before joining in full steam ahead. She especially likes to sit on a cock, lean back and have another guy lick them both. facelick

[TomDenise]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.

Join the club, my wife has lately expressed the same fantasy only involving me.

I have two reactions:

1. Tuck and run
2. Isnt this about experimentation?

I think it is more common than most men will admit.

[CBYLW]

I was homophobic when my wife and I started swinging many years ago. I was carefull not to bump into the other male and wouldn't even kiss my wife after she performed oral on another man. My bi activity, was a very gradual process over several years. It started with a couple. The husbnad started to suck me while at the direction of his wife. I was on my back performing oral on the lady and not in a position to protest. If I were asked, I know I would have said no. I accepted it and afterwards it wasn't even talked about. At a later date I was having sex with the same lady in a missionery position, when her husband came up to her for oral attention. She sucked him and then stuck his cock in my mouth. I was aprehensive but some how expected it. At this point I was divorced and was involved with this couple for several years. It took me several years to become totally comfortable with this. I now love the oppeness and the erotic atmoshpere that it brings. With me, Bi isn't neccessary with a couple but it does make it more comfortable and opens up so many more possiblities for fun.

[jacuzzicpl]

To answer the original question about "changing from straight to bi" I never thought much about it in those terms. I personally enjoy giving oral to another man while involved in a 3 or 4 some. I never labeled it as anything except a driving desire to experience EVERYTHING in life. Guys, you should try and set aside artificial labels and all the baggage they carry with them. I enjoy the sensation of a mans penis in my mouth, and I enjoy giving pleasure to another person. If your lady gets pleasure from watching this, then you are giving double pleasure.... Relax and open your minds a little. Sucking another mans penis isnt gonna make you suddely lust for show tunes and flowery shirts....you'll still enjoy the football game on sunday.....lol.....

[savannah_bi_fem]

Originally Posted by saywhenillwait

Do woman ever think of their husband with another man?

I do! He is totally straight and says he's not the least bit interested. But, if he was like many other straight men in the Lifestyle and felt like he'd do it if I initiated it and fully accepted it -- and if he thought he'd like to be sucked by a man or do the sucking -- well, I know it would be a very major turn-on for me. I do fantasize about it.

I still haven't asked, though. Maybe I'll work up the courage in just the right circumstances.

[MrXxotic]

I'm not bi but I can play one with the right partner in the right circumstances. Angel expressed a desire to have a bi-male MFM for years before I agreed to try. Having done it I can honestly say I can take it or leave it. Being with another guy doesn't do anything for me sexually, however, seeing her reaction when she watches and participates is exciting. I guess you could say I am taking one for the team but it makes her hot and I enjoy her excitment.

[kat1976]

I love, love this question! And I love JennJenn's response. I have yet to try mfm, but I know what would be most important to me is to be the center of attention. But I also know that I would not want 2 guys who were homophobic, or not open to doing things "in the moment" I also agree with the other posting that seeing a man in a submissive manner is not exciting, (at least to me right now), so how you accomplish all of the above I have no idea but I want to try! And my husband reports that he is not interested in becoming bi, but is not afraid of being on the same bed with another guy with the focus on me...of course! So who knows I guess, the main thing is just to be open to new experiences, and doing whats comfortable for everyone. (I'm still a new newbie though, so these are just my thoughts for now)

[jennjenn]

I agree with everything you said kat1976, from one newbie to another lol. Being the center of attention is always yummy. I think your husband can interact with another male (with you in the middle of course) and be open to the moment and still not consider himself bi. I haven't swung with my significant other yet but I think he'll be open to the things I talked about in my post when we do....and I know he doesn't consider himself bi. I personally would rather be with a guy who considers himself straight but gets caught up in the moment because he's so excited by it all and maybe does some things he wouldn't have thought he would do. mmmmmmm....

[seriously]

R, don't worry you're NOT gay. For that matter, neither am I! That being said....

jennjenn, I like your fantasies. Our first experience with mfm, with her as the center of attention, has left me far less threatened by another erect cock in the room. While we didn't do a dp, I did finger her ass while he was inside her which of course led to some incedental contact through that thin membrane between. And admittedly I angled my finger so as to maximize his pleasure and of course hers..though I'm NOT gay.. I found that it was pretty cool to give them both this pleasure.

Since that experience I have become a bit more curious ...For instance, my wife tells me that women give better head to other women since they know the equipment so well. By the way Tempest, maybe we should arrange for a friendly competition one night, LOL. If this is true then I think I'd be interested in recieving some oral from a guy, preferably one who's done it before.

