Hidden Desires

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

......... and we weren't even allowed to fantasize about him anymore.

Girl.......I'd take his word for it if he won't even let you fantasize about it

Brett (and Tammy)

[BiNWAR]

Ok this is my first post and this is the perfect time and spot for it. Ive been married to my hubby for 10 glorious years, in the beginning he was soooo homophobic! I would have never thought in a lifetime that he would switch, until year before last while we were moving... in passing he said to me that he would like to try oral sex with a guy! after picking up my jaw and changing my panties (instant gratification) i of course asked him about it over and over and over and over again.
Then last year he dropped another bomb on me and said that he would like to try full blown sex with another guy! Again with the jaw and panties thing....anyways, it just amazing to me that he went from being dead set against gay sex to wanting it bad...IMO, I think its the ones that are completely dead set against it to the point of "obsession" (for lack of better word) are the ones that secretly want to at least try it. Society has built up same sex as this horrible disgusting thing, when in acutality its just....sex....hot, sweaty sex...if more people let their reservations down and thru out the outdated sexual morality issues there would be a lot less unhappiness in the world.

Heather

[confunktion]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

It's interesting because I've heard from many that they believe that men who enjoy seeing their women have sex with other men are actually suppressing bi desires. Now, this could be turned around to say that those who point out bi-ness in others and are the most anti-bi/ homo-phobic are actually the ones suppressing the bi desires. So, it could go either way.

I've heard this as well. Not an uncommon school of thought. I'm not exactly sure how true it is, though.

In my own personal experiences, I've seen a couple of the most adamant anti-bi/homo-phobes turn out to be closeted and in a very nasty struggle in their own mind. It's not pretty, and I feel for them. Internal conflict can rip a person up inside, sometimes leading to depression, anxiety, and other, even worse things.

There are many on this board who are confident and secure in the fact that they are just not interested in M/M fun. They are fortunate; they aren't the ones who get swept up in this whirlwind of anger and frustration. As an outsider, I just hope that the self-acceptance stage comes for them as soon as possible. It's never fun to watch someone suffer.

Mr. Funk
No wisecrack this time

[ALilOEverything]

I think it could go either way. I think if my husband was bi-curious he would mention it though. He's always said "why would I want a hairy bulky man with tough skin when I could have a smooth woman with curves in all the right places".

I used to think the idea of two men together wasn't appealing. In the past year and being on the boards my mind has opened a little further and sometimes I think it would be interesting to watch and it even turns me on a little. I don't know if it's really because I think two men together could be exciting or just because it's a taboo and sometimes things just being taboo can be exciting.

[Mike and Jan]

Teresa, the more posts of yours that I read, the more I like you.

I wrote numerous stories that included male/male contact in swinging and the responses showed that a lot of wives would enjoy seeing thier husband with another man. I even believe our Julie admitted to exactly that once but said that her husband just wouldn't go for it.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Mike and Jan

Teresa, the more posts of yours that I read, the more I like you.

Thank you


Teresa

[Chicup]

I'm a very straight male. I have no problem being around other naked men, it doesn't bother me.

On the other hand male-male sex is a MAJOR turn off, it grosses me out, so I wouldn't be 'comfortable' anywhere near it. My wife is of the same mindset (as are our swing partners) and if we were ever in a situation where male-male contact was going on, we would leave.

I know it has nothing to do with me having a secret homosexual side I'm repressing, I'm not 'grossed out' by my own reaction, but just find the thought repulsive much like seeing bestiality.