Bi guys - hot or not?

[TheGeek]

Y'know, Mrs. Geek and I are both listed as Bi on SwingLifestyle - and I've often wondered if that scares some people away.

We hooked up a while back with another couple where the guy admitted he was bi, but who didn't list that way online for pretty much that exact reason.

And I think we all know the real reason why female bi action is considered more openly acceptable among the Lifestyle: It's what the porn industry has taught us.

[allovertan]

Originally Posted by louieone

So after this very lengthy introduction, I'm wondering how many couples like us are out there? How women feel about men doing each other and how many guys have done bi or are curious, and just general reactions to what I've written. There seems to be no problem with the girls getting it on, and I'm wondering if there really is no problem with the boys getting it on also?

Louieone,
I'm a male curious about bisexuality for quite some time but never spoke of it in the past, If I said anything to my wife at the time she would have divorced me. Well, we divorced anyway for other reason and I found a great girl I can really be myself with.

She is bisexual and has been encouraging me to act on my curiousities. I'm very interested but still need to work up the courage. See that there's so many more bi men out there definately helps.

[Tia Vampire]

If I found out that my man was bi, I think,I would probably lose all respect for him. I do not believe that a woman can satisfy another woman like a man can. If that is the case, do it yourself.The only thing they can do with each other is rub uglys.You might as well do it yourself. Not only will you get your nut, but you'll get to keep your dignaty.That's for both sexes. So for me, not hot. I would'nt mind watching another couple, but not my man.

[Jeok]

Bravo JTcamp05 and all those other "Real Open-minded Swingers." To all the Vanilla Wannabee Play-Actor Swingers lurking here. I'm the surviving widower of a MF swinging couple; trying to re-enter the Lifestyle and find it increasingly VANILLA. We are all old farts; brought up with Victorian ideas who've seemed to have overcome tags. If a guy goes online as Bi, he is ignored or receives unkind replies. I've been told on Chat to quit trying; just go out and hire a woman...get a blowjob. I do not care for impersonal sex. Buying a whore is just not a turn on for me. Nor is getting a blowjob without doing at least a 69. My pleasure derives from giving pleasure to women. But I do love being under a woman when she is enjoying doggy ... licking her clit and labia while he slides in and out and do not mind doing oral on him, when he slips out, then putting him back. I had one couple with whom I did this on a regular basis while at University. I just love an Orgy, where everyone is in a big pile of sweaty extremities, in low light, where no one knows nor cares who is doing what to whom. The sexual energy and tension is too great to care. For all of you quasi-vanilla swingers, who have just begun to experience sexual freedom I really wouldn't want to play with you...Too many rules, Too claustrophobic and just plain full of unresolved Phobias. You guys love just a "blowjob" or love watching your woman go down on another female or guy, call yourselves swingers, and chat online like a bunch frantic adolescents, posting "cock-shots" or pics just of the lady; I believe you are all just a bunch of voyeurs maintaining the seperate standards slowly slipping from the masculine strangle-hold of society. Women have always been more free with one another ... the guys have been the stick-in-the-muds trying to maintain the status quo. I don't want to hire a hooker, nor get a mindless blowjob you all seem to crave more than all other sensations three or more people can enjoy with one another(s). Do you eat her after you've cum inside her...I know many newbies who don't even do that... Surrender Oh, well. Just a veteran swinging opinion of today's groups...Blowing off some steam "As The Old Bull said to the Young Bull: Let's NOT run down and fuck a few ... Let's Walk Down and Fuck Them All!" Jeok

[SueRic]

I suppose I don't really fit into any of the profile descriptors. While I'm listed as straight because I'm not really bi-curious per se, a better description for me might be "bi-accepting". The difference between the two is that although I'm not particularly focused on seeking out another guy, I might say yes if the situation presented itself on its own, at least where oral is concerned.

I think single-word descriptors are useless except as a means of introducing a more detailed statement about the person, which would then render the descriptor entirely unnecessary. Compounding this problem is the fact that our present cultural predicament gives us only three choices: straight, bi, bi-curious. I think 'bi-accepting' would be a good fourth choice. And there could be others: straight until drunk, male with lesbian tendencies, Ford F-150 straight, chintz gay, diesel gay, ashamed fraternity gay, Catholic priest celebate, Islamic stern-fisted will of God straight, and my personal favorite: Costco weekender three glasses of chardonney peroxide blonde bi-curious.

