Does a woman get turned on seeing her man with a man?

[lia6972]

I understand a woman being bi as I love women and everything to do with them. And seeing two women or even better, being with them is every man's dream. Is it the same the other way around? Do women get turned on, turned off, or are indifferent by seeing their man with another man?

[TeamSoBe]

My woman loves it. She mostly just likes to see two guys making out, or maybe sucking each other. Watching two guys have anal sex isn't something that she gets real into, but then neither of us really get into watching girls get screwed in the poop chute either.

Unfortunately for her (and me) not all of the guys that we play with are into that. It's still mostly a fantasy for her. You should see her stare at the screen when we're watching "Queer As Folk" and there is a sex scene though, it's like porn for her. She gets exactly she same kind of charge out of that as a lot of guys get out of watching two girls make out.

[Quin]

It does turn me on to see two men (or even more) involved in a sexual situation with each other. What's even more of a turn on to me is putting a woman in the picture also. Three people (or more) who aren't inhibited by what society dictates and don't have the *built in since birth homophobic tendencies*...and just doing what feels good and natural at the moment is a huge turnon.

Quin
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[DragonsLair]

It can be a turnon. I certainly don't find it offensive. I've watched some videos that show bi activity and the guys are getting it on as much as the girls.

I've always thought same sex activity made alot of sense. Who can satisfy a man better than another man? Just like a woman can satisfy another woman better. Usually. There are always some things the opposite sex can do better. But someone of the same sex knows exactly how it feels when something is done to another. Seems logical.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

[JustAskJulie]

Ya know it's funny, seeing my hubby with another woman really does nothing for me. I mean I enjoy it because I know he is enjoying it but I don't really get off on watching him. Now he loves to see me with other men, but unlike most guys could care less about seeing me with other women unless he is in the middle of it.

As for the idea of seeing two guys together, that is one of my biggest fantasies.... one that I know will most likely NOT be fulfilled with my hubby

[TeamSoBe]

Haha, that's funny Julie, you two are a lot like us. I have seen so many girls crawling all over each other that it does nothing for me. I mean, I like hot girls, and I like to see two hot girls twice as much as I like to see one, but there isn't any particular charge out of seeing them suck on each other. Seeing a male and a female going at it in front of me though, that's heavy, I love that, espeically when the girl is my wife.

My wife, on the other hand, enjoys watching me with a girl because she knows that I love it, but it doesn't do anything for her. If the guy involved wasn't me then she wouldn't even bother to watch. Two hot guys, though, and she gets hypnotized and her whole body flushes.

...so I guess you two are not as unusual as you think. We thought that we were strange too.

[Beatrice]

My first post and a topic I am so interested in. I love to see my husband enjoying himself with another man. I thought I was the only woman that this applied to but apparently not. He likes me to be involved too and that makes it all the more interesting.

[Blacklightphantasy]

Only for the pleasure of it, you know? Not that I want him to be gay. I just like the idea of him getting into the experience of it so much that he just lets go, understanding that pleasure is pleasure for it's own sake...and surrenders to the taboo of it. I would like to see a guy sucking him more than anything else.

I could never see him as anything but manly, but to see a guy blowing him would totally turn me on....

[RnKin Fla]

I would love to see R with another guy - kissing, getting a blowjob. But, alas, that will never happen.

He's just a little phobic about that. We've talked about it and just thinking about it makes him VERY nervous.

oh well.

[RussErin]

We are fairly new to this lifestyle, but I have discoverd that the one thing that turns me on more than anything is seeing my husband with another guy. Luckily for me, he enjoys it too! In the few experiences we have had, things haven't progressed beyond him giving and receiving blow jobs, but he is very interested in exploring this new bi side of himself and I am very eager to assist him

Erin

[Magnolia]

This is a very interesting topic. For all of the women who's husband has found the path to sexual freedom. Did you have to convince them that it was okay or did they just bring it up to you?

I too find the idea of two men highly erotic. My husband just recently brought it up to me, but still tends to have phobic moments. Did anyone else experience this?

Magnolia

[Magnum97]

Just how common is it that women want to see other men going at it? Although I've done both, I thought women found it disgusting.

[annmikeus]

I love to do my man's ass with toys. But I am not interested in seeing him do a guy in any way. I am not homophobic. Just don't want to share my pleasure with a man. And that includes blowjobs.

[Perseus]

I know that it has been talked about in other threads, but I think it applies in this thread as well. There are so many Bi women in the lifestyle, and it is so accepted, but the reverse is so... "taboo" in a way that I know bi men in the scene (myself included for a long time) that hesitated to even bring up that fact that they are open to a little soft bi play. Of course the reason is buried in the whole "macho male psyche" thing (along with a whole list of other related misconceptions and fears, but it still amazes me that in a lifestyle that is all about open feelings and breaking "taboo's", that this part of sexuality still hold the stigma it does in the community.

On a side note, being a bi man, I don’t get into watching two men together (at least I don’t seek it out), but I love to watch two women together.

Diversity, it makes the world go round!

[Beatrice]

For the question of how I got my man to be into bi play. We have been married a long time and I knew this was a fantasy and finally met someone I trusted enough to swing with both of us. My husband loved it (maybe too much)!!! I was surprised at how turned on I got by watching US. Not just watching the two men but the way we all three had such a good time. We have met about three times and distance keeps us apart or we would meet more. It has just been so interesting. The men (neither) want to be thought of as gay and they both enjoy my part and include me the whole time too so it is just very interesting. One man will give a blow job and receive anal but the other will not give a blow job or receive anal but takes the blow job and gives anal. Does that make sense?