-seriously....btw I'm not gay

[Mike and Jan]

When did I change? Well, it had to be our very first swinging experience. It was in the late seventies, we'd been married only three years, and we had good friends over to watch 'Deep Throat' on 8mm film.

This was very much in the news at the time and I'd managed, through some car sales friends, to get the copy. The other two couples were friends we'd known from my two years as a cop. Nothing sexual had ever happened or had even been discussed.

After watching the film one of the couples left fairly quickly to get alone! LOL! The other couple stayed and we talked about sex which led to our first experience.

As nice as it was to get undressed with three special people and to, for the first time, explore the other wife..., it was a complete turn-on to watch my gorgeous young wife being seduced by my friend.

I think we'd each had intercourse, and lots of oral, at least twice when it happened. We were all laying on the bed together and when my wife and my friend began making out for about the third time I helped them. His wife and I were intently watching the two maneurver into position and when his cock came close to my wife's ready vagina the other wife and I both grabbed his cock and guided it in.

It really, really felt good in my hand and his wife and I kept on massaging and licking them the whole time they had intercourse.

I guess that was the actual moment that I went from 'straight' to curious.

[Greg & Sheryl]

Haven't changed - never will.

[couple127]

I considered myself straight. One of those days my wife mentioned she would love to see me with another man. I accepted the proposition and posted an add, requesting a bi-curious male couple. We found one after a while and went for it. We both enjoyed and I felt a new kind of pleasure, never experienced before.
That couple introduced us to a male friend, that called himself 100% straight, but after two encounters, he decided to be an active partner only. He enjoyed and I tasted an 8" member inside me. Now I can say, I am bisexual to a certain extent only. No kissing, just oral and anal contact. It is one of the the most pleasurable experience I had in my life.
If anybody wants to try it. Just draw us a line to couple127@yahoo.com

[sexRus50]

My wife said she would like to watch me give a guy a blow job so she could watch as I do when she does a guy. I tried and it and we both thought it was so cool. Now, on a regular basis we try to find an accommodating guy and we blow him together. She enjoys watching him shoot cum in my mouth and then she deep kisses me to slurp it all up while I fuck her. He then licks my cum from her pussy and shares it with her orally. I am now a confirmed bi-curious husband.

[RaspberryDeligh]

Hi Everyone,

It sounds like, so far, that the majority of the individuals who've posted here, would lean or have leaned over toward the Bi side and kinda liked it. That's cool. I know I have. Really enjoyed it to the point of thinking now that, not having the possibility of having an open Bi experience like that would kinda suck – for me anyway.
But, the reason I’m posting is really because of the question itself: “Any men changed from straight to bi/curious since starting to swing?
Specifically with the word changed. For instance, L&R stated that, (Post # 15)
“I have long held the opinion that women are biologically oriented neutral and have the capacity to go either way. Whereas, we males are almost definitely either oriented streight or gay.”
Hmmm. Well, what if then Men were actually just like women in this above hypothesis and were also oriented neutral? If that were the case, then perhaps nobody changes at all. Maybe we always were and didn’t know it. Maybe we’re all Bi and there are still some who don't really realize it yet. Hmmmm, maybe. Just suppose for the moment we are and that depending on individual life experiences and realities, we can come to be open or not open to our own inherent Bi-Sexual nature. And that could then explain the die-hard attitude of the “str8” guys and gals like (assuming) Greg from Greg and Sheryl who said, (Post 27) “Haven't changed - never will.” (I think that’s funny, I chuckle.)
I just don’t like the perpetuation of the either/or scenario. Which then inevitably leads to finger pointing and then…..further off the point of my thought. I also don't like the labels either. Labels to be (Bi) or not to be (Bi) suck! Labels in any situation, only go to limit and restrict, bind and constrict and ultimately lend themselves to the ease of stereotyping and so on and so on…..

In my experience, the question of to be or not to be is not a Choice one can consciously make and let alone the enjoyment of it. One can, however, make a conscious decision to be open to the possibility of such experience. Once experienced, one then only decides if the experience was enjoyable in that moment.

Any way, the point I’m trying to make with all this is, this, perhaps for those who may have a concern or curiosity with Bi Sexual experiences, instead of having to decide either or, and question, “Oh my God will I be changed for ever?!? Because I can’t be Gay!!!!!!!” maybe you’ll find that it’s more comfortable or easy to just say, “what the f**k! Be open, neither accepting or condemning and you just might find that the only thing that matters is feeling good in the moment.

But who knows, maybe not. Just a thought.