R

[MrConcupiscence]

I like SueRic's "Bi-Accepting" term.

Mr C.

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by Jeok

For all of you quasi-vanilla swingers, who have just begun to experience sexual freedom I really wouldn't want to play with you...Too many rules, Too claustrophobic and just plain full of unresolved Phobias. You guys love just a "blowjob" or love watching your woman go down on another female or guy, call yourselves swingers, and chat online like a bunch frantic adolescents, posting "cock-shots" or pics just of the lady; I believe you are all just a bunch of voyeurs maintaining the seperate standards slowly slipping from the masculine strangle-hold of society.

Sounds like you aren't getting any......and it's getting to ya

Brett

[prettylady]

I am with DBL D here, where I agree with others that if it is what you like then more power to you. I hope you have a wonderful time. I just really can't see nor do I want to see Dog in a sexual situation with another man.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Menage_a_Trois]

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

If I found out that my man was bi, I think,I would probably lose all respect for him.

Well Tia, I would have to say Dito on this part...........

I know for Mrs. Menage and myself we both tease Mr. Menage about using a strap on on him when we think he needs to be punished LOL - BUT in all seriousness - if he was bi or into other men - for us we would loose ALL respect for him as a man. That is just us. Mrs. Menage and I are both Bi and love other woman however, we both strongly agree nothing beats a man in the overall satisfaction department.

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The Other Mrs. Menage

[WesternSwing]

There are several posts here that state in one way or another "I would lose all respect for my man if I found out he was bi."

I ask, "why?" Why would you lose all respect for him?

Mr. WS

[billygoat4u]

We're a both bi cpl...have done the MMF with another bi male. Wife get extremly turned on while watching 2 guys in a 69 ;-)

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

There are several posts here that state in one way or another "I would lose all respect for my man if I found out he was bi."

I ask, "why?" Why would you lose all respect for him?

Mr. WS

Good question, WS. I'd like to hear the answer as well.

-B

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

There are several posts here that state in one way or another "I would lose all respect for my man if I found out he was bi."

I ask, "why?" Why would you lose all respect for him?

Mr. WS

I agree completely. I don't think it is any less natural for a man to be bi-curious than it is for a woman....it is just a prejudice society has placed on it.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Menage_a_Trois

I know for Mrs. Menage and myself we both tease Mr. Menage about using a strap on on him when we think he needs to be punished LOL - BUT in all seriousness - if he was bi or into other men - for us we would loose ALL respect for him as a man.

I would like to ask why you feel this way?
I'm just curious, I don't want you to feel like I am judging you in any way, because you are absolutely entitled to your opinion. I just don't see how it is seen as "natural" for a woman to love making love with men and women, but so un-natural, and "dirty" when a man thinks the same way. Men think about sex what, 10 times more than women??? Do we really think that all that thinking about sex is just about having sex with women? I'm curious about that. Anyways, ya'll all have a great day.

[menher1559]

This all boils down to what i've been saying for years.. If it feels good, do it! I'm a married bisexual married man, and my wife understands my feelings and we both enjoy the scenario with other guys. Now don't get me wrong; I enjoy women much more than I do men, however to be honest, when I can have both, it makes it so much more enjoyable for us.

It would seem to me that if both partners are comfortable exploring this issue, then by all means explore it..But don't keep secrets from your partner. Exploring same gendered sex is still cheating if you are doing it behind your partner's back...Just the way I look at it.

It never ceases to amaze us at the number of guys that will admit to us when they respond to our Swing Lifestyle ad, that they are bi curious...even though they are listed as straight....we've met one or 2..lol...one was genuine. He was a kind and considerate gentleman and we enjoyed his company very much. The other was a complete asshole...and only said he would consider bi, just so he could get at my wife's pussy..didn't take us long to put him out the door.......Now it would have been fine if he hadn't lied to us, but he did and I can't handle a liar.

So there you have it.....talk to your partner and decide together if this is something you want to explore...Try it...you might like it...and if you don't, chalk it up to experience..