Does a woman get turned on seeing her man with a man?

[TeamSoBe]

It doesn't have to make sense as long as everybody is having fun.

[uberkraker]

Originally posted by Beatrice
The men (neither) want to be thought of as gay and they both enjoy my part and include me the whole time too so it is just very interesting. One man will give a blow job and receive anal but the other will not give a blow job or receive anal but takes the blow job and gives anal. Does that make sense?

I'm not at all surprised, and it makes perfect sense to me.

Actually.... (Hold on to your hats, boys and girls - better have a seat and another drink for this one. A VERY controversial statement is forthcoming).... In my own personal experience most men who seek and fantasize about MFM situations do so because they harbor some bi-curiousity or homo-erotic fantasies of their own; not just because they want to see their woman receive pleasure from another man, although this is a part of it.

The sexual revolution came and went, and the funny part is that the men got left out. Sure, there's the stud paridigm ,and you might ask youself what did men ever need to be liberated from to begin with, but I think you hit it with the statement "Neither want to be thought of as gay."

I have seen the most testosterone posessed male masturbate himself in front of me while in MFM scenes. Does this make him "gay?" I think not.

In fact, perhaps the most difficult aftermath of the MFM to deal with is when your friend approaches you on the golf course Sunday morning, and says something to the effect of "you know, the other night, when my hand (lips, tongue) accidentally brushed your... well... you know... your.... uhh...." To which you cooly reply "yeah dude - no problem, I know what you're trying to say." "Uh... thanks man!"

MFM just gives these types a marginal "socially acceptable" environment in which to explore their own curiousity (thanks to the porn merchants out in Simi Valley - MFM is now "mainstream").

I'd even go so far as to say that if you (as a male) feel the need to surpress the urge to vomit at the thought of touching another man's genitals then you probably have no business exploring MFM play scenes to begin with (but feel free to see for yourself).

If you feel that such activities make a man "gay" or "bi" then live that way. I don't, and I won't...

Just my humble opinion, but being bi in the lifestyle has opened a lot of erotic horizons I’d normally not have experienced, but that’s just me. I think there’s a lot more “social programming” that men get subjected to in their formative years that moderates their decisions and boundaries with regards to intimacies with other men. Women, on the other hand, seem to be encouraged to be emotionally approachable by members of the same sex. I think that translates well into a better comfort-level with sexual experimentation as adults

[BradAndJanet]

I've asked J about this before and she is kind of ambivalent about it. She says it wouldn't bother her, but it's not particularly one of her fantasies. I'm sure it's not uncommon for women to be aroused by male-male play however.

Lakota, what about your partner? What does she think?

-B

She was actually the first to bring it up. Since i'm out on a ship we "cyber" a lot. We were in a "thread" and it just came up. She knew I was bi when we met so I guess it was more of a case of "when" as opposed to "if".

I always see where a couple boundaries are when socializing. I know some guys feel a little "creepy" over the prospect, and I in-no-way take it personally if they don't want to play "with me".

For the record, she was really turned on when I "bottomed".

[shysplsk]

Hrmmm.. Ok, I'd lake to add something here...

As the male half of a couple, I have to admit, bi-curious thoughts have been creeping into my fantasies and thoughts lately. If a woman can ever be expected or asked to have a bi experience for the benefeit of her male partner, is it unreasonable for her to ask the same?

I'd definitely have my limits, I wouldn't be interested in any anal play, but masturbation favors, or whatever... Try anything once.. Mind you, more than likely in that couple of minutes (especially the few seconds) right before orgasm, you could problably convince me to go stand on the front lawn wearing a tutu, spray paint myself blue, and stuff a chicken up by butt while playing the bagpipes.

Point being, I'm into whatever feels good. Going with the moment and allowing myself to experience pleasure for pleasures sake. What if you were blindfolded and tied to a bed with 10 people in the room, 5 male and 5 female. You can feel someone giving you oral, but you don't know if the giver is male or female. Whether you are a man or a woman, and the giver was male or female, it'd just feel GOOD. Knowing the gender of the person performing oral on you is irrelevant.

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by shysplsk
Mind you, more than likely in that couple of minutes (especially the few seconds) right before orgasm, you could problably convince me to go stand on the front lawn wearing a tutu, spray paint myself blue, and stuff a chicken up by butt while playing the bagpipes.

That is just a "TAD" extreme I'd say, but funnier than hell none the less!

Thanks for the laugh!

Lori

[Beatrice]

Thank you all so much for your replies and your honesty! The people I know just do not talk about "sexual" situations. I think someone got it right when they said a man who wants to experience a MFM situation is interested in exploring his "bi" side and I also think that is good. I wish everyone would just be honest about anything they feel and I think because I feel this way it has made us able to explore some of his fantasies. Although he likes to say they are my fantasies too. Some men just can't admit they like being with another man! When our threesome are not together in a hotel room for sex you would never think these two guys would do some of the things we do so who knows what fantasies lurk in the mind of others!!! I just love it anyway!

[Jimmy_pop711]

Hi there !!

Well, I have always wanted to be involved in a MFM. I always wanted to watch my former wife with another man also. I knew she was always hot and extremely horny, and the thought of her getting off was always what excited me. However, I also knew how good she was, and the thought of the guy getting to experience that also turned me on. I have never been with a man, but I wouldn't rule it out. The thought of giving a blow job has entered my mind once or twice. I guess it would be interesting with the right couple.