Bi-Males in Swinging - In the Closet?

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by Brit_Pair

Dito

(DH = devoted husband ... I think)

Or, Damn Husband, depending on what he's done...

-B

[BradAndJanet]

I'd have answered with the second option, except the description doesn't quite fit. I'm not afraid that people would think I'm gay (I like women far too much for that! ), but I know what a touchy subject M/M sex can be in this community, so I don't like to make a big deal out of it. I do realize for it to become acceptable (and it never will be for some) it has to be brought out in the open, but I'm still pretty new in exploring that area of myself. Maybe after I'm a little further along that journey of discovery, I'll be more open about it, I don't know.

I would never initiate any sexual contact with a man who had not previously expressed interest in that, and given the stigma attached to male bisexuality, I don't think I'd put it in an ad, if we had one. It's not something that is necessary by any means and I'd be afraid it would scare off a lot of people that we'd have fun being with. I don't really like blaming people for being that way; there is an enormous amount of cultural coercion that is put upon men from the time they are little boys. It's hard to overcome that, so I understand why some people are very uncomfortable with it.

-B

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Or, Damn Husband, depending on what he's done...

My wife calls me 'hamster'. I'm not fat and hairy so I'm hoping it's because I'm cute and lovable. When she says "DH" in online forums she means "Damn Hamster".

She says that as much as she likes women, she sees them as foreplay. She sometimes talks about wanting to have a one-on-one with a girl without any guys around but even if she can get that set up she wants me to show up at the end or else to her it's just not even really sex. I'm the same way with guys. I would never play with a guy alone, one-on-one. Just not really interested. I would do pretty much anything a guy wanted to do with me including penetration in either direction if my wife was around and was enjoying it, or my wife and his woman also. Him all by himself and I'm just not all that into it.

[xxoticangel]

I would never play with a guy alone, one-on-one. Just not really interested. I would do pretty much anything a guy wanted to do with me including penetration in either direction if my wife was around and was enjoying it, or my wife and his woman also. Him all by himself and I'm just not all that into it.

Ditto
Did it once during a MFM with a tranny that we met at "BackStreets" (BTW the city closed them down). And oral only during the last MFM with a good friend of mine. It was unexpected and in the heat of the moment. Even though he and I have hung out since neither of us has mentioned it again.

[gsu22]

I've thought about it before but only if a female were around also......and only oral......never have been interested/curious about penetration

[dormi]

I'm not sure that men who suck dicks, touch dicks with another man, or even take one in the ass during group sex or swinging encounters is necessarily bi--much less gay. I don't have any desire to meet a man for a one-on-one session; but in group sex or swinging evenings, anything goes. I feel pretty strongly that what we are on Monday morning is way different from what we do on Friday or Saturday night. Why not forget the insecurities and limits, and just have the most compete sexual experience you can have?

[NakedInSeattle]

I'm surprised that no one has raised the flag about titles....gay, bi, lez, straight, curious. What we like to call ourselves is "sensual". Sex is sex and pleasure is pleasure. Like dormi said, just let yourself have the most complete experience that you (and your mate, I add) can have.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by NakedInSeattle

just let yourself have the most complete experience that you (and your mate, I add) can have.

The sexual experiences that I have - without any shades of bi-sexuality - is pretty dog gone complete. Any sort of MM play would really ruin the experience for me... Playing as a strictly heterosexual male is not incomplete - but playing across those lines would be uncomfortable, unpallatable and completely "un-fun".

There is nothing wrong with being straight...

There really isn't...

Lots of us do it all the time and like it just fine...

Spoomonkey

[NakedInSeattle]

Please take no offense at what I said, Spoo. Implicit in the comment. "and your mate" wad that it had to be comfortable for all parties. The "complee" I talk about is that if you do have curiosity or desires and it is ok with everybody, then don't hold back and don't have guilt. I did not mean that you are not complete if you are not bi.

Mea Culpa.