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Bi-Males in Swinging - In the Closet?

For men - Can we enjoy other men?  

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  1. 1. For men - Can we enjoy other men?

    • Yes - I enjoy other men and am pretty open about it
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    • Yes - I enjoy other men but don't want to be seen as gay; I hide it
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    • Maybe - I might enjoy other men in sex; still curious and watch
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    • No - hard dicks only belong in women, but they look nice
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    • No - Men who suck dicks are alway gay and I'm not
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I've been posting a few messages here and joined in the last week or so - I have to tell you I LOVE it here - lot o' nice people and tons of initerest in my favorite subject 'FOOD' (oh, wait this isn't foodnetwork.com is it?...) I mean 'SEX', wonderful, powerful erotic sex!!

 

I have a a few interactions though that seem to indicate that male bi-sex is far from accepted / normal. I see many, many bi-female, but only a few bi-men sharing that they like a nice hard one now and then (or more fequently for some).

 

So I thought I'd offer a poll question and see what reality is out there...

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M/M play does not turn me on in any way. It doesn't for hubby either. But we don't care what other people do. We have no problem with other people & what they do when they play. Neither one of us are homophobic. Just whatever tickles your pickle. (or doesn't! :lol: )

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SteveInAZ,

 

I think this would be a pretty good poll except that I don't know how many people will vote knowing that everyone else can see how they voted. This is one of those subjects that usually requires anonimity to get good results, in my opinion. I think it would have been better as a non public poll. Maybe not though, we'll have to see how it turns out.

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Kat here, now that you mention it I have only met one bi-male swinger in my years out and about, and while my opinion may not count since I'm Bi, David however is straight but not homophobic. Our view is pretty much whoever or whatever floats your boat as long as everyone involved consents.

 

Kat

 

~If I were any more open minded my brains would fall out!~

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I didn't vote... Not enough options...

 

Mine would have been somewhere between the last two choices. I am not bi, but do not have a problem with anyone who is as long as they respect my boundaries (which has never been a problem).

 

I don't think penises are particularly "pretty" but I wouldn't say that men who are bi are sdimply "gay". I have more respect for a person's private choices than that.

 

So - my vote really wouldn't have fit...

 

So - I abstained...

 

And I have a serious case of voter "blue ball"...

 

I need a cold shower...

 

Spoomonkey

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Hi everyone,

 

Nice to see so many who are open to whatever people are into. I think the key here and in all of swinging is to communicate. If everyone is in to it, then go for it. If not make changes, but don't quit the pursuit of fun.

 

I voted yes, but the reality is:

 

My wife is into male/male action. It makes her VERY hot ::P: I am happy to oblige her if it makes everyone hot and isn't a problem for others. So I guess I just don't have as many boundaries. I really try to please in our playing.

 

If our partners are not into it, then it doesn't happen regardless of whether my wife wants it.

 

S

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Am I the only female that is aroused by MM play? :D

 

I don't think full penetration would do much for me, but MM touching and oral is very arousing to me! It's one of those deep dark fantasies that I have that only my DH knows about LOL

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Am I the only female that is aroused by MM play? :D

 

 

 

I (Mrs. JC) am very aroused by M/M play. Of course, so is Mr. JC. LOL

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rjrjr you are most definetly not alone, the few times I have gotten to watch M/M interaction (obviously not Dave) I was so worked up I thought my filling were going to melt out of my teeth. LOL

 

Kat

~Gotta love having gay male friends~

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Haven't seen much M/M interaction with the exception of movies, but it really turns me on. My hubby is straight, but he doesn't have a problem with M/M sex as long as it doesn't involve him.

 

It's interesting to me that so many men and women are into F/F sex or FMF sex, but not as many who are into the M/M or MFM thing where the men interact. Not a criticism, just my observation.

 

Oh well, YES to the M/M thing.

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The MM bit does nothing for either of us, just as FF does nothing for Red (though it looks pretty hot to me when others are at it!). Hard to avoid touching in a pile of bodies and that doesn't bother either of us, but that's as far as it goes.

