bi-men

[curioscouple262]

So a interesting thing came up recently in between me and my GF. She wanted to get bi MMF porn. Since I typicaly get off just by seeing her excited and having a good time it made me think about what I was willing to do. It is not really fair that she will have sex with a woman for my enjoyment and for me to not return the favor. I have realized that I am not gay but there are some things I would be ok with doing it if excited her and fullfilled her fantasy. I was actually surprised with my self when I was faced with this. Has anyone else had this come up in your relationship or even known of others who swung this way? If it came up what was your reaction and what did you do? I know this is a sensitive subject to most men but I would like to hear your opinions.

[Mephisto]

I had a similiar conversation with "a friend" recently. She asked me what my fanatasies were. I told her I didn't really have any other than the typical male fantasy of two woman at once.

The conversation progressed, and she told me she wouldn't mind doing that - I asked her if she had something similiar involving two males, but she stated no, she thought she would prefer another woman, as long as she got to pick.

I was ok with that, because her standards are a lot higher than mine.

[TomF_22033]

Funny you should bring this up. My SO and I are dealing with this now. I'm probably the only guy on the planet who never got into the FMF porno thing. While I think it would be cool to have a couple of women pleasing me, I get more enjoyment about pleasing them. MFM is something I've wanted to try, and I know that some touching happens. But I'm not looking to try bi. But my SO suprised me when she suggested that she would be turned on by some MM action. Now talk about a mind spin. We've discussed her being bi-courious, and I'm fine with this, but I'm not really looking to try bi. Hmmm. Isn't life weird how things come about.

[MassPleaser]

That was how I deceided to try bi. My wife is bi and she said it wasn't "fair" for her to give me a show with another woeman but I couldn't give her a show with another guy. It took a lot of talking and going over boundries and such, but I did end up playing with another guy for a MMF. I refuse to go so far as to kiss another guy, but I have given and received oral from another guy a few times and it was pretty good. I tried doing anal with one guy, but as soon as my wife got up to get a drink I went soft and couldn't perform without her being there. There aren't many men out there willing to even consider playing with another guy, but there are a lot of women looking to see it. Since we tried it our sex life has gotten even better than it was before.

[NandTfromCA]

I hesitated posting this on here because I don't want to be labeled, and I don't want to limit the couples that N and I might hook up with (a homophobic male half saying "let's cross them off our list"). At the same time, I have to think that there are alot of straight guys who wonder in the back of their minds about this. Maybe I'm wrong; maybe I'm just a freak.

The first response that comes to mind is that I wouldn't want N to play with girls just to excite me. Since I happen to enjoy it, that's just a bonus.

I would never play with a dude just to excite her either. That said, she has had a MM fantasy and I had been curious about sucking a guy's cock for a while. The chance came up, we were swapping with another couple who's male half is as much a freak as I am and that we have become very comfortable with, so we gave it a try.

It was pretty funny how the conversation went down (the girls were both pleasuring us orally at the moment):
Me: Hey J, have you ever thought about sucking a guys cock before?
J: Dude, I don't know what your thinking but I wouldn't want to hurt your feelings or anything. I would NEVER kiss a guy.
Me: Don't worry, neither would I. That grosses me out. But I have thought about sucking a guys cock.
J: Yeah, I have too. You can suck mine if you want.
Me:

After a minute or two, I was done. Not grossed out but not at all excited either. I just wanted to get back to paying attention to someone more feminine.

N enjoyed the show and I satisfied a curiosity. I doubt I will ever want to do it again, but it was still cool to explore my boundaries. I guess I found one

[BiWoman33]

APPLAUSE!!!!
Guys, you are really amazing to be so open and honest in this thread. I am a female who loves MM action, and while I would never want a man to do it for me, if it is a fantasy of his, or one he wants to explore, I am right there supporting and loving him. It's almost unfair in our society that men have to hide what might otherwise be a much broader perspective on sexuality. It's pure joy to experience the pleasures of our bodies, and I feel men sometimes get short shrift in a largely homophobic society.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by curioscouple262

It is not really fair that she will have sex with a woman for my enjoyment and for me to not return the favor.

If she is doing it for you, then she is doing it for all the wrong reasons. If she wants to play with another woman, it shouldn't be just because she expects soemthing in return. She should do it because she wants to.

Mrs Spoo does not consider herself bisexual, but she has and will play with women who she is attracted to (a rare thing). She doesn't do it for me, she does it for her. She doesn't expect me to have sex with a guy "in return". Which is good, because I wouldn't go there...

If you are bi, enjoy it. But, if you're not, don't use swinging as a form of marital barter system. That can only lead to trouble.

