Bi guys - hot or not?

[midnight hour]

I have seen it on video, some soft play in my years as a teen...I have had a lot of gay guy friends..so what I was around was totally gay...not bi..it does not have much effect on me either way...I see nothing wrong with it or with someone thinking it is hot, just does not push any buttons with me...
I have *no* desire to see Mr. Midnight with another man..if it did become something he was interested in..and I seriously doubt that my eyes would most certainly cross..but I would not run screaming down the road....

Midnight Hour

[20ishCouple]

hott!!!!

[NWohionewbiecpl]

Put us down for thinking it's Hot,our problem is finding the other bi male,but we our also new,so we're sure we'll come across someone

[popsicle]

My experience started around 13 or so very similar senario.My Bi-ness never re-appeared untill during a very good night of lovemaking I broached the subject with my wife.Looking for telltale signs all I saw was a BIG curiousity,not disgust.Being bi for gals is o.k. why not guys? Now we play with select single bi males,bi or staight couples.Wife really enjoys bi threesums wher everyone shares.

[bbwinpa]

My partner was always asking about my fantasies ... he's big into fulfilling them for me :-))... and one of mine was being with 2 men. Turns out he was bi, but didn't feel comfortable telling me that until I brought up being with 2 guys. Long story short he had been e-mailing another bi guy and we all decided to get together and it was (and is) fantastic. Not only to I get double the attention some of the time, but I get to watch them as well, which I find extremely HOT. Love it!

Of course we were VERY lucky to find the 'right' bi guy who just clicked wonderfully with both of us. I would think that finding a bi guy that clicked with both partners could really be a challenge at times.

[popsicle]

We've been fortunate,one couple and two singles,next all at once.LOL

[montresor]

As a bi guy, I guess I'm prejudiced, but I'd hope swingers would find it hot. Very heartening to see so many interested in mixing it up. On the other hand, to those looking for but not finding a bi guy to join them -- Hey! Hello! We're out here! :rollseyes

[Camila17]

Well, i have been confused myself for the last year... I will make my story short and ill like to get opinions on this. I am in love with my boyfriend. Ga-ga in love. He is amazing in every way. Hes a metrosexual, and i love it. One time while fantasizing online, i mentioned that 2 guys in an oral scene, is sexy. He asked me if that was a fantasy of mine, i said yes. Months later i was out partying with my a guy friend who is gay and we ended up having a 3some. I initiated it. My friend went down on him and i was so excited from seeing that, then he asked me in my ear, what else would you like to see? and i said "would you go down on him as well? and he said, "ok... for you i will". So it happened. They didnt kiss or anal or hugged or anything. Just oral. It was so hot........but after that i kept thinking... is my guy gay deep inside? have he done this before? I asked him, he said it was his 1st time. But i feel it was not. Maybe the fact that he went down on my friend caught me off guard. I thought we would say no, or hesitate. That gave me doubt.
Anyways, we have been together now for a long time, and we never spoke about that night. However, He knows i enjoy the fantasy of 2 guys blowing each other and he knows i enjoy women too. So why i feel safe if i share other women, but so insecure if we bring another guy to the picture? Me enjoying another women doesnt make me gay, so why im scared of him being so? Its not equal. Im i going crazy? I know he enjoyed it and i would really love for us to be open like that and share our fantancies and tendencies TOGETHER... without susprises. I dont judge him, i will accept if that is one of the things he does enjoy but Im so scared that i will open that door and he would like it so much that i would lose him. Or that he will keep in contact with another guy behind my back. I adore him. And we see each other together for a long time. We have talked about couples hiding their true fantasies and that we want to be different and that we want to keep being the type of couple that can share anything even if its "weird" for common society. My question is.... why im i so scared of letting this (2 guys thing) happen again? Im scared of opening that door and end up being left out. But i also want him to be open with himself and open enough with me enough to explore life together , without judgements or without us hiding from each other. I know as a fact, that he didnt ask himself "is my girlfriend gay" after we had our one time FMF. So why im I so scared that he is? Please help me to think straight. I love this man. And our relationship is 100% great. This is my only doubt.

[Mr&MrsSwing]

VERY hot, I have always wanted to see bi males together, or even gay males. My husband, though, is not bi in the least. Well..being that we are pretty young still, I guess I can hope for the best in the future.....a girl can dream can't she?

[bill&sabrina]

Hot

[Bret4u2]

Put me down for hot!
I was introduced to bisex by an older male cousin when in early teens. He was showing me his porn stash and we both got hard. One thing led to another and we started to suck each other. When I came in his mouth, wow. We continued for a couple of years plus I was pleasured a couple of times at a movie theater by several grown men.
Then I discovered women and didnt look back. That is until my wife lost interest in sex a few years ago after a health problem. I had never forgotten my interest but never pursued any mm activity until I discovered porn on the internet. Suddenly my interest in bisex was evident as I read and got off on porn sites and bisexual stories.
This continued until I met several other married guys with similar interest. I rediscovered how much I enjoyed both sucking and being sucked by another guy. I am not interested in anything but oral. I guess my biggest fantasy now is getting into a mmf with a couple where I can enjoy oral sex with both the male and female and where the female is turned on by watching the guys do oral on each other.