 

CB

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OK, display of ignornace here! What is a DH? The first thing that comes to mind is a designated hitted, but that can't be it! :lol: (That comes from playing sports!) Everytime I read a post where that is, that is what I think of. I am tired of thiking that b/c it doesn't seem right! :lol: So, someone tell me what it means! Thanks!

 

P.S. Don't laugh too hard!

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Mine would have been somewhere between the last two choices. I am not bi, but do not have a problem with anyone who is as long as they respect my boundaries (which has never been a problem).
Dito

 

(DH = devoted husband ... I think)

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I'd have answered with the second option, except the description doesn't quite fit. I'm not afraid that people would think I'm gay (I like women far too much for that! :lol: ), but I know what a touchy subject M/M sex can be in this community, so I don't like to make a big deal out of it. I do realize for it to become acceptable (and it never will be for some) it has to be brought out in the open, but I'm still pretty new in exploring that area of myself. Maybe after I'm a little further along that journey of discovery, I'll be more open about it, I don't know.

 

I would never initiate any sexual contact with a man who had not previously expressed interest in that, and given the stigma attached to male bisexuality, I don't think I'd put it in an ad, if we had one. It's not something that is necessary by any means and I'd be afraid it would scare off a lot of people that we'd have fun being with. I don't really like blaming people for being that way; there is an enormous amount of cultural coercion that is put upon men from the time they are little boys. It's hard to overcome that, so I understand why some people are very uncomfortable with it.

 

-B

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Or, Damn Husband, depending on what he's done...

 

My wife calls me 'hamster'. I'm not fat and hairy so I'm hoping it's because I'm cute and lovable. When she says "DH" in online forums she means "Damn Hamster".

 

She says that as much as she likes women, she sees them as foreplay. She sometimes talks about wanting to have a one-on-one with a girl without any guys around but even if she can get that set up she wants me to show up at the end or else to her it's just not even really sex. I'm the same way with guys. I would never play with a guy alone, one-on-one. Just not really interested. I would do pretty much anything a guy wanted to do with me including penetration in either direction if my wife was around and was enjoying it, or my wife and his woman also. Him all by himself and I'm just not all that into it.

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I would never play with a guy alone, one-on-one. Just not really interested. I would do pretty much anything a guy wanted to do with me including penetration in either direction if my wife was around and was enjoying it, or my wife and his woman also. Him all by himself and I'm just not all that into it.

Ditto

Did it once during a MFM with a tranny that we met at "BackStreets" (BTW the city closed them down). And oral only during the last MFM with a good friend of mine. It was unexpected and in the heat of the moment. Even though he and I have hung out since neither of us has mentioned it again.

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I've thought about it before but only if a female were around also......and only oral......never have been interested/curious about penetration

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I'm not sure that men who suck dicks, touch dicks with another man, or even take one in the ass during group sex or swinging encounters is necessarily bi--much less gay. I don't have any desire to meet a man for a one-on-one session; but in group sex or swinging evenings, anything goes. I feel pretty strongly that what we are on Monday morning is way different from what we do on Friday or Saturday night. Why not forget the insecurities and limits, and just have the most compete sexual experience you can have?

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I'm surprised that no one has raised the flag about titles....gay, bi, lez, straight, curious. What we like to call ourselves is "sensual". Sex is sex and pleasure is pleasure. Like dormi said, just let yourself have the most complete experience that you (and your mate, I add) can have.

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just let yourself have the most complete experience that you (and your mate, I add) can have.

 

The sexual experiences that I have - without any shades of bi-sexuality - is pretty dog gone complete. Any sort of MM play would really ruin the experience for me... Playing as a strictly heterosexual male is not incomplete - but playing across those lines would be uncomfortable, unpallatable and completely "un-fun".

 

There is nothing wrong with being straight...

 

There really isn't...

 

Lots of us do it all the time and like it just fine...

 

Spoomonkey

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Please take no offense at what I said, Spoo. Implicit in the comment. "and your mate" wad that it had to be comfortable for all parties. The "complee" I talk about is that if you do have curiosity or desires and it is ok with everybody, then don't hold back and don't have guilt. I did not mean that you are not complete if you are not bi.

 

Mea Culpa.

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