Spoomonkey

[novabicple]

Gents,

You are the epitome of what's right in schwingworld!!! Great communication with your partners - willingness to try new things - eager to please you partners - and confident enough in your relationship to tell her that you either liked it or didn't, want to do it again, or don't want to take one for the team. Bravo!!!! Kudos, too, to your SO for trusting you/respecting you enough to bring it up and accepting your ultimate decision. As Monsieur Spoo says, the 'I did this for you, so you do that for me.' discussion is wrong for a lot of reasons. It doesn't appear that you'd do that.

Straight, Bi, or Curious, you're the kind of people we like to meet - the truly open-minded kind of people that make the 'style fun.

Mr. Nova


BTW - Don't feel alone in your curiosity - our 'phone' rings off the hook with couples (guys with wives/girlfriends) expanding their boundaries. Of those we've chosen to meet, some have said "Not again, thanks." and some have said "Wow, why have I waited so long!". Whatever floats your boat - it's all about having fun...

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

First I have no desire to see Spoo with another man or any man with another man for that matter. But, for the sake of the question...if I was interest in that sort of thing and Spoo was not (which he isn't) I wouldn't even ask him.

It is not enjoyable for me to see Spoo do anything he doesn't enjoy or isn't comfortable with just for me. I wouldn't want him to ask me (never has and wouldn't) to do something that I wasn't comfortable with just because he wanted to see me do it.

I just don't get that way of thinking. Now if you are into it and comfortable with it than go for it and you'll both enjoy. But the lifestyle for us is no pressure and pleasurable for both of us.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[curioscouple262]

I guess I worded that wrong its a tit for tat. Its more of she does it because she likes to and knows it is something I want. For me on the other hand it is not necessarily that I get off on men but it gets me going seeing her getting excited by what I am doing and there fore it is enjoyable for me. Even if it is something I would not do one on one.

[cur_cpl_n_chey]

this is partially how we got back into the "swing" of things together. We were talking one night and he confessed that one of the best oral experiences he ever had was with his wife and one guy. the lights were off and he had no idea later it was another guy performing oral sex on him. He then confessed he would like to give it a try with the "right" guy.

His theory on this is you know how to please yourself and what feels good, so in theory wouldn't you know how to give someone of the same sex the same pleasure? this goes for both male and female. I am bi myself and he still classifies himself as bicurious(I have told him honey if you have had oral sex with more than one guy and enjoyed it that makes you bi but he is not there yet)

he has never kissed a guy and he is not attracted to all men. just a few. He has never participated in anal sex and is not sure he ever will. However he is comfortable helping me perform oral on another guy. He has always done this because HE wants to not because I have said turn about is fair play. I couldn't do that to him especially since I know that he only does this in a threesum with me present.

this is just my opinion

[Mike and Jan]

Is it just me, or has this board become more accepting of M/M activities over the years?

It's always been pretty obvious that almost as many wives would enjoy seeing the husbands do things as husbands enjoy seeing the wives. But, now it seems that more and more husbands might be willing within limits.

And, for you husbands that just aren't interested at all, there are some guys who would be willing to give the wives the show they desire and not expect any reciprocation from you. Hey, a blow job's a blow job! The wives get turned on beyond belief! Win/win for you!

[MrXxotic]

I don't consider myself bi simply because I don't find men sexually attractive at all. However, I will exchange oral with the right guy under the right circumstances. My first expierence is related in another post. Ever since I met my wife she has been into guy/guy sex and would often rent gay porn to pool her fantasies.

I think I have said somewhere here before, guy/guy is like Indian food. It is never my first choice but if that is what she wants I don't mind every once in a while. When I found I was not repulsed by bi sex I decided that since it turned her on so much I could do it for her. Like Mike and Jan said "a blow jobs a blow job".

[ohcpl43952]

I have told him honey if you have had oral sex with more than one guy and enjoyed it that makes you bi but he is not there yet

Ain't that the truth! But don't call ME bi.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mike and Jan

It's always been pretty obvious that almost as many wives would enjoy seeing the husbands do things as husbands enjoy seeing the wives. But, now it seems that more and more husbands might be willing within limits.

The only thing I enjoy and get off on is seeing Spoo with another woman. I was worried about that when we first got in the lifestyle and was amazed at how much I enjoyed it. Our first FMF I surprised Spoo by actually sitting back on the bed and taking care of myself while I watched him do her doggie style That really got him going that I was doing myself and enjoying watching.

That's as far as it goes for me...I'm glad he's not interested in men and he's glad I'm not asking him to be. Doesn't do a thing for either of us. For those that do enjoy it... great as long as your both happy with the situation go for it. This is what I love about the lifestyle everyone does what works for them as a couple or single and you don't have to worry about what everyone else is doing. Just find compatible playmates and there's no pressure, now worries.

Mrs Spoomonkey