[nwpacouple16404]

Me and hubby are both bi, but he won't let me post it all over the internet for some reason. LOL. The hottest thing for me is to see to guys going at it, in every way. I have lots of fantasies about being done by alot of guys, and them going at it all around me as well. Still waiting for a safe situation for this to happen in tho. When I first learned hubby was bi and had had bi sex, I was morbidly facinated, and it took me awhile for it to REALLY start turning me on, but the more I thought about it, the hotter it became. During sex sometimes he will suck on my tongue as if he's going down on a guy, and we both come like crazy. It is hot.

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by Camila17

I asked him, he said it was his 1st time. But i feel it was not. Maybe the fact that he went down on my friend caught me off guard. I thought we would say no, or hesitate. That gave me doubt.

Maybe this is the root of your issue??? If you doubt his sincerity, you will likely feel insecure about it.

I can tell you that N (the Mrs.) had a fantasy about it, and frankly I was curious myself, so I tried it. I just jumped in and gave it my all, which might lead one would think I had tried it before. Although it was my first and last try, I had seen and received enough BJ’s to have the basic idea. So, maybe he is being truthful about never having done it before…at this point, only he knows. If he has a track record of openness and honesty, his willingness and/or enthusiasm probably isn’t the best gauge or his truthfulness.

To the original poster- I’ll ask N to post her opinion on Bi guys.

[JaneAndJohnDoe]

Originally Posted by Camila17

It was so hot........but after that i kept thinking... is my guy gay deep inside? Me enjoying another women doesnt make me gay, so why im scared of him being so? Im so scared that i will open that door and he would like it so much that i would lose him. Or that he will keep in contact with another guy behind my back.

OK, take a deep breath.

Let me ask you a question...

Up until recently, you thought he was entirely heterosexual, right? If so, then why weren't you worried that he would run off with some girl? He likes girls. You know he likes girls. So why wouldn't you be worried that he would leave you for another girl?

When I say it this way, does it make it clearer that trust in your relationship is just as important for bi experiences as it is for hetero ones?

Compare the two situations, and think about how there is no difference whatsoever between him liking girls or him liking guys. Just because he may be attracted to both doesn't mean he wants to cheat on you, leave you, or run away with someone else (male or female)

Since you obviously trust that he's not running off with another woman, why are you worried he might run off with a guy?

Now, having said that, there is a huge difference between being attracted, physically, to someone of the same gender, vs being willing to have a relationship with someone of the same gender. Many people don't get the difference, so I'd like to hep if I can.

When I was a teenager, I thought I was "just curious" about having sex with other girls. In my mind, all we were doing with each other was experimenting, and we certainly weren't lesbians.

Then, in my early 20's, I started to realize I was just as equally attracted to females as I was males, but I still didn't want to believe I was "bisexual", because I could not have imagined actually having a girlfriend, a woman I would want a full time relationship with.

Then, in my early 30's, I met and fell for a woman. We were, in every sense, girlfriends.

So, I had to throw away my silly labels and realize I wasn't just "flexible" about who I could sleep with...I was a full fledged bisexual woman, and I was ok with that.

Then, wonder of wonders, I met and married my soul mate...a man who is also bisexual, so he understands me far better than most people ever could. He's also open to swinging, so our lives could not be more enhanced than they are.

My guess is that both you and your boyfriend are "flexible" bisexuals, meaning...although you will be pleased to play with people of the same gender, neither of you desire a relationship with people of the same gender.

But even if you did...even if you were both full-fledged bisexuals...you are in love with each other. You have chosen to love each other at the exclusion of all others, male or female. If you wouldn't cheat on him with a man, why would you cheat on him with a woman? Similarly, since he chose you, at the exclusion of other women, there is no reason to think he would dismiss you for another man.

He loves you. Don't worry about labels. Enjoy the experiences together, and at the end of the day, know you have a lover who wants to please you so much he's willing to experiment with new situations to see you enjoy yourself.

[NandTfromCA]

Jane and John put it very well- just enjoy the experiences. I've had fantasies off and on that involve guys with each other and found it pretty interesting to actually get to see T suck another man's cock. We communicate about things pretty well (we think) and so I haven't gotten any insecurities about if he might be tempted away by something better.

What I found interesting was that it wasn't the thought of T with another man, more about two men I didn't know and watching them. That we still have yet to explore and figure we have lots of time.

N